To feel disgusted he washed it in the kitchen sink

No, he is lovely and doesn't mind cleaning at all. I know that some men would do it deliberately (as would some women if they didn't want to do a certain job, so it isn't just men) but he really doesn't.

I know it sounds sexist but I really think that men's brains work differently to women's when it comes to cleaning (well in my experience they do).

I just don't like the way they clean. They don't have the same attitude to hygiene as I do. Perhaps I am wrong and they are right, but I would just rather do it myself as otherwise I would have to supervise him.

I can see why you might find it a bit grim, OP, but is it really any worse than washing a mooncup in a public sink (presumably without washing up liquid) which other unsuspecting people might then wash their hands in?

I don't think this is the same.

I'm also a reusable nappy veteran (3 dc). Sometimes pants are unsalvagable. Nothing to do with laziness.

I can see why you might find it a bit grim, OP, but is it really any worse than washing a mooncup in a public sink (presumably without washing up liquid) which other unsuspecting people might then wash their hands in?

You both sound equally disgusting. Leaving shit around the house is just as bad as putting it in the washing machine! Kids' pants are cheap, just bin the pooey ones. If you're having a lot of poo accidents, go back to pull-ups and/or be more vigilant and ready with the potty.

Well I’m pissed off that you’ve used the phrase “he’s pissed”, unless you’re American I suppose. Anyway, frankly I think you now go off and get pissed and let him sort out the poo. Cheers.

Rinse pants in the loo 😂😂 fucking brilliant

Back in the day when I used cloth nappies, the shower hose reached across to the loo (small bathroom) so it was really easy to clean off the debris thoroughly before soaking them in Napisan.

oh my good why was solid poo left in the pants anyway???

God this whole thread is gross - OP your approach is infinitely worse - soiled underwear sitting around 🤮

Rinsing in the loo makes no sense; sure, dispose of the product there, but rinsing - no.

Your H putting straight into the machine & then using yhr dish brush is also manky.

I've had 3 DC & never encountered this dilemma - rinsed at time, left to soak or quickly in a wash. No pants so bad that they'd be soiled to that extent & left sitting around. How often does this happen?

Saving shitty pants in a box in the kitchen i wouldent want a cup a tea from your home.

I'm sure they weren't left in the kitchen. That would be too disgusting to contemplate.

You rinse in toilet immediately. Pour jugs of water over them until cleanish then put in box to wash. Rinsing in the sink wouldn't bother me though I'd throw sponge away and bleach the sink area after

@girlswillbegirls people do rinse in the actual toilet - I know a few people who used cloth nappies. That's what they did. They also had a poo knife.

I read on here a suggestion to rinse your moon cup under in the loo as it flushes in public toilets.before reinserting

This, I have binned so many things that I can't be bothered to go scrubbing and rinsing, and then cleaning up again after. I think it's so disgusting keeping it in a box!

Why keep them when my kids had accidents id put the pants in a bag and put them straight in the bin not save them in a box in the kitchen.
you can get packs of pants for a few ££ from asda.

You both sound unhygienic.
Saving shitty pants in a box in the kitchen i wouldent want a cup a tea from your home.

I know 😂
I don't think anyone would do that but who knows...

Ahh the marry-a-domestic-martyr trick worked didn’t it? Clever bloke.

This!!

Op I would love to spend a day in your life and have your issues. You ain't got nothing better to do?

Not it isn't, back in the days of Terry nappies the liner and contents would be down the loo and if the liner hadn't caught everything then I would hold the nappy tight, flush the loo and let the water pressure get the rest off, it usually worked, then the nappy would go into the nappy bucket by the side of the loo.

The suggestions to bin the pants show how using disposables makes people lazy.

I usually put anything with poo on straight in the wash on a rinse (after taking off any solid bits obviously) so they're not lying around.

He probably didn't realise or had forgotten.

I agree on to wash the box in the sink - you can clean / bleach the sink.

Bin the sponge

I've just read the word poo so many times it's lost all meaning.
Your standards are no higher than his if you're leaving solid poo in a box in your kitchen...sorry.

Why?

OP, I don't think there's anything wrong with rinsing in the loo, perfectly normal. But I also don't think there's anything wrong with what your DH did. And unless the box actually had poo touching it, I wouldn't be that worried about the sponge, though as sponges are pennies, I'd have changed it anyway.

He hasn’t done the job to your satisfaction. Either he is a bit careless on hygiene and clearly doesnt work in catering or he is suffering from Simulated Domestic Imcompetence.
The latter is a common condition among DHs who are able to fly drones, operate sophisticated machinery and cars until confronted with a washing machine or dishwasher. “Ooh it’s too complicated I didn’t know which buttons to press” said the university professor who operated a genetic lab. it meant all jobs were done by me until I wised up. He’s an ExH now.

I’m grossed out by SO many things on this thread.

MN is weird. On one hand you need to change a bra every day and wash the towels after one use, and if anyone sleeps in underpants they need to change them morning and evening; these rules include prepubescent non smelly children. On the other hand, wearing chemically treated clothes straight from the shop is fine, sticking your small child’s clothes into the toilet is fine, leaving bits of solid poo out to mature is fine, washing poo in the kitchen sink is fine, and showering with recycling bins (!!) is fine.

Utterly confused.

Fucking hell. You rinse them IN THE LOO??? You don't get rid of the bulk of the shit immediately?

And you are complaining about the kaks being rinsed in the sink?

I think you're both dirty clarts!!!