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To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:26

My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

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PirateQueeny · 19/11/2023 13:00

Has he actually won though?

TheresaCrowd · 19/11/2023 13:00

IWFH · 19/11/2023 12:58

If it's a really big win you could make a few bob (and really piss him off) by selling the story to the press.

It'd be a pretty bloody bland story 😂

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 13:00

Yes I do play the lottery. I never win!

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plumtreebroke · 19/11/2023 12:59

Just for fun. Message back and say how nice it is for him to think of you to share in his good fortune and how much of the money he is going to give you. (For why else could he be contacting you after all this time.)

YourNameGoesHere · 19/11/2023 12:59

LoopyLooooo · 19/11/2023 12:57

Playing the lottery is gambling and depending on how often he plays it, a few wins isn't too unbelievable.

My neighbour's in our local newsagent every Thursday, and you don't want to get stuck in the queue behind her when she's choosing about £50 worth of scratch cards.

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Well yes it's obviously gambling but I thought it was clear I meant like in a casino or something. Statically he's very very unlikely to have won such high amounts on the lottery multiple times no matter how many tickets he's brought but gambling in the casino etc would be more realistic in getting a higher return.

ProvisionsOnTheDock · 19/11/2023 12:59

I'm glad it's not just me who thinks he's a lying toerag!

Xmaspenguin · 19/11/2023 12:58

Itsbritneybitch22 · 19/11/2023 12:54

Maybe he wants to get back with you and thinks the money might make you come back?

I was wondering this after seeing the update. He's just trying to mess with your head. Block and ignore.

IWFH · 19/11/2023 12:58

If it's a really big win you could make a few bob (and really piss him off) by selling the story to the press.

LoopyLooooo · 19/11/2023 12:57

YourNameGoesHere · 19/11/2023 12:53

This ^^

It certainly sounds unbelievable. Are you sure the money is actually coming from lottery wins it sounds like he's a gambler or doing something dodgy.

Winning the lottery that frequently is very hard to believe.

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Playing the lottery is gambling and depending on how often he plays it, a few wins isn't too unbelievable.

My neighbour's in our local newsagent every Thursday, and you don't want to get stuck in the queue behind her when she's choosing about £50 worth of scratch cards.

OhNoForever · 19/11/2023 12:57

This happened to me! A few million. Hadnt heard from him in like 2 years either.

Thing is, he was always a shit with money, and a prick. He's still be shit with money and now he's be a cocky prick too. I was gutted tho! Not enough to take him back tho 😂

RedHelenB · 19/11/2023 12:56

SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:44

I do think that given his enjoyment of eating and drinking with his friends, that he'll squander it on drinking on seaside trips.

That money would massively change my life. It's so unfair that he's got it and not me. I dream of a life away from here!

Did you enter the lottery?

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:56

@Deathbyfluffy I am bitter and have said so in a PP!

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betterangels · 19/11/2023 12:56

YABU letting it get to you. If you want to change your life (and is doing well so have options) then make plans.

Itsbritneybitch22 · 19/11/2023 12:55

Or is he just lying.

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:55

Thank you everyone for being so lovely.

He definitely did win the smaller amounts when we were together. I don't know whether he'd make this one up but it did cross my mind.

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NewPinkJacket · 19/11/2023 12:54

Deathbyfluffy · 19/11/2023 12:52

Why is that unfair? To some people your idea of how to spend would be silly, just as you feel his is.

You just sound unreasonable and bitter.
People win stuff, you chose not to re-visit the relationship and this is a consequence of that.

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Avril Lavigne's Sk8er Boi comes to mind 😊

Itsbritneybitch22 · 19/11/2023 12:54

Maybe he wants to get back with you and thinks the money might make you come back?

YourNameGoesHere · 19/11/2023 12:53

lap90 · 19/11/2023 12:34

What are the chances one has multiple wins of a few hundred, a few thousand and now a life changing sum? Just block.

This ^^

It certainly sounds unbelievable. Are you sure the money is actually coming from lottery wins it sounds like he's a gambler or doing something dodgy.

Winning the lottery that frequently is very hard to believe.

Riverlee · 19/11/2023 12:53

We all dream of what we’d do if we win the lottery.

Hes bragging, but it’s his money not yours.

CruCru · 19/11/2023 12:53

I’m quite old but I’m rather flabbergasted at the rudeness of blocking an ex then unblocking them to tell them about his good news. It’s incredibly rude - if he blocked you then that should be it.

LoopyLooooo · 19/11/2023 12:52

MikeRafone · 19/11/2023 12:49

Then reassess you life - take this as a sign and do something positive about your own life. You can make changes if You want to - only thing holding you back is you

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oh and by the way

he lost big style when he lost you....

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I'd take a lottery win over losing my ex any day! 😏😁

Deathbyfluffy · 19/11/2023 12:52

SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:44

I do think that given his enjoyment of eating and drinking with his friends, that he'll squander it on drinking on seaside trips.

That money would massively change my life. It's so unfair that he's got it and not me. I dream of a life away from here!

Why is that unfair? To some people your idea of how to spend would be silly, just as you feel his is.

You just sound unreasonable and bitter.
People win stuff, you chose not to re-visit the relationship and this is a consequence of that.

CrabbiesGingerBeer · 19/11/2023 12:52

I’d send a cheerful ‘congratulations, so glad for you’ then block. Make him think he hasn’t got to you (even if he has) and spoil his fun.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 19/11/2023 12:52

Bollocks is he winning the lottery multiple times. He's using that as a cover for how he's actually got money to spend (credit, probably, if not other types of gambling or crime).

Unblocking you to tell you that is more likely he's 'won the lottery' in he's got some girlfriend to feed, clothe and house him and she's been making annoying noises about him paying his way for a change/where exactly did he get all the money from he claimed he had before he moved in - so he's also scoping out the possibilities for somebody who still believes his stories if she doesn't fall for his usual lies.

Siha345 · 19/11/2023 12:51

SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:44

I do think that given his enjoyment of eating and drinking with his friends, that he'll squander it on drinking on seaside trips.

That money would massively change my life. It's so unfair that he's got it and not me. I dream of a life away from here!

Maybe you won’t be rich like him but you can be happy, healthy, have good relationships and work towards your goals. That’s what matters in life

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