My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years and decided to move in together with me and my two school aged children 6 months ago.
He moved into my place that I own outright with no mortgage.
Before moving in he told me he wanted to contribute to the outgoings.
Since moving in he has not contributed at all financially. He has said he is having a tough time financially and not earning from his work as he’s had a lot of clients drop off but has a big job at the end of the year which will bring him in a big cheque. However he still hasn’t offered or suggested to contribute then.
He will, on occasion, buy some groceries if we go to the supermarket together. He will also pick up things he likes to eat on his own time.
He doesn’t do housework as I pay for a cleaner for a few hours a week and then do the rest myself. He is not messy and tidies away his own things.
His child comes to stay every other weekend and I cook for him and we do things together as a family. Often I book these things for us.
When I say that I do a lot for him he sneers and says that I don’t. He doesn’t see that I am doing anything for him as I would ‘still do all the same things if he weren’t living here.’ Like pay the bills, cook, clean, look after the kids. He does his own laundry.
He comes home to a tidy, looked after home with dinner on the table. Although often he will just get a sandwich on the way back from work and not eat what I’ve made.
Before he moved in we used to spend time at his apartment (where he managed to pay the rent and bills and do the housework all alone) and would go away on breaks together and go for meals out. Most of which he would pay for. Since moving in we don’t do those things anymore. We have been away once and I booked, organised and paid for it all.
Am I being unreasonable to expect him to contribute something towards the expenses or should I wait until he is in a better financial position?