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To feel like this about ex's lottery win?

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 12:26

My ex has always been lucky with wins on the lottery. A few hundred here, a thousand there.

I have been blocked for a long time but a few days back he unblocked me, we've exchanged pleasantries and he told me he's won the lottery. We're talking a life changing amount here. He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle. I have asked why he unblocked me to get back in contact and he avoids the question entirely. The thing is, I feel utterly bitter about his win. The things I could only dream about with that amount!

AIBU to feel this way and how do I get over it?

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MariaLuna · 19/11/2023 16:05

You have kids together? May have missed that.

Not the kind of man I need. Arrogant fucker.

Davros · 19/11/2023 16:01

To win as much and as often as he did before the so-called "big one", he must be buying a lot of tickets. So he would have also squandered a fair few pennies up to now

ThanksItHasPockets · 19/11/2023 16:00

The kind of person who unblocks their ex to rub in a major win is, I suspect, also the kind of person that you read about whose life falls apart after a big lottery win. It won’t make him happier and it won’t make him a good person. Block him and don’t give him another thought.

DrMarshaFieldstone · 19/11/2023 15:59

He unblocked you to gloat. Block him and don’t give him another thought. Life-changing wins are a poisoned chalice.

dontgobaconmyheart · 19/11/2023 15:54

Is he even telling the truth? It all sounds a bit tragic (on his part) OP - you and he aren't anything to one another so I'd try to view it the same as any of the other many people that win money on the lottery or get it by any other means every day/week/month. Even if you were still together - which sounds like would be a punishment in itself, it also sounds like you'd not see a penny of it whether you were affiliated with him or not so what's the difference either way?

I'd just have ignored him entirely or would have messaged something like "Clearly hasn't made you any happier, has it, if you're messaging me - best of luck!" - and block.

Katbum · 19/11/2023 15:54

Block him. It’s irrelevant to your life. It’s someone who you were once connected to…this really changes nothing and is not worth brooding on. You don’t even know if it’s true.

ginasevern · 19/11/2023 15:50

I'd be properly bitter too OP. You gave him ten years of your life. Although if you weren't married you wouldn't have shared his wealth anyway, unless he chose to be generous.

Pinkyhere · 19/11/2023 15:48

I reckon it's a lie. Wish him well and block.

WidowedMum · 19/11/2023 15:45

You know what would be more of a shame than blocking him? If you accidentally told everyone he won if he’s opted to stay anonymous, the begging letters alone would drive him mad 😏

Thelnebriati · 19/11/2023 15:44

His life is so empty that even though he won the lottery, the thing that made him happy is letting you know. Winning wasn't enough for him.
He's toxic and bitter. Mute him and walk away.

RudsyFarmer · 19/11/2023 15:43

money has a tendency to flow towards those who don’t need it. I’ve no idea why. The more you crave it the further it goes in the opposite direction.

ConsuelaHammock · 19/11/2023 15:37

Message him back “Congratulations! Couldn’t happen to a nicer bloke! “ and hope he understands the irony.
It’s ok to be jealous especially as you were together for so long. He was an arse without money so now he’ll just be another arse with money.

WakingCliche · 19/11/2023 15:34

My ex had a big win, enough to buy a very large house outright so not anywhere near as much as your ex. My Mum said bet you wish you were still with him and I replied no because he is still a wanker regardless.

SaffronSpice · 19/11/2023 15:30

He can give up work and live off this money with lots to spare for a very luxury lifestyle.

Would have to be euromillions. A couple of million doesn’t enable you to live a very luxury lifestyle for long these days.

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 15:25

When he used to win he didn't give me a penny. We paid half each to the bills despite me earning around £12,000 at the time and him earning around £30,000. He won so regularly too.

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funinthesun19 · 19/11/2023 15:24

BenZodiazapam · 19/11/2023 15:19

I wouldn’t block him because that’s a sign that you’re bothered about him. I’d just mute him and that way he’ll just think you can’t be arsed to read and respond.

This 100%. It will bother him that you’re not giving him a reaction, and blocking is a reaction imo.

Hillcrest2022 · 19/11/2023 15:24

Walter Mitty springs to mind...

funinthesun19 · 19/11/2023 15:22

Even if you was still with him, you wouldn’t have a dream life now he has some money. In fact now he has the money, he’s probably even more of a prick now than he was before. No money is worth being with a man like that. He’s an ex for a reason, and money doesn’t change that fact.

He contacted you because he wants to gloat. Just shows you’re well rid.

Libertass · 19/11/2023 15:20

Gloating to your ex about your good luck is unpleasant behaviour. Bitterness & envy about your ex’s good luck is equally unpleasant. It sounds like you & him are well matched.

BenZodiazapam · 19/11/2023 15:19

I wouldn’t block him because that’s a sign that you’re bothered about him. I’d just mute him and that way he’ll just think you can’t be arsed to read and respond.

Bostonbakedbeans · 19/11/2023 15:19

He only unblocked you to tell you and wind you up. Go live your best life with the confirmation that he's a dick!

wowsers6 · 19/11/2023 15:17

Give him something inexplicable in response like "lol" and have him be the one wondering why you said that and writing forum posts wondering what it means.

What a cf.

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SpeedbirdSquawker · 19/11/2023 15:14

Some of these answers have made me laugh, so thank you!

I really think he unblocked me to brag about being away somewhere nice and also about the lottery win.

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Emotionalsupportviper · 19/11/2023 15:04

Justleaveitblankthen · 19/11/2023 14:57

Ooooh yes! I would definitely do this.
Have often hoped one of the many Knobheads I have known would get famous, just so I could do this!
The Sun are always after a story 🤑
Obviously, sell to The Star if you are a Scouser though 😇

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And if It turns out he's lying, they still have a story.

(Headline). "SAD LOSER TRIES TO MAKE EX BITTER BY PRETENDING HE'S WON THE LOTTERY"

"I don't know why he's still so obsessed with me" says ex-wife, Squawker (35) of Anytown, Someplace. "I wish he could just move on and get himself a life. He'd be so much happier if he could let go of the past."

Bonbon21 · 19/11/2023 15:01

He is an ex for a reason and all the money in the world would not make up for that!