Just thinking about women in the public eye who have had babies unusually late (e.g. Hilary Swank giving birth to twins at 48, Cameron Diaz via surrogate in her 40s etc) obviously we don’t know the circumstances but statistically some of them are likely to be with donor eggs, and some of them are public about using a surrogate.
Given how many men seem to go for younger women, and the fact that a man in a position to attract e.g. a Hollywood star would probably be in a position to partner with a woman still of childbearing age even if he is older, AIBU overly cynical/unromantic about men to be a bit surprised that these men are apparently happy to partner with women who won’t be the biological mother of their child and/or might not be their birth mother? Is it just, taking the nicest interpretation, that they are in love with the woman and want to be a parent with them in whatever form that comes? Are they not really that fussed about the woman being the biological mother so long as they are the biological father? Or (being a bit cynical/negative) is it that the lifestyle they can have with a Hollywood actress or otherwise successful woman is enough to outweigh the woman’s fertility issues, at least for now?
I’d be quite interested in a male perspective if there are any men on the thread (but definitely interested in a female perspective as well)