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To not get paying thousands for a wedding?

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Milkshakeandcream · 03/11/2023 20:42

I know I'm probably in the minority. It's just something I struggle to understand.

My friend is getting married and it's costing literally tens of thousands of pounds. They haven't really got the money but are saving hard and borrowing and I know that it's what she wants.

I'd be really annoyed if someone judged me for what I spend my money on. We all have to prioritise and do what makes us happy. Knowing this, I still wince at the cost and can't help but think what else the money could be used for.

My cousin spent thousands on a lovely wedding and they divorced three years later.

If you spent a lot do you regret it or was it worth every penny?

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windypumpkin · 03/11/2023 20:53

I spent 5K and it was worth every penny

BananaSpanner · 03/11/2023 20:53

Ours cost about 12k. It was a struggle at the time as I was on maternity leave but don’t regret it one bit. Fab day, wonderful memories and all of our loved ones there to share it with us. Could have done it cheaper but it was what we wanted.

SpringingJoy · 03/11/2023 20:52

We spent about £9k and I don't regret a penny. BUT...that £9k was all 'spare' income and we lived very tightly for about a year but that was it. No saving for years or lending. We had a £3k unexpected windfall, we used all of my £3k annual bonus instead of using it for a holiday as usual and then cut general spending right back to scrape the other £3k together over a year.

Also worth noting this was 2014. We got a church wedding for 80 guests and a reception in a beautiful, sought after coastal resort...cars, outfits, wedding breakfast, evening buffet, decorations, hair and make up done. All the trimmings. I doubt £9k would touch the sides nowadays for similar and makes me very grateful we did it when we did.

Sn1859 · 03/11/2023 20:50

I’ve never been married myself but I get where you’re coming from. I’ve been to two weddings that cost over £20,000 and both parties have said although it was a nice day, it wasn’t worth that much money! I can see why they are so expensive though. Wedding = ££ it seems!

StaySpicy · 03/11/2023 20:47

Ours was about £16k for everything. I don't regret it one bit. It was a lovely day all about us (nice to have one day in life like that!), with everyone we loved most, some of whom are no longer with us. Such lovely memories.

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