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To feel disgusted he washed it in the kitchen sink

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OneLittleFinger · 11/11/2023 13:17

Dp rarely does the washing, therefore I wasn't expecting him to wash the clothes I'd left by the machine this morning. Among them were my toddler's dirty pants in a box to remind me to add them to the wash.

I returned home to find not only had he thrown the pants into the wash unrinsed (so with solid poo stuck to them) he'd cleaned the box they were in in the kitchen sink, and used the kitchen sponge to do so.

He's pissed I'm not happy, as the box was sitting in hot, soapy water first, so can't see the problem.

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Nanny0gg · 11/11/2023 15:18

OneLittleFinger · 11/11/2023 14:01

OK, so you would rinse immediately? I get rid of any big bits immediately, but always thought it better to keep the pants dry until I was going to wash them, at which point I rinse them in the loo then put them in the washing machine. But I'll rinse immediately and store wet. The box is kept in the bathroom until I take it to the washing machine which is next to the kitchen.

The sponge wasn't chucked until I threw it away. DP thinks it's fine to use it again.

If it's a frequent thing with pooey pants then get yourself some Napisan to soak them in till you wash them

humpty74 · 11/11/2023 15:17

It's pretty common with cloth nappies to hold them in the toilet and flush it to rinse poo off before washing, no reason you shouldn't do that with pants if it works for you. We found it just made them wet and pooey so used a cheap spatula to scrape instead and it's still in the bathroom to use it for any pants incidents since toilet training but yeah I'd do it before it dried.
Binning clothes instead of washing them is ridiculous.

Jewelanemone · 11/11/2023 15:15

I don't understand why people are horrified at the thought of poo being rinsed off in the loo. Surely that's the whole point of the bloody thing!

Grip pants tightly by a non-pooey bit, hold pants down the loo, flush the loo to rinse off worst of poo. Put pants in washing machine.

It's really not that difficult for anyone with half a brain.

BaronessBomburst · 11/11/2023 15:15

I have a small airer in the utility room which is 'unclean'.
Anything filthy gets rinsed by hand immediately, then put on the airer to await the appropriate wash.
Potty training finished years ago in this house but the system still works. Yesterday's manky cloth had been used for washing down a muddy bicycle.

BarbDwyerHair · 11/11/2023 15:13

I thought you were going to say his penis

Ballsbaill · 11/11/2023 15:11

I'd be more revolted with pants covered in shit left in a box in the kitchen. If they're that badly soiled throw them out or wash them immediately.

liveforsummer · 11/11/2023 15:10

Barleymilk · 11/11/2023 14:13

Nothing wrong with rinsing in the loo. Honestly some people are so strange

Sorry but I'm 44 and never in those years have I never ever rinsed anything in the loo. Do people do this? 👀

Mojodojocasahaus · 11/11/2023 15:10

Mumsnet is batshit today

Utterbunkum · 11/11/2023 15:10

I have to give points for a gripping title that just begged me to read on. It was like a mystery thriller. Who washed what in the sink?

After that, I was slightly disappointed to discover it wasn't incriminating evidence.

Anywherebuthere · 11/11/2023 15:09

Leaving pants unrinsed in the first place is worse.

It is also gross if he hasnt binned the sponge and washed the sink.

liveforsummer · 11/11/2023 15:08

Personally pants covered in poo would have gone in the bin but otherwise I'd have rinsed them at the time. Putting them in the wash covered in lumps of poo isn't great but maybe he didn't realise. Washing in a sink is totally normal. It's either that sink or the one you brush your teeth in surely? He definitely should have binned the sponge though so is UR for that

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 11/11/2023 15:05

@girlswillbegirls Ahhhhhh yeah I see. I thought she meant the actual loo! 🤦🏼‍♀️

girlswillbegirls · 11/11/2023 15:00

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 11/11/2023 14:38

It's plain weird and revolting

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I think the OP means she rinsed them in the bathroom sink. I would use the kitchen sink either (faecal bacteria) but the bathroom one and them bleach it.
The kitchen sink is the wrong place to do this.

Topseyt123 · 11/11/2023 14:56

Of course putting pants with solid poo on them into the washing machine along with other stuff is horrendous and he should have engaged his brain there.

However, why the hell hadn't you fully rinsed the pants out immediately? Then they could just have gone straight in with the next wash with no issues. I'd have got rid of the worst down the toilet, then rinsed them thoroughly in the sink and then cleaned and disinfected the sink well. It takes just a few minutes. I might also have left them soaking in a solution of biological washing powder.

Keeping poo covered pants in a box is really gross.

Ilovegoldies · 11/11/2023 14:45

You are unreasonable for not binning the pants. If there are too many to bin I'd put the potty training on hold for a bit.

Sirzy · 11/11/2023 14:41

Your method sounds much worse. Storing a box of poo?

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 11/11/2023 14:38

dirtyfries · 11/11/2023 14:32

Some people just don't think/have a total lack of hygiene awareness.

I'd be pissed too

Like the time my SIL scrubbed her dogs harness which was covered in fox poo in my kitchen sink.. using the brush I use for my DDs bottles Angry

Omg 🤬 Please tell me you went mad and didn't just say nothing

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 11/11/2023 14:38

Barleymilk · 11/11/2023 14:13

Nothing wrong with rinsing in the loo. Honestly some people are so strange

It's plain weird and revolting

EasyLifer · 11/11/2023 14:37

Yes, I would have just binned the pants too!

dirtyfries · 11/11/2023 14:32

Some people just don't think/have a total lack of hygiene awareness.

I'd be pissed too

Like the time my SIL scrubbed her dogs harness which was covered in fox poo in my kitchen sink.. using the brush I use for my DDs bottles Angry

CandyLeBonBon · 11/11/2023 14:23

I'd have just binned the pants tbh.

CaptainMyCaptain · 11/11/2023 14:23

Iudncuewbccgrcb · 11/11/2023 14:05

You rinse underpants in the toilet?

That is weird.

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BeckyAMumsnet · 11/11/2023 14:21

Thanks to all who reported. While we can never totally stand by anyone thanks to the whole anonymous thing - OP has been around the boards for several years now and has yet to cause us concern.

Good luck, OP. 😷

Dacadactyl · 11/11/2023 14:16

I don't think rinsing them in the loo is that weird (although I've never done this myself) but i do think NOT steeping them is odd.

I just used to tip any big bits into the loo and then steep the clothes in water (sometimes with added Milton fluid) in a bucket until the wash was due on. At that point I'd wring the clothes out and put them in the wash.

It sounds like you don't steep them tho, OP and just rinse them in the loo and leave them in a box til the wash is due (not in water) That's the odd bit to me, the not steeping them.

Universalsnail · 11/11/2023 14:15

I think cleaning the box in the kitchen sink is fine if you don't have a utility room but only if he moved everything out of the way and he put the kitchen sponge straight in the bin.

The washing machine soiled pants though is so grim.

Also I have to be honest, putting pood in pants with solid poo still attached in a box is equally as grim to me. Definitely rinse immediately, then I would put the soiled pants in a nappy sack that can be disposed of once the pants go in the next wash.

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