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Gym response to being flashed in ladies changing room?

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Yajebbend · 06/11/2023 21:16

A male entered the female changing room and flashed at me late last Saturday night. I was alone and naked. I reported to the gym who have said that they checked the cameras three times and can’t see a male entering. It must be on there somewhere it happened, I’m raging about it and the response. I want him identified so I can report to police.

aibu to think this isn’t good enough

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billybear · 12/12/2023 14:51

where i live a neighbour was done for flashing at a very posh gym the police took it all the way to court he is on sex effenders register and everything thios is not on police everytime

SwordToFlamethrower · 12/12/2023 14:47

Didsomeonesaydogs · 12/12/2023 00:28

Maybe you’d get a better response from the local paper…

Seconded. Go to the press, shame them on social media

viques · 12/12/2023 14:25

TravelInHope · 06/11/2023 22:48

Perhaps you could have tortured him to death? Would that have been more satisfying?

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This. Clearly your boyfriend didn’t love you enough since he forgot to castrate the flasher after kicking his face in.

OP I am sorry this happened to you, sounds as though the gym is hoping you will shut up and go away. Contact the police, flashing , like voyeurism, is one of those entry level sexually motivated crimes that can escalate .

NaughtybutNice77 · 12/12/2023 14:16

I'd get it in writing so email or text that they've checked the CCTV for the times stated (and could find nothing)....then I'd inform the Police.
Have you seen this person before? So you think it m8ght be an employee? Might be worth having a nose, so looking around at website, the facility, noticeboards etc.Be careful what you post on SM too as sometimes this can prejudice cases.
You know what you saw. Don't be gas lit

BrightGreenMoonBuggy · 12/12/2023 13:17

So there is footage. Sounds very much like they hoped you would just go away if they said there was no evidence and then they wouldn’t have to deal with the person who did it. I’m sorry this happened to you and that you weren’t believed.

CormorantStrikesBack · 12/12/2023 10:11

Knowing DL though if he says it was a mistake and he went in the wrong changing room they’d probably believe him!

CormorantStrikesBack · 12/12/2023 10:10

Yajebbend · 11/12/2023 21:55

No update from police. Nothing atall

gym have back tracked and now found the footage but can’t tell me any more than that. No update or calls from them since telling me they had found it

not sure what I was expecting to be honest

How long since they said they’d found the footage? Can you contact them again and ask what’s happening? I’d want some assurance this person has been banned.

Blueink · 12/12/2023 08:52

Sorry it’s awful you haven’t felt heard about your concerns, obviously we don’t know what’s going on in the background, but interesting the gym have now “found” the footage.

Can you follow up the police for an update?

Have you raised a complaint to head office?

Didsomeonesaydogs · 12/12/2023 00:28

Maybe you’d get a better response from the local paper…

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Yajebbend · 11/12/2023 21:55

No update from police. Nothing atall

gym have back tracked and now found the footage but can’t tell me any more than that. No update or calls from them since telling me they had found it

not sure what I was expecting to be honest

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Battytwatty · 27/11/2023 19:47

Any update from the Gym? Or Police, OP ?

Catsmere · 18/11/2023 08:28

EtiennePalmiere · 18/11/2023 06:47

Not to mention plenty of police see rape and flashing as a fun hobby instead of a crime 🙄

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All too true.

EtiennePalmiere · 18/11/2023 06:47

Catsmere · 14/11/2023 20:23

Given organisations deny men have raped women on their premises, and the police's attitude in general, it's not remotely a reflection on you that they're trying to sweep this under the carpet.

Not to mention plenty of police see rape and flashing as a fun hobby instead of a crime 🙄

FarEast · 17/11/2023 10:46

Yajebbend · 14/11/2023 11:02

It’s just that feeling that I’m being dramatic, I know I’m not but I honestly can’t believe the non redponse

You’re not being dramatic. Flashing is sexual harassment and “entry level” sexual assault. It’s serious.

The gym should be taking it very seriously.

I’d be leaving the gym and telling them why. Chain Gyms nowadays are very reliant on membership after Covid. And DL gyms are not cheap!

jeaux90 · 15/11/2023 08:04

OP they are on X (Twitter) I'd go on there and kick up a stink.

Catsmere · 14/11/2023 20:23

Given organisations deny men have raped women on their premises, and the police's attitude in general, it's not remotely a reflection on you that they're trying to sweep this under the carpet.

Sugarfree23 · 14/11/2023 11:55

I think you'd be better pressuring the police rather than the gym.

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Yajebbend · 14/11/2023 11:49

David Lloyd cheadle

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jeaux90 · 14/11/2023 11:26

Social media OP. Shame them into action. Which gym is it?

EarthlyNightshade · 14/11/2023 11:11

Yajebbend · 14/11/2023 11:02

It’s just that feeling that I’m being dramatic, I know I’m not but I honestly can’t believe the non redponse

Email every morning. Just forward the same message.

Are you still using the gym?

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Yajebbend · 14/11/2023 11:02

It’s just that feeling that I’m being dramatic, I know I’m not but I honestly can’t believe the non redponse

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Floogal · 14/11/2023 10:00

Go to the press!

SierraSapphire · 14/11/2023 06:37

Ah that's crap OP. I'm a DL member too, I love the gym and it's really important to me after having cancer, but I'd be really put off going if that happened at ours.

EtiennePalmiere · 14/11/2023 02:54

Maybe take it to social media ? It's really unfair this is being swept under the rug

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