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To think State education is really poor?

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Boswelian · 17/11/2023 19:55

We sent our eldest to a taster day at a private school. He was agog. His school don't allow playing on the grass when it's wet. The private school change them into waterproofs and wellies for break. PE 3x a week. Sport every day. Dedicated specialist teaching in art, DT, languages, sciences etc. 16 in a class instead of 30. The difference in the quality of life between the two school has really blown my mind. The state school is "outstanding". The private school reckon DS is 2 years behind their curriculum. We've been told in state that he's meeting expectations. How is this remotely acceptable?

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Samlewis96 · 12/05/2024 19:16

eurotravel · 17/11/2023 22:52

There are quite a few ex prep kids in my DS year 7 - not all are in top set maths .. despite their years of classes of 14

Probably as they didn't pass the exam to stay or move to a selective secondary. I was In private prep school and we all had to do 11plus. Any that failed were not allowed to move to the secondary part of the school. Money doesn't buy intelligence

EasternStandard · 12/05/2024 15:52

Vgbeat · 12/05/2024 15:50

I'm really glad I've spent my Sunday planning lessons for the week to give the kids in my class the best they can to be told the education isnt good. We are a lowly state primary school but have a lovely meeting with the house of Lords online this week, will be delving into Pompeii, develop our science skills both in class and during breaks with extra activities while children play in our forest school area and that's just Monday.

It’ll be great. We use state and we’re very happy with it.

Vgbeat · 12/05/2024 15:50

I'm really glad I've spent my Sunday planning lessons for the week to give the kids in my class the best they can to be told the education isnt good. We are a lowly state primary school but have a lovely meeting with the house of Lords online this week, will be delving into Pompeii, develop our science skills both in class and during breaks with extra activities while children play in our forest school area and that's just Monday.

superplumb · 12/05/2024 15:23

alrighthen · 17/11/2023 20:07

Ok, you patronising internet oddball @Ballsbaill I’m not a Labour voter (not Tory either) but I have been a state school teacher under both governments and know which I’d prefer for my children. I certainly haven’t forgotten about tuition fees

Why oh why must people be so rude on the internet

Agree. Although i will be voting Labour this time around.
I know teachers who under labour said the class sizes went down, anything the school needed they got and standards improved..
Tories on the other hand cut all services the poorer and working classes use because the toff walkers they all are don't need to rely on them

waterrat · 12/05/2024 08:53

State schools do not have space and time to prioritise play - it would not cost more! And would be a massive improvement to child MH.

Get rid of sats and let kids do a lot more play/ physical activity.

Acommonreader · 12/05/2024 08:50

My dc are in private and it’s great. However, be very cautious of the private school telling you how ‘behind’ your child is - they are selling you a product! They are hardly likely to say that your child seems to be doing well in their current school. Never forget that private school is a business and they exist to make money.

newnamethanks · 12/05/2024 08:35

It is poor in some places, better in others. You are buying privilege, what's your point?

Another76543 · 19/11/2023 07:29

KimberleyClark · 19/11/2023 07:08

I wonder how good private schools would be if they were treated as businesses, which they are, and taxed accordingly, instead of being able to claim charitable status.

There are lots of private schools which aren’t charities. The ones I know of are still excellent schools.

Trickleg · 19/11/2023 07:22

Some are businesses - with profits going to shareholders - and some aren’t, being non profit making and all proceeds go back into the school. And education is generally agreed to be a charitable purpose.

KimberleyClark · 19/11/2023 07:08

I wonder how good private schools would be if they were treated as businesses, which they are, and taxed accordingly, instead of being able to claim charitable status.

Flyhigher · 19/11/2023 06:58

State is underfunded. It's awful.

ThinkingMeat · 19/11/2023 02:40

SisterMichaelsHabit · 17/11/2023 20:31

The trouble with all this "extra curriculum" is that there is a maximum amount of learning a child's brain can do before it just gets tired. Learning isn't the only thing a child should do in a day! Having more lessons actually gets to diminishing returns territory. Children should be playing, socialising, and enjoying quality time with their family too, to learn social skills and feel secure and confident. The best private schools offer a schoolwork-life balance to their children.

Yes. That's why the curriculum thats covers what could be done in two hours per day should do that, and give the children downtime to do free learning/ reading/ music/ art etc for the rest of the day. Instead you have primary schools who have children there for 30 hours per week telling parents that exhausted kids should do more writing, maths and other ramdom stuff on top of that as homework. Why are they not doing that in the already excessive 30 hours+ each week at school? Then the kids' free time can be to rest, do music, art, clubs, sports, socialising, read, relax. What is covered per day in Primary in terms of learning is probably a hour of actual learning. In secondary maybe 2-2.5 hours per day. Wasting away their childhoods and having the love of learning and creativity crushed out of them for nothing.

TheyAreMadeOutOfMeat · 19/11/2023 02:08

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UndertheCedartree · 19/11/2023 00:08

BonjourCrisette · 19/11/2023 00:06

Hope she has a wonderful time and takes full advantage of all those opportunities!

Thank you so much! And good luck to your DD too.

BonjourCrisette · 19/11/2023 00:06

UndertheCedartree · 18/11/2023 23:26

Thank you for that sounds great!

My DD has only just started secondary (actually hasn't started as I got her into her school through appeal which has only just happened!) so I can't comment on that yet. But it specialises in Science and Art. My DD is very creative so is looking forward to all those types of subjects that she will do there Art, Photography, Dance, Textiles etc.

Hope she has a wonderful time and takes full advantage of all those opportunities!

UndertheCedartree · 19/11/2023 00:00

twistyizzy · 18/11/2023 06:26

Well for a start private schools aren't bound by the national curriculum which gives them a lot more freedom to offer niche subjects. DD in Yr 7 does French, Latin and Classics. In Yr 8 she can add either Spanish or German. In Yr 9 she then can choose 2 of either French, German or Spanish for GCSE plus either classics or Latin.
No restriction on science, triple is
Music twice a week plus singing once a week. Fully stocked rehearsal rooms and option of 2-3 instruments per child over Yrs 7-9.
Drama studio + small theatre, 3 drama lessons per week.
Sports are on rotation basis with 4 double games lessons a week ( for girls): hockey, football, netball, running, cricket, athletics, gymnastics and swimming. All children encouraged to find "their" sport but all represent the school frequently in either A,B or C teams no matter their ability.
Can choose up to 11 GCSEs and no limit of eg either History OR geography.
All of the above taught by qualified specialist teachers.
There are then 2 sessions of compulsory activity time per week where they do something they are interested in eg chess club, gardening, baking, cooking, debating, politics, environment etc.

As I said before, for us it isn't about results at the end, it us about the journey and giving her chance to find what she is interested in before the next stage in life.

Thank you for that. Most of our schools in my city are academies so they don't have to follow the national curriculum either. My DD is only just starting secondary so I'm not sure of all the lessons yet but it specialises in Science and Art so they get a lot of those subjects and can choose them at GCSE.

They do a modern foreign language plus Latin and then can add a second MFL in Y8.
Music is once a week plus an instrument lesson (if they wish and you pay extra). Choirs and bands/orchestras as clubs.
Drama once a week but again drama/musical theatre etc as clubs.

Currently for P.E they do Dance, Gymnastics and Netball (3 sessions a week) lots of sport/dance clubs.

And all taught by specialist teachers.

I do like the focus at your school on drama and music etc. DD loves art so would love more than once a week of that but she does get to do textiles to which she can be creative in. What hours are they at school for? One of the reasons I chose DD's school was because it has an hour lunchtime when most of the Comps are only half an hour. I wanted time for her to eat as well as taking part in a club to give her enrichment.

UndertheCedartree · 18/11/2023 23:32

HerMammy · 17/11/2023 23:54

No, I haven't chosen to pay to live in a catchment area, I moved here for family reasons, no thought for schools whatsoever.
I don't actually know anyone who doesn't go to their catchment school.
I believe any child can succeed if they have the ability and work hard. Education should never be limited to the wealthy.

Where I live in England we have.a Grammar school system and then also Faith schools. This leads to very poor Comprehensives. And we have an illusion of choice. They tell us to make 5 choices, but what is the point when you know all the schools are oversubscribed so your DC will only get a place in their catchment comp unless they get into a grammar or faith school.

Toomanycaketins · 18/11/2023 23:31

Pooooochi · 17/11/2023 20:10

Oh and private schools always harp on about being 2 years ahead. Its bollocks. 2 years ahead of the bottom of a state school class maybe.

They aren't going to tell you they are about the same, are they. Ask how they quantify & evidence that gap.

This, they’re trying to sell you a service.

UndertheCedartree · 18/11/2023 23:26

BonjourCrisette · 17/11/2023 23:35

I'm not who you asked but I sent my daughter to a selective private school after her average state primary for (in part) this reason.

At 10/11 of course we don't necessarily know where our children's future interests will lie and we can't be sure how well they will do in the future. But mine was interested in languages at the time. There was no comprehensive in my local area (all are rated at least good) which offered more than one or two languages and at several of them you didn't even get to pick which one. At the school she ended up at, she could have taken any of six modern foreign languages and also Ancient Greek and Latin. She's studied German, French, Russian, Mandarin and Latin at different times and could also have chosen to study Italian, Spanish and Ancient Greek.

It was a given that she would do triple science (there isn't an option to do anything else).

She could have picked loads of creative subjects at GCSE had she wished to (she picked one, but I wanted her to have the choice of what she really liked rather than being constrained by option blocks). I don't see why a child who is that way inclined shouldn't do Art and Music and Drama if they want to and can cope with the workload. That isn't an option at any of our local comprehensives.

And she was able to choose subjects in full confidence that they would run whatever - like other things I have mentioned this is a funding issue. I know of kids at state schools who haven't been able to do the A Levels they wanted because there weren't enough children choosing that subject. But DD could do Russian with only four students in the class because the money was there to make it possible.

She did twelve GCSEs. This obviously would not suit everyone but actually it's great for children who are academically competent because during that time her preferences for subjects changed as they got a bit harder and more in depth. And the depth she was able to go to was absolutely enhanced because everyone was working at the same high level. Having more subjects for longer meant she was able to make a more informed choice when it came to A Levels.

DD has been able to choose what she wanted to study with very few limits. This would not have been the same in a state school (obviously not because they wouldn't like to but because they are limited by the ridiculous eBacc thing and by funding).

Private schools aren't all the same, any more than state schools are all the same, of course. But the one I picked was definitely able to offer more than any of our local good comprehensives.

Thank you for that sounds great!

My DD has only just started secondary (actually hasn't started as I got her into her school through appeal which has only just happened!) so I can't comment on that yet. But it specialises in Science and Art. My DD is very creative so is looking forward to all those types of subjects that she will do there Art, Photography, Dance, Textiles etc.

NovemberBlues · 18/11/2023 21:02

@TooOldForThisNonsense

That's a very big question /subject.
In my experience children wouldn't get as for many people many reasons and surprisingly intellect is not a main factor...

The playing field isn't level because we have many issues in the system.
Mainly around sen and undiagnosed issues and teachers who are not taught anything about sen.

RampantIvy · 18/11/2023 21:00

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 18/11/2023 18:56

Tbf I wouldn’t and couldn’t choose anything but home education now

TBF I wouldn't and couldn't choose home education now. The thought of being with DC 24/7 and never being able to work, go to the hairdresser, visit the GP etc is not something I would want to do.

It is all academic now as DD graduated last year, but I just don't have the skills or deep enough pockets to pay for tutors.

SabrinaThwaite · 18/11/2023 20:56

The prep kids having access to significantly more sport/PE means there wasn't an overweight one among them.

Funnily enough, we were all skinny in the 70s - most of us had to walk or cycle to school and we didn’t constantly snack and eat UPF crap. No need for lots of cross country runs and lacrosse (although both were available at my very much not leafy comp for kids that were that way inclined).

The increasing levels of poverty in the UK (despite all the various promises of “levelling up” over the years) has resulted in a generation or two being fed on cheap, non nutritious factory food, with all the accompanying health issues.

RampantIvy · 18/11/2023 19:08

but I would have absolutely hated having to do PE everyday. Especially in the rain!

So would DD. I don't think you can argue that private education does offer better extra curricular activities, especially at secondary age, however, DD went to an outstanding primary school that offered excellent extra curricular activities, especially in music where the school orchestra played at the Albert Hall, and recently the children sang on CIN on Friday, and a good secondary school. She did extremely well academically at secondary school and in higher education.

@Boswelian you don't say how old your child is or whether you are talking about primary or state education

Tomorrowillbeachicken · 18/11/2023 18:56

Tbf I wouldn’t and couldn’t choose anything but home education now

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