Gym response to being flashed in ladies changing room?

It's disgusting that you are justifying that kind of level of violence. It's not the answer and it's not right.

I worked in a large gym, this sort of thing was not uncommon.
Literally every week I would deal with one man in the female change. They all accidentally wandered in. Never ever did a woman accidentally go into the men's side.
The whole staff men and women at my gym would have believed you without cctv. We were all sick of dealing with the dreadful men and we were angry that the women and girls couldn't use the gym in peace.
Apart from the police you should make a complaint about how the gym have handled this.

Eastenders, I've missed you.

As others have said, go to the police.

My suspicion is that it is a member of staff, but it is for the police to prove if that is the case.

This was my first thought.

I'd contact the police and let them investigate. At the end of the day, this DID happen so it's not possible for it to not be on the CCTV assuming that they have adequate coverage. This man was not a phantom, so there's a simple explanation like covering up for a staff member, not wanting the CCTV examined for some other reason, invalidating insurance by not having adequate CCTV and not wanting that to be discovered, not bothering to check it at all etc. Let the police sort it.

I'm so sorry he did this to you.

I can't believe you think this is OK and are telling your little story like it's a flex.

You were sexually assaulted by a criminal. You and your boyfriend (and his knuckle dragging mate who was only too glad to lend his fists) are also criminals. They could have murdered him, and it very well could have been the wrong person. You left your kid with someone and identified this guy from the back seat of a car while you had two neanderthals no doubt whipping themselves into a frenzy at the prospect of getting to kick someone's head in? Yeah there's no room for error there 🙄

I hope your partner and his friend have been held to account at some point over their lives. There's no chance this was the only time they've committed assault. Violent men are violent men.

OP, I'm sorry this happened to you. Definitely make a police report. I'd also get on Twitter and FB and tag the gym into your post.

I’m sorry how awful - I am wondering if they are protecting a staff member or regular gym member.

And then everyone clapped.

Contact Head Office.

Definitely call the police. Similar happened to my sister years ago and they told her it was the right thing to do as this is often the first thing that people who go on to commit rapes and paedophilia will do. The more the police have on record about these people the more you may help the next person that encounters him. They're hoping for your silence, they're building up bravery for their next act. Sorry you had to go through that.

Report it to the police. This is how these rapists and murderers start out. That met policeman Wayne Cousins had flashed at somebody. It was reported to the police but not followed up.

Please go to the police.

I totally agree with others about flashing being far from benign. Wayne Couzens was flashing some time before he escalated his offences.

Also, David Lloyd have been named on previous threads as showing blatant disregard for female members. Shame on them.

Report it to the police.

Perhaps you could also contact the council about the gym's apparent unwillingness to fulfil its duty of care to users.

I thought this until it happened to me and I was rooted to the spot. I thought he was going to rape me. My baby was in her cot. The person who flashed me was a delivery driver from Currys.

Report to the police asap, if they have camera footage of the changing rooms how can he not be shown on there? And why are the gym covering it up?

Id also post it on social media but not until after the police have investigated.

Yep thinking of that Met police officer who killed that young woman who was walking back from a vigil and pretended he was on duty. He had flashed before and done other things before but nothing was done about it

That's shocking. Indeed report to police. Is it a well known gym chain? Post on socials too.

What a rubbish response from the gym. I do hope you go to the police op. I can totally understand why you were ok on Sunday and fuming the next day. It takes time to process the effects when you have been subject to any violation.

This thread is being derailed with all the vigilante stuff. How is that helping the OP?

I don't understand why men do this

For the same reason dogs lick their genitals, because they can.

@Loubelle70 you need to report your 'partner' to the police. Your girl will grow up to be as awful as yourselves if you don't address how you reacted.

She'll probably be punching people in the high street and spitting on them, creating the next generation of violence.

Try reading to kill a mockingbird and tell him, from me, there is nothing admirable about him.

I agree. I'm not in the UK but there have been cases here where someone has been jailed for years for murder, only for them to be found innocent several years/decades later.

Also, if it's wrong to kill - which it is obviously is - then how can a punishment of killing another person be right?

Personally I wouldn't worry too much about being flashed, but the fact that he entered the women's changing rooms is another level. Yes, report it to the police, it seems the gym don't actually care.

And no, their response is not good enough.