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To disagree with Children in need

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BrokenBrit · 17/11/2023 22:02

Perhaps I should preface this and say I do give to charity and I recognise we don’t live in a fair and decent society where services are properly funded.

However, I think it’s pretty shameful having children plastered all over the tv revealing their private medical diagnosis so as to get some money for essential funding.

I also hate the narrative of disabled people needing pity and charity with the sad music and dimmed lights (I’ve not watched it this year but that has been previous years experience!). Either that or as some sort of inspiration! I just hate this narrative!

Then there are the jolly celebs making themselves feels good singing a song and raising a few £ when what really needs is change to policy and practice, a properly funded NHS, proper provision for children with SEND and much, much more. But let’s donate a quid and feel good about ourselves hey.

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Maddy70 · 17/11/2023 23:23

Totally agree with you. Britain is supposed to look after the vulnerable. Sadky years of tory rule means this isn't happening. But it should

Stuckinarut23 · 17/11/2023 23:21

I'd pay not to watch that rubbish. Alot of the sketches make me cringe 😬

heartsinvisiblefury · 17/11/2023 23:17

Agree OP

selfselfiequeen · 17/11/2023 23:15

If the lesser known celebs aren't paid, I think it's telling that higher profile celebrities won't appear without a fee. So good on last nights bunch.... but it still was 💩

Tiredalwaystired · 17/11/2023 23:14

Inthebleakmidwinter2 · 17/11/2023 22:54

What annoys me is celebrities with loads of money preaching at people with much less. I send a donation into my child's school but never watch it on the telly.

I don’t think this is fair. Take Vernon Kaye. He could just give a million quid. But his awareness raising has directly raised four times that and indirectly probably a lot more. Or for all you actually know he might be doing both. He certainly put the volunteer hours in.

Plus it’s not only the poverty stricken watching. Plenty of others with cash could be inspired to give too.

Girliefriendlikespuppies · 17/11/2023 23:10

I get very cross about rich people telling me to donate money, do they not realise that they're part of the inequality?

I also agree it's wrong to be giving out confidential and private information regarding children's medical diagnoses.

Womencanlift · 17/11/2023 23:03

RoseBucket · 17/11/2023 23:00

Are they paid?

Nope. One year Terry Wogan did as part of his regular contract with the BBC and it caused an outcry. He donated the money and since then, even if the presenter is under contract it is very clear they don’t get paid. Same as the guests

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WhyMeWhyNowWhyNot · 17/11/2023 23:00

A vanishingly small number of people are prepared to pay higher taxes (look at the constant whining on here about IHT and having to pay for your own social care in old age if you have a house to sell) so without charity who exactly do u think will support the vulnerable in society? I guarantee you it won’t be the average voter who, at election time, doesn’t give them a second thought 🙄.

RoseBucket · 17/11/2023 23:00

Are they paid?

Bryonny84 · 17/11/2023 22:57

I went out to the pub as I hate Children in Need. I do however give to children's charities of my choice.

selfselfiequeen · 17/11/2023 22:55

Samcro · 17/11/2023 22:46

I watch a bit. But fast forward all the tragedies.
im not a fan of all the grinning celebrities, who are paid, or using other people’s heartbreak to get on tv. I’m the same about that awful thing davina presents

Totally agree, it's a bit cheeky of them standing there asking people to donate when they are getting paid for a few hours 'charity work'

Inthebleakmidwinter2 · 17/11/2023 22:54

What annoys me is celebrities with loads of money preaching at people with much less. I send a donation into my child's school but never watch it on the telly.

elliejjtiny · 17/11/2023 22:50

I'm on the fence. My dc have benefited hugely from children in need. They can't access mainstream activities such as scouts, ballet lessons etc and CIN subsidies their sn sports club and allows them to have enough adults supporting them. My dc love the awareness side of things. Dc1 once said that it's the one day in the year that people notice the challenges that children like him are coping with every day.

On the other hand, some of the charities that CIN help shouldn't need to exist, the gov should be funding it. I know so many parents who have to fundraise to get appropriate wheelchairs, physiotherapy and specialist equipment for their disabled children. And also parents who have had to fight in court to get their children into the schools they need. It isn't right.

Samcro · 17/11/2023 22:46

I watch a bit. But fast forward all the tragedies.
im not a fan of all the grinning celebrities, who are paid, or using other people’s heartbreak to get on tv. I’m the same about that awful thing davina presents

RoseBucket · 17/11/2023 22:45

Sadly charities prop up the needs of many without them so many would suffer.

When will BBC learn though with having sex pest Manford as a presenter.

Womencanlift · 17/11/2023 22:45

I spent many years volunteering for taking calls on the night and it was always brilliant fun. Even met “Pudsey” aka my boss who got sent a costume from the BBC

As a result some of our colleagues got to visit a local centre who were funded by CIN and some of the stories they came back with was heartwarming. They wouldn’t be able to provide that support without charity (also funded by the national lottery that funnily enough doesn’t get the same comments as CIN, I wonder why!)

TitsInAbsentia · 17/11/2023 22:45

I wonder if the charity fatigue has been acknowledged. It all finishes around 10pm tonight whereas I remember they used to go through the night!

penjil · 17/11/2023 22:44

It's better than Comic Relief, but only marginally. Both are awful and outdated.

The general public have got charity fatigue too.

Diamondshmiamond · 17/11/2023 22:42

I support charities in principle, but do wonder how much scrutiny goes into who the money is handed out to. Eg. small charities providing mental health support to schools/ kids etc, but not providing evidence based therapy/ no proper research on outcomes or value for money etc.

maddiemookins16mum · 17/11/2023 22:39

Can’t bear it. I never donate to it. As for the gushing over Vernon K all week, awful, Zoe Ball has been particularly sickening.

ScremeEggs · 17/11/2023 22:34

@DGPP

I agree with you that it’s the job of the Government to properly fund loads of things, including hospices, charity centres and counselling for bereaved children. But they don’t. So if Vernon can raise well over £4 million doing some walking, good on him. That’s going to make a huge difference to some of these charities, especially the smaller ones

Agree with this.

Anonymouseposter · 17/11/2023 22:33

I don’t like the children’s privacy being compromised before they are old enough to give informed consent.

Sunandnomoon · 17/11/2023 22:32

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jemenfous37 · 17/11/2023 22:31

Being 'properly funded' means a massive rise in taxes to cover costs. Are people willing to pay?
The reality is, it would be almost impossible to fund every charity, socisl service, hours of free childcare, and so on.
Not saying this is right, just reality

Mischance · 17/11/2023 22:30

With you all the way OP. I never watch it. It is a disgrace that our welfare state cannot provide for these children and I hate seeing them paraded about at this brash pity party.

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