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would you find these sorts of comments rude?

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lemongrab33 · 17/11/2023 11:37

Say if you cooked for someone/gave them food which wasn't completely from scratch. You ask how it was and they say 'Good thanks, McVities/Tesco/Dolmio etc. did an excellent job of making it!'
I find this a bit rude and pretentious, not sure if I'm overthinking it?

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Picturesofowls · 17/11/2023 11:57

It depends. Its the sort of thing if my dad said it I'd laugh. Some people I might assume more malice from.

Frlrlrubert · 17/11/2023 11:55

If you've made friends with my past Ukrainian guests I apologise. We used to joke 'thank you Aldi' at meals we had mostly 'cheated' on when we were taking turns cooking.

But yeah, if not a sort of 'in-joke' situation if would be ungrateful/rude.

Densol57 · 17/11/2023 11:55

lemongrab33 · 17/11/2023 11:48

Don't want to say who in case it's outing, but the point is I made food for them, not for myself just for them, but I didn't have to.

Outing ?!
honestly 🤣

it was my husband, son, daughter, aunt, gp, neighbour !!! 🤣hardly outing !

NoSquirrels · 17/11/2023 11:53

lemongrab33 · 17/11/2023 11:48

Don't want to say who in case it's outing, but the point is I made food for them, not for myself just for them, but I didn't have to.

I don’t need to know exactly who it is, but I’m not being funny when I say how on earth could describing a relationship to someone be outing? Most people have parents or siblings or friends or romantic partners. It’s the least ‘outing’ thing there could be!

MorrisZapp · 17/11/2023 11:51

We're not asking for the name of your guest, just their relationship to you.

NoSquirrels · 17/11/2023 11:51

Bit rude but funny ranging to extremely rude and unfunny, depends on the person and your relationship.

My dad, for instance - he’s a great cook, and he’s also rude but in a funny way and I love him dearly = not offended

My ex-step-MIL - mediocre cook who thinks she’s better than she is, empathy bypass, always has a ‘tone’ = bloody cow!

MrsRetriever · 17/11/2023 11:49

If it was a friend or family member who was decent and having a laugh then I’d be fine with it - depends on the tone. If someone was being a prick about it then I’d be pissed off.

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lemongrab33 · 17/11/2023 11:48

Don't want to say who in case it's outing, but the point is I made food for them, not for myself just for them, but I didn't have to.

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SurelySmartie · 17/11/2023 11:47

Yes it’s really ungracious.

ManateeFair · 17/11/2023 11:45

If it was a guest, then yes, I'd find that rude.

(Unless I'd actually made a big point of saying 'So, this is actually a sauce out of a jar, so I really hope it's not horrible' in which case it could be taken as reassurance.)

If it was my partner, it would depend on the tone. If it was an affectionate joke about our shared love of, eg, a Charlie Bigham's ready meal, that would be fine. It was a nasty dig at my cooking, I'd find it rude and obnoxious.

sollenwir · 17/11/2023 11:45

I see that as being similar to 'the washing machine does the washing, not you' sort of comments. Yes, you've used some shortcuts, but the shortcuts also needed your (human) input and effort.

Densol57 · 17/11/2023 11:45

Who is the person you are cooking for ?
Your AIBU needs context

LearnFromMyMistakes · 17/11/2023 11:43

That would be last time l cook for them.
A slice of toast or crackers is all they'd get from me.

Ohhelpicantthinkofaname · 17/11/2023 11:43

Tbh I wouldn’t care and I would probably say it myself to my guests. Eg. Hope you enjoyed the pizza Tesco made for you. If I’d spent hours making something from scratch and they said something like that then I’d be a bit annoyed, but if I’d used ready made stuff to make my life easier I would just own that.

Original poster
lemongrab33 · 17/11/2023 11:42

I do a mixture of fresh and ready made things. I'm not a person who makes absolutely everything from scratch, I just don't have the time nor the will.

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MarkWithaC · 17/11/2023 11:39

Really rude. The correct response is 'It was delicious, thank you.'

CuboidsAndSpheres · 17/11/2023 11:39

Don't cook for them again, very rude.

Whataretheodds · 17/11/2023 11:39

Bit unnecessary but I wouldn't read too much into it unless there's a big back story

bunhead1979 · 17/11/2023 11:38

Rude and unnecessary!

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