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To feel disgusted he washed it in the kitchen sink

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OneLittleFinger · 11/11/2023 13:17

Dp rarely does the washing, therefore I wasn't expecting him to wash the clothes I'd left by the machine this morning. Among them were my toddler's dirty pants in a box to remind me to add them to the wash.

I returned home to find not only had he thrown the pants into the wash unrinsed (so with solid poo stuck to them) he'd cleaned the box they were in in the kitchen sink, and used the kitchen sponge to do so.

He's pissed I'm not happy, as the box was sitting in hot, soapy water first, so can't see the problem.

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IMustDoMoreExercise · 11/11/2023 15:59

That is exactly why I don't let my husband do the cleaning. I have my standards and his are lower.

I would rather do it myself as I know it will be done properly.

DisforDarkChocolate · 11/11/2023 15:56

I'm most disgusted by the pants left in such a state hanging around, even in a box. I'd never think to check for that!

DisforDarkChocolate · 11/11/2023 15:56

I'm most disgusted by the pants left in such a state hanging around, even in a box. I'd never think to check for that!

Headshoulderscheeseontoast · 11/11/2023 15:50

BarbDwyerHair · 11/11/2023 15:13

I thought you were going to say his penis

Me too 😆

pickledandpuzzled · 11/11/2023 15:47

OP is following modern advice for washable nappies.

You rinse what you can down the loo, then dry pail- sit them in a lidded tub- until wash day.

The pail of Napisan approach is heavy, hard work, inclined to spill, heavy on chemicals.

Dry Pail stops bacteria breeding because it’s dry.

I’m a cloth nappy veteran- dry pail doesn’t smell, as long as the lid is on, and is much less messy. No moving sodden drippy items into the machine.

As for binning pants because you are too lazy to wash them- environment nightmare.

WalnutBlue · 11/11/2023 15:45

All this rinsing in toilet bollocks.
Just wipe the worst off dispose in toilet and put on a 60c steam/hygiene wash ASAP after soiling.
They come out crystal clean every time.
Although if they were completely full of diarrhea rather than solid poo I would probably bin them.

DojaPhat · 11/11/2023 15:39

If they are so soiled as to require 'special treatment' why not just bin them? Trousers is one thing but what's a pair of pants. As a general rule though I've found many cough, cough people are very lax when it comes to hygiene.

StarlightLime · 11/11/2023 15:37

You sound just as gross, op. Leaving a shit encrusted pair of pants hanging around until you got around to washing them.

Ballsbaill · 11/11/2023 15:35

fyn · 11/11/2023 15:25

Everyone that uses cloth nappies rinses in the toilet and then stores it in a bag/basket until wash day…

Quite right. Human waste is meant to go down the toilet to be dealt with by sewage and not thrown in a bin.

Mavissdaviss · 11/11/2023 15:32

Ugh. Put the pants straight in the bin. If there are lots of accidents then wait until he’s ready for potty training. It’s not a race.

Badgrief · 11/11/2023 15:32

Doggymummar · 11/11/2023 15:22

If the box didn't fit in the dishwasher I would have taken it in the shower with me like we do the recycling tubs when they need a rinse in Winter as the hose as been put away.

Despite the higher temperature I wouldn't want the poo-ey box in the dishwasher. Rather the bath or shower.

CurlsnSunshinetime4tea · 11/11/2023 15:32

Rinsing nappies/pants in the toilet is old school.
you firmly hold onto the item, so your hand and a section is above the waterline. You shake and lift the nappy or pant in and out of the water while flushing. Don’t let go as you don’t want to flush the item away just the poo.
after wringing the now cleaner nappy/pant you place them in a diaper pail that has lots of water and nappy detergent.
when the diaper pail is full, dump the pail and nappies in the bathtub (no plug). With the nappy detergent drained away, add water to the tub and rinse, wring, and your nappies pants can now be machine washed alone or with clothing.
this process common before disposable diapers is reason number 1 why babies toilet trained earlier 40+ yes sgo.

dixeypeach · 11/11/2023 15:32

Doggymummar · 11/11/2023 15:22

If the box didn't fit in the dishwasher I would have taken it in the shower with me like we do the recycling tubs when they need a rinse in Winter as the hose as been put away.

Dear god almighty 😵‍💫🤢

Createausername1970 · 11/11/2023 15:31

I haven't rinsed anything in the loo myself, but thinking about it, it makes sense. The water is clean - unless you routinely follow the "mellow yellow" rule, which I don't, and any debris that comes off can be flushed away.

I think its a genius idea.

dixeypeach · 11/11/2023 15:30

I'd have just thrown them away to begin with. Why are we rinsing pants! you can get a five pack for £2 🤢 the fact you've stored them in a box in your kitchen is grim, the sink and sponge thing is just revolting all together 🤮

PortalooSunset · 11/11/2023 15:30

Doggymummar · 11/11/2023 15:22

If the box didn't fit in the dishwasher I would have taken it in the shower with me like we do the recycling tubs when they need a rinse in Winter as the hose as been put away.

What? 🙃

UpUpUpU · 11/11/2023 15:29

So much to unpick here:

  1. why so many pants filed with solid poo? Is your child ready to be potty trained?
  2. how long are they kept stinking in a box with actual poo in them before washing?
  3. why not just rinse the pants and wash them when your child is an accident?
  4. or just him the pants!
Your house must smell delightful
PurBal · 11/11/2023 15:27

What @fyn said…

fyn · 11/11/2023 15:25

Everyone that uses cloth nappies rinses in the toilet and then stores it in a bag/basket until wash day…

TeenLifeMum · 11/11/2023 15:25

Kitchen sink can be bleached… leaving poo on pants and not dealing with it immediately is gross though.

Aveen1 · 11/11/2023 15:23

I agree with you OP, so disgusting. Throw the sponge in the bin and fill up the sink with boiling hot water and add bleach. Leave that sitting for a bit and rinse with boiling water from the kettle.

ohdamnitjanet · 11/11/2023 15:22

SweetFemaleAttitude · 11/11/2023 13:31

Weren't they a band So Solid Poo?

😆

Doggymummar · 11/11/2023 15:22

If the box didn't fit in the dishwasher I would have taken it in the shower with me like we do the recycling tubs when they need a rinse in Winter as the hose as been put away.

Doggymummar · 11/11/2023 15:20

I don't get the storing the dirty pants for later. They would go in the wash by themselves as soon as the accident happened. I would throw the sponge I think for poo but otherwise it would go in the dishwasher on a hot wash with all the other cleaning cloths and brushes.

PortalooSunset · 11/11/2023 15:20

Where would you have washed the box @OneLittleFinger ?

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