To want to find other closeted bi women near me (Kent)?

OP, I don't think the negative responses that you're getting here have anything to do with the fact that you're bisexual. Honestly, I couldn't care less who you're attracted to, attraction is such a personal, individual thing.

What people are reacting negatively to is the idea of sleeping with someone else when you are already married and/or to the idea that some poor woman would end up being your "bit on the side", playing second fiddle to your marriage. I get that your DH has agreed to this, and presumably any potential woman that you decide to get involved with would also know the score, so I don't think that you are actually doing anything "wrong" as such. I just think it's a risky way of managing relationships and that someone is very likely to end up getting hurt. Of course, some people do manage to make polyamorous relationships work. However, in the vast majority of cases, I think they're doomed to failure.

Is it a sexual experience you’d like to try out first OP? Or are you hoping to be hooking up with this woman on a more regular basis?
If the former then maybe you could go to a sex club? They have them all over the country I believe. So you could travel to one without fearing seeing someone you know. You could go with your DH, or I believe lone females are often allowed to attend without a partner.

Your poor husband. Why would you do that to him?

I’m glad OP posted this. I’ve been feeling this way for a long time but haven’t told anyone. It’s helpful to know there are others in the same boat

I realised I was Bi a few years ago and also discussed it with my now ex, but with no intention of just meeting women to confirm my bisexuality. He went into ‘typical man’ mode and didn’t even hide the idea that it meant I’d be into a threesome. Unfortunately for him, over time I came to realise that the thought of this made me feel quite ill. I realised that I’d never actually enjoyed sex with any man unless thinking about other things, though I had (up until a couple of years ago) loved my ex. We separated for many reasons, I couldn’t have ‘explored’ what my personal wants were whilst still with him though. It’s been a year and I’ve still not taken that step - I’ve been with one guy who simply confirmed that I’m not sexually attracted to men, but that still doesn’t mean much.

Id suggest taking time to understand what you actually want, if it’s just curiosity or your fantasising about a life beyond what you have now. Because crossing that line in a relationship is not fair to your husband even if he thinks he’s ‘on board’ now. He may just be trying to keep you happy so you don’t leave and that’s not fair to anyone.

I’m a closeted bisexual….

Thw only person who knows is the woman I told when I started developing feelings for her (that was last year).

Im 40 and I have been attracted to women since I was about 17 but I have only acted on it once when I was 24. Apart from that one woman I’ve always had boyfriends.

I’m married with two children but I think about women sexually all the time.

My dream would be for me to tell my husband and for him to give me permission to go and explore that side of myself.

I’m jealous OP 😂😂

I have met women IRL who were Bi curious, we met for drinks or meals and went to a hotel or back to her house. At no time did they want to meet any of their friends or family. A hotel would be 50 miles away. Secrecy is not a problem IME.

In the 11 years I've been doing this my DH hasn't wanted to join in.
Yes it turns him on but he doesn't want to be involved.

Which is unfair on the other woman. She is expendable, worthless, not respected. That's probably why OP wants someone still closeted.

Which is why you join something like skirt club. Everyone is on the same page. It's purely about sexual exploration between women.

Hands down this is turning hubby on and he's hopeful he gets to watch and "join in" one day....

Which is unfair on the other woman. She is expendable, worthless, not respected. That's probably why OP wants someone still closeted.

OP, the term you want is Ethical Non-Monogamy. Open relationship, swinging, polyamory, all fall under the umbrella. It's about informed consent, communication is key.

I think the OP said he is impotent. So it won't apply.
Many husbands will get off on hearing fullest details, a woman may accept this as being the 'affordable cost' of her going out.

I am suspicious that he is happy for you to sleep with other women. Would he want to take part at any point?

Exactly. No hate here. Not even going into my personal details but I have very good reason to be sick of this nonsense. The women are living breathing humans with their own needs and wants. Not fodder for your and your husband’s sexual peccadilloes.

Swinging is completely normal. Although indeed, on MN if someone's husband was bisexual, there would very much be a thoroughly nasty reaction. You'd have to be very new to make the mistake of mentioning that your DH wasn't straight. Unsupportive would be the least of it.

But this is people reacting on Mumsnet, not real life. The OP wants to hide her bisexuality in real life as though it’s something to be ashamed of. Most people who have the worst reactions on threads like this are the ones who are fed up of people using their bisexuality as an excuse to cheat. I don’t think the supportive comments would exist if this was a man posting saying his wife has given him permission to go and have sex with other men.

with a very supportive husband

there is absolutely no way of validating that this is the case. People post all sorts of shit on here.

You've only got to read Mumsnet for five minutes to work out why people want to keep it hidden. You'd think people were starting threads about their cannibalism from the reaction.

This sounds all kinds of wrong.

and MN isn't a hookup site so stop trying to make this thread into one

To be fair, I was wondering if there was some shame when I asked or if she gets off on the secrecy despite having her husband’s permission to play away. It seems a strange requirement.

There’s actually quite a few people given thanks to the comment so obviously others agree.

I’m actually not sick in the head, just sick of people acting like being bi is something to be ashamed of. What does she have to hide?

Your comment further up says there’s lots of homophobic people on MN, what’s more homophobic/biphobic than thinking it’s something that needs to be hidden?

Fuck me I hope you get this comment deleted. You're sick in the head.

Oh and don’t listen to the posters saying to ignore the backlash and that MN is anti bi.
The people giving you hate aren’t against bisexual people at all, they’re just sick of behaviour that perpetrates stereotypes.