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Boswelian · 17/11/2023 19:55

We sent our eldest to a taster day at a private school. He was agog. His school don't allow playing on the grass when it's wet. The private school change them into waterproofs and wellies for break. PE 3x a week. Sport every day. Dedicated specialist teaching in art, DT, languages, sciences etc. 16 in a class instead of 30. The difference in the quality of life between the two school has really blown my mind. The state school is "outstanding". The private school reckon DS is 2 years behind their curriculum. We've been told in state that he's meeting expectations. How is this remotely acceptable?

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JustWingItLifeEyelinerEverything · 17/05/2024 09:59

Teentaxidriver · 17/05/2024 09:55

Ah, but grammar schools are not fair so Labour abolished them. Ideology before all else. Before the abolition, our education system was world leading - British children leaving grammar school were educated to an American university standard. I wonder if we’ll look back to the imposition of VAT on private schools (the first, I suspect, of a number of measures designed to throttle the private sector) and observe how destructive it was?

And grammars often are running purely on the legend and the past glory. Many grammars have had been downgraded from Oustanding to Good because the teaching is not Outstanding. There were instances of few that were closed because of poor management. There is one that was closed and converted to comprehensive because of bullying kids, and racial abuse.

Teentaxidriver · 17/05/2024 09:55

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:26

@Papyrophile

‘social mobility plummeted when the universal 11+ was abolished’

Absolutely.

Ah, but grammar schools are not fair so Labour abolished them. Ideology before all else. Before the abolition, our education system was world leading - British children leaving grammar school were educated to an American university standard. I wonder if we’ll look back to the imposition of VAT on private schools (the first, I suspect, of a number of measures designed to throttle the private sector) and observe how destructive it was?

SabrinaThwaite · 17/05/2024 09:51

Papyrophile · 17/05/2024 00:05

No, social mobility plummeted when the universal 11+ was abolished. When I took it, in 1967, it was with my whole class from a very ordinary working class county primary school in rural west Cornwall. Three papers, English, Arithmetic and a reasoning paper. If you scored high, you went to Grammar School until you were 15. And then, most got an office job. If you didn't, you worked in the quarry or on a farm or for your family, because there were few alternatives. Military service perhaps. A handful, about 5%, went to university.

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This is irony, right?

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:46

@JustWingItLifeEyelinerEverything

‘A lot depends on WHICH private and which state school’

On that I agree, darling.

JustWingItLifeEyelinerEverything · 17/05/2024 09:42

Boswelian · 17/11/2023 19:55

We sent our eldest to a taster day at a private school. He was agog. His school don't allow playing on the grass when it's wet. The private school change them into waterproofs and wellies for break. PE 3x a week. Sport every day. Dedicated specialist teaching in art, DT, languages, sciences etc. 16 in a class instead of 30. The difference in the quality of life between the two school has really blown my mind. The state school is "outstanding". The private school reckon DS is 2 years behind their curriculum. We've been told in state that he's meeting expectations. How is this remotely acceptable?

Darling, Private schools are a BUSINESS. Among us, marketeers is a specialism : marketing in education.
Private schools always say that the child is two hears behind because they hope you will enroll. Apart from superselective private schools they are all struggling to get the clients.
If your child is ultra sporty then yes, maybe it makes sense. But I would dismiss things as changing to wellies as things of not a significant importance.

Private schools have also disavantages. They cannot afford losing clients, therefore many behavioral issues are swept under the carpet and trust me, children are bullied not only in state schools. There is favouritism.Children of wealthy donors, who pay far more than tution fees are treated in a superb way at a disadvantage of other kids.
Also, as you have all sorts of parent background in state schools, you also have the same at private. Yes, you can have a child of Russian mafia mobs too. There is a lot of issues why private are worse than state schools and vice versa.

A lot depends on WHICH private and which state school.

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 09:40

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 09:34

There’s some nonsense written on this thread.

People are too passive these days and too keen to blame the system for their own shortcomings. Even if it is true it’s a pretty counterproductive way to behave.

Personal responsibility and drive are key. Everyone I know who has that does well. Those that don’t generally do much worse.

The insidious move towards almost celebration of victim culture is one of the most damaging trends in current society.

There was a thread on here a few days ago saying pretty much the sane thing ie people look to the state to solve all of their issues rather than look to how they can improve their own situation.
Of course there are always people who need additional state support but ultimately shouldn't we be responsible for our own lives?
The whole VAT thing is a distraction from the wider issues in the education system. Labour bank on the electorate for not digging into details and just accepting the soundbite. They don't care about education any more than the Tories, they just pretend that they do. I don't support Tories but sure as hell I don't trust Labour either. Considering 19% of Labour MPs were privately educated I think they are hypocrites.

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 09:34

There’s some nonsense written on this thread.

People are too passive these days and too keen to blame the system for their own shortcomings. Even if it is true it’s a pretty counterproductive way to behave.

Personal responsibility and drive are key. Everyone I know who has that does well. Those that don’t generally do much worse.

The insidious move towards almost celebration of victim culture is one of the most damaging trends in current society.

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:30

PrincessTeaSet · 17/05/2024 07:30

I think the grammar school system could be really good if the non grammar schools had more money, more facilities etc. It could be a chance to genuinely train young people in non academic subjects according to their interests and according to the skills shortages in this country. The problem is that non academic achievements are not valued in our education system. Meanwhile in the real world you can't get a tradesman for months and those kind of jobs are well paid and well respected.

Yes!!

IMustDoMoreExercise · 17/05/2024 09:28

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:26

@Papyrophile

‘social mobility plummeted when the universal 11+ was abolished’

Absolutely.

Yes it did.

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:26

@Papyrophile

‘social mobility plummeted when the universal 11+ was abolished’

Absolutely.

opticalconclusion · 17/05/2024 09:24

CurlewKate · 17/05/2024 04:28

@opticalconclusion "His family is a story of people who have worked hard to achieve. People Labour can’t bear."

What, people like Wes Streeting, Angela Rayner, Keir Starmer.....

Starmer 🤷‍♀️He went to an excellent school and was intelligent, with supportive family.
Streeting - don’t know much about him
Rayner - totally agree, so impressed with what she has achieved.

Nonetheless - Labour do not encourage people to succeed. Having AR in their party doesn’t change that.

IMustDoMoreExercise · 17/05/2024 09:15

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:00

Labour were the ones who introduced tuition fees and scrapped maintenance grants. So don't tell me that they are all about supporting education.

Exactly. Instead of encouraging apprenticeships (with Tony Blairs son did and made millions) they encouraged everyone to go to university and so had to stop free tution and grants.

We have spent tens of billions on 3rd rate universities which should be shut down. Hopefully they go bankrupt now that the flood of overseas students has been stopped.

CurlewKate · 17/05/2024 09:15

@MikeRafone "It came down to attitude not resources"

Love me a 25 year old anecdote.

MikeRafone · 17/05/2024 08:56

25 years ago at the local junior private school the had volunteers every day to do 1:1 reading with the children in turn, every single day. At the junior state school they said they didn't need volunteers every day and one day a week was adequate.

It came down to attitude not resources

ForlornLindtBear · 17/05/2024 08:55

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:53

Why? Have you?

Yes I have but I am fine with their education policies. Your turn?

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:53

ForlornLindtBear · 17/05/2024 08:51

Have you voted Labour before knowing all this?

Why? Have you?

HumourM3 · 17/05/2024 08:52

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 08:22

Did you or your DC pay tuition fees?

Yes

ForlornLindtBear · 17/05/2024 08:51

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:00

Labour were the ones who introduced tuition fees and scrapped maintenance grants. So don't tell me that they are all about supporting education.

Have you voted Labour before knowing all this?

Teentaxidriver · 17/05/2024 08:31

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 07:33

Privilege also includes having enough money to move house to the catchment of a good school, being able to afford tutors to get your DC into a grammar. Yet no vitriol against these parents!
You will never get a level playing field whilst some people earn 100K+ and others earn 20K. People will always do the best for their own DC, whether that is giving them a deposit for their first house or paying for education.
If you think social democracy works then I suggest you speak to several friends of mine from Soviet states where the bulk of the wealth is shared amongst the elite and the rest of the population scrabble around for what's left.

This is very true.

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 08:22

HumourM3 · 17/05/2024 08:12

Tuition fees were needed.

Did you or your DC pay tuition fees?

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 08:22

HumourM3 · 17/05/2024 08:13

Whatever🙄

A well considered response. You could have saved a few characters and just written “yes”.

HumourM3 · 17/05/2024 08:13

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Whatever🙄

HumourM3 · 17/05/2024 08:12

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:00

Labour were the ones who introduced tuition fees and scrapped maintenance grants. So don't tell me that they are all about supporting education.

Tuition fees were needed.

twistyizzy · 17/05/2024 08:00

IMustDoMoreExercise · 17/05/2024 07:49

Well it was Labour who decided that everyone and their dog should go to university which was a total waste of money. That money could have been spent on schools.

My sister worked in Education for a quango during the last Labour government in Enfield and instead of putting money into helping disadvantaged kids, she was running holiday clubs for middle class kids who had never been on a bus before. The waste was unbelievable.

That is where all the money went. On unnecessary waste.

Labour were the ones who introduced tuition fees and scrapped maintenance grants. So don't tell me that they are all about supporting education.

Charlie2121 · 17/05/2024 07:54

RampantIvy · 17/05/2024 07:43

Interestingly (and I know this is just anecdotal) DD's best friend at university was privately educated. She needed a tutor for A level chemistry. DD was state educated and achieved the same grade at A level as her friend. If I had been the friend's parent I would have felt cheated at having to pay twice to get my daughter through A levels.

That’s a meaningless comparison. For all you know your DD’s best friend might have failed her exams at state school and has been well served by going private + tutors.

That aside, as other posters have suggested, private school is about far more than just exam grades. It is about the overall experience. You wouldn’t claim that all holidays are the same despite the fact that everyone ends up back in the same place at home after it’s over:

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