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Boswelian · 17/11/2023 19:55

We sent our eldest to a taster day at a private school. He was agog. His school don't allow playing on the grass when it's wet. The private school change them into waterproofs and wellies for break. PE 3x a week. Sport every day. Dedicated specialist teaching in art, DT, languages, sciences etc. 16 in a class instead of 30. The difference in the quality of life between the two school has really blown my mind. The state school is "outstanding". The private school reckon DS is 2 years behind their curriculum. We've been told in state that he's meeting expectations. How is this remotely acceptable?

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Charlie2121 · 16/05/2024 10:17

SabrinaThwaite · 16/05/2024 09:37

I went to a poor state school, as did my DH.

We would still not send our DC to a private school or a grammar school.

If there was excellent state school provision local to me I would not be spending 250k on private schools.

And yet you’ve previously said that you’d rather have a cheap house with no mortgage and pay for private school and retire early.

That’s correct. The point I was making is that I cut back on other things such as size/location of house to make school fees more affordable.

I’d prefer not to have to pay for private school at all and then I could retire even earlier but that’s not an option. I’m faced with either hefty school fees or an expensive move. I chose the former. I could have stretched things further and had a more expensive house and private school however I value earlier retirement more than I do a bigger house.

Everanewbie · 16/05/2024 10:12

It is all very well and good getting all political and idealistic about the sending your kids to a private school, but when the time comes we will try to do it for our boy if we can at all stretch to it. There are some brilliant state schools out there, but so many suffer from a shortfall in parental interest and aspiration for their children, that they are on a hiding to nothing. I'm not sure throwing money at them will help; no amount of new stationary will change these parents and likewise by extension, their children's attitude. I'll be paying to have him in an environment where education is valued and disruptive kids aren't tolerated. And we won't live in constant fear of knife crime because someone "dissed" someone or looked at them in the wrong way.

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 10:01

Saschka · 16/05/2024 09:52

But they do. People locally do spend £30k per year to send their four year old to DPL, HHS, JAGS, DUCKS etc. And obviously not because local state primaries are poor, because they aren’t. It’s to avoid the horrors of their little darlings mixing with the FSM kids.

(It really is that, I know plenty of parents with kids at these schools via DS’s rugby/tennis clubs etc, who are quite explicit about wanting to avoid their children mixing with The Poor).

You’re missing the point that many families who use private schools don’t have good state options though. Some will use private regardless, but it’s by no means all. Many families have already tried the state system and it’s failed them. It’s precisely why they have switched to private.

morechocolateneededtoday · 16/05/2024 09:53

twistyizzy · 16/05/2024 09:01

This isn’t scaremongering, it is projected fact based on sound economics.
We can't afford VAT as yhat will be 20% plus fee rise per year. I am providing an educated counterpoint to Labour's flawed reasoning.

We are in a similar boat and with the threat of VAT on fees and have already moved into catchment of an excellent state secondary. I will reduce my working hours when they start secondary so I am available to supplement their education in other ways.

We are one of a number of families in our prep school who have made this decision. Historically, destination schools for Y6 leavers have been in the region of 90% private. This year half the children are going to state secondaries (funnily enough, none of them to failing ones). A number of families currently in Y5 have moved house into areas where they can get into better state secondaries.

There is a cohort who will find the money no matter what but people need to stop kidding themselves that this will raise anywhere close to the amount projected. If people are already making these moves before labour are in power, you can only imagine how many will do so when the policy is implemented.

FWIW we use a small local prep school where the demographic consists of two working parents who are small business owners or professionals. Majority of parents choose the school for small class size and comprehensive wraparound care.

Saschka · 16/05/2024 09:52

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 09:44

And this proves the point that there is huge inequality in the state system. Many people just don’t have access to those types of school. Those in London and the South East often have access to great school schools, which is probably why a lot of people don’t understand the need to use the private sector.

But they do. People locally do spend £30k per year to send their four year old to DPL, HHS, JAGS, DUCKS etc. And obviously not because local state primaries are poor, because they aren’t. It’s to avoid the horrors of their little darlings mixing with the FSM kids.

(It really is that, I know plenty of parents with kids at these schools via DS’s rugby/tennis clubs etc, who are quite explicit about wanting to avoid their children mixing with The Poor).

DiddlySquatted · 16/05/2024 09:48

We sent our younger daughter to a private school on advice from the Police because she was being bullied (violently attacked ) at her state school : who did absolutely nothing about it.

Apart from her being happy and safe, the standard of education , in every sense and department , was so much higher, shockingly so.

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 09:44

Saschka · 16/05/2024 09:41

We aren’t. I live in a flat off Coldharbour Lane, and 40% of the children at DS’s primary are in FSM (looked it up last night after someone here was pearl-clutching about sending their child to a school with good results but 45% of children on FSM).

The school is outstanding (inspected earlier this year), offers MFL from reception, every child learns an instrument from year 2, they do a lot of music, dance and drama (concerts, plays and a dance show at least once a year), lots of trips, excellent Sats results.

They have spaces in every year. Going down to one form entry from next year due to the drop in birth rate. Any child in south London who wanted to go there could get in. There are similarly excellent schools across the borough, again available to everyone regardless of wealth.

The closest high-performing single-sex state secondary schools are in Peckham - again, not exactly a bastion of middle class wealth.

And this proves the point that there is huge inequality in the state system. Many people just don’t have access to those types of school. Those in London and the South East often have access to great school schools, which is probably why a lot of people don’t understand the need to use the private sector.

Saschka · 16/05/2024 09:41

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:20

But are you living in a fairly affluent middle class area to be able to access that wonderful single sex state school? If so that’s just another form of money buying education isn’t it?

We aren’t. I live in a flat off Coldharbour Lane, and 40% of the children at DS’s primary are in FSM (looked it up last night after someone here was pearl-clutching about sending their child to a school with good results but 45% of children on FSM).

The school is outstanding (inspected earlier this year), offers MFL from reception, every child learns an instrument from year 2, they do a lot of music, dance and drama (concerts, plays and a dance show at least once a year), lots of trips, excellent Sats results.

They have spaces in every year. Going down to one form entry from next year due to the drop in birth rate. Any child in south London who wanted to go there could get in. There are similarly excellent schools across the borough, again available to everyone regardless of wealth.

The closest high-performing single-sex state secondary schools are in Peckham - again, not exactly a bastion of middle class wealth.

SabrinaThwaite · 16/05/2024 09:37

Charlie2121 · 16/05/2024 08:47

It is pretty much the exact opposite of this.

Virtually all the private school parents I know have had experience of decent state schools whether that be as children themselves, through a mix of private and state use or from friends and family experiences.

They would love to have this for their own children however the option is not always there in their locality.

If there was excellent state school provision local to me I would not be spending 250k on private schools.

This is why the tax feels so unfair. It will cost me an additional 50k simply because I live in the wrong post code. Other families living a short distance away in excellent state catchment areas can afford to earn far less, pay less tax, have a decent level of schooling provided and yet have the same disposable income as we do.

When parents who were fortunate enough to live in excellent state catchment areas start commenting about private schools I would flip the original question around and ask does anyone think that those defending excellent state schools have very little experience of poor state schools? Perhaps if they did they’d understand the position many of us who are effectively forced to use private schools find ourselves in. We don’t spend £250k+ for no reason.

I went to a poor state school, as did my DH.

We would still not send our DC to a private school or a grammar school.

If there was excellent state school provision local to me I would not be spending 250k on private schools.

And yet you’ve previously said that you’d rather have a cheap house with no mortgage and pay for private school and retire early.

EasternStandard · 16/05/2024 09:30

Busephalus · 16/05/2024 09:26

That's such a lazy argument, kids can and do thrive in state schools in less prosperous or mixed areas

They can but I don’t think the pp was incorrect, many people do access better state via funds eg house prices or selection on top

Busephalus · 16/05/2024 09:26

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:20

But are you living in a fairly affluent middle class area to be able to access that wonderful single sex state school? If so that’s just another form of money buying education isn’t it?

That's such a lazy argument, kids can and do thrive in state schools in less prosperous or mixed areas

Moglet4 · 16/05/2024 09:23

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:41

Well the extra cash will be useful. But like many I will expect labour to bring in other measures on top to counteract the unfairness and inequality in all sectors of life caused by private education.

Except there won’t be any extra cash. Labour has been very careful to cherry-pick their information and to not include the actual costs. Credible sources (like the ISC and the actual current drop out rate from private schools) suggests that somewhere in the region of 20% of privately educated children will leave the sector. That’s a cost of 600,000 to the state sector. Then there’s the 3-16% of children who will probably be made exempt because of SEN needs (dependent on what exactly the criteria is). Added to that, the law will necessarily have to be changed to allow schools to claim back VAT on their expenses. This can go back 10 years. Whilst for your average independent school this won’t mean much, for the ultra-rich few it certainly will. VAT on multi million purchases will be a substantial chunk of money so that has to be taken from the pot too. If Labour genuinely wants to raise money for state education this is ineffective; it could do it through a form of income tax which would hit all high earners. This is not about money, let’s not kid ourselves, though obviously supporting it from an ideological stance is another matter.

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:20

TheaBrandt · 16/05/2024 08:50

Very cruel to say all state schools are “crap”. Awful.

Mine thriving in a single sex state dd1 aced her GCSEs and on track for top a levels top
level university offers nice decent like minded friends. We supplement sport and tutors where needed. It’s not perfect but many of the teachers are amazing. The biggest issue seems to be teacher retention. I do resent it when some of those that choose to privately educate want to justify their choice by slagging off state schools. Had it in real life it’s not on. .

But are you living in a fairly affluent middle class area to be able to access that wonderful single sex state school? If so that’s just another form of money buying education isn’t it?

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 09:20

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:16

1.6 billion is something like 2% of the total education budget. It sounds a lot but is nowhere near enough to be transformative

Total education spending is around £116bn. Therefore, the optimistic IFS estimate is around 1.3% of the total budget. If people think that this is going to suddenly transform the state sector, I think they might be in for a shock. Transforming the state system is going to cost a lot more than that. It’ll be interesting where the funding is coming from.

https://ifs.org.uk/publications/annual-report-education-spending-england-2023#:~:text=Total%2520spending,-1.&text=In%25202022%E2%80%9323%252C%2520total%2520public,2.

Annual report on education spending in England: 2023 | Institute for Fiscal Studies

Our sixth annual report on education spending shows changes over time across different stages of education, as well as geographic differences.

https://ifs.org.uk/publications/annual-report-education-spending-england-2023#:~:text=Total%2520spending,-1.&text=In%25202022%E2%80%9323%252C%2520total%2520public,2.

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:18

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 06:19

No not really. Private education causes huge inequalities. The fewer the better. It is about time it’s recognised and I hope labour do something about it.

Of course they won’t. They know there’s no cash to expand the education system enough to accommodate an extra half a million pupils.

FaeryRing · 16/05/2024 09:16

1.6 billion is something like 2% of the total education budget. It sounds a lot but is nowhere near enough to be transformative

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 09:15

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:40

The issue is the privately educated with the same grades unfairly represented in the top jobs and unis. It needs to be recognised and measures put in place to stop it. Then frankly nobody will give a shit about private education at all- but of course those in the private system don’t want that. They want the status quo to carry on whilst pretending to care. 😂

The issue is the privately educated with the same grades unfairly represented in the top jobs and unis

This is the problem with the view of education in this country. Too many people are obsessed with the grades and piece of paper given at the end of 14 years of education. Education should be about so much more than this. It’s about nurturing and developing decent human beings, exploring their strengths and finding out what they are good at. We are increasingly competing on a global stage with countries where children have had a brilliant education; an education which has taught them more than merely how to pass an exam.

It’s not hugely unusual these days for pupils to get straight As in all their exams. Employers and universities have to differentiate between them somehow. They look for soft skills which many private schools (and some state schools) have taught their pupils. It’s why many parents choose private education. It’s about so much more than exam results.

EasternStandard · 16/05/2024 09:09

WrongSwanson · 16/05/2024 09:07

Quite. It's just self interested hysteria. We can all see through it.

Plus plenty of private schools don't even perform that well academically and plenty of state schools get excellent results. There's no way I would send my bright son to any of the local private schools

Well there you go you’ve saved money. Private schools don’t even perform that well. Leave people who pay for both via taxes and fees as they are, it frees up spaces in state.

I’d prefer smaller state classes than bringing more from private

twistyizzy · 16/05/2024 09:09

WrongSwanson · 16/05/2024 09:07

Quite. It's just self interested hysteria. We can all see through it.

Plus plenty of private schools don't even perform that well academically and plenty of state schools get excellent results. There's no way I would send my bright son to any of the local private schools

So why the need to punish private schools if they aren't even that good. Let us waste our money sending our DC to inferior schools. You realise that for every DC that leaves private school for state that there is a new burden on the state to fund their place? Plus the amount raised in VAT goes down.

EasternStandard · 16/05/2024 09:07

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:56

The majority will be paying it. When you’re paying the equivalent of a salary and apparantly the alternative is so dire I’m pretty sure most will find it. Stop scaremongering.

I don’t think it helps that people block out stats

Economically it doesn’t stack up, plus the other downsides

WrongSwanson · 16/05/2024 09:07

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:56

The majority will be paying it. When you’re paying the equivalent of a salary and apparantly the alternative is so dire I’m pretty sure most will find it. Stop scaremongering.

Quite. It's just self interested hysteria. We can all see through it.

Plus plenty of private schools don't even perform that well academically and plenty of state schools get excellent results. There's no way I would send my bright son to any of the local private schools

twistyizzy · 16/05/2024 09:01

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:56

The majority will be paying it. When you’re paying the equivalent of a salary and apparantly the alternative is so dire I’m pretty sure most will find it. Stop scaremongering.

This isn’t scaremongering, it is projected fact based on sound economics.
We can't afford VAT as yhat will be 20% plus fee rise per year. I am providing an educated counterpoint to Labour's flawed reasoning.

Another76543 · 16/05/2024 09:00

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 07:24

No the biggest cause of inequality in this country is private education. A teeny tiny rich proportion of the population can afford it or £££££ housing.

The best most wide sweeping way of increasing equality is to do something about private education. The Tories have done zilch and change needs to happen.

No the biggest cause of inequality in this country is private education

6% of children being educated privately really isn’t the biggest cause of inequality.

There are huge inequalities within the state system as shown by this thread; some can access great state education, others only have dreadful schools to choose from. Health inequalities, long term unemployment, homelessness, sex and racial inequalities; these are huge causes of inequality. Perhaps politicians would do better to address these issues rather than focussing on a minority of people in private schools.

opticalconclusion · 16/05/2024 08:58

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 06:23

If that is the case then state pupils should clearly always be made a priority in applications for top jobs and all uni applications. Clearly it’s a bloody miracle they get any qualifications and that should be recognised. A state pupil with the same results as a private puil is clearly a far higher achievement. 🤔

That’s definitely Labour talking! Push people down.

HumourM3 · 16/05/2024 08:56

twistyizzy · 16/05/2024 08:47

What extra cash? If >10% of DC leave private schools then the net income will be £0.
There has already been a 2.7% reduction before Laboir have even won the election.
The policy is not sustainable as it will result in behaviour change.
If Labour were truly bothered about improving schools they would raise revenue through income tax. As an example, a 1p ring fenced education tax for higher rate payers could bring in £10+billion per year. However they aren't propsing that are they?

The majority will be paying it. When you’re paying the equivalent of a salary and apparantly the alternative is so dire I’m pretty sure most will find it. Stop scaremongering.

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