AIBU to be a bit peeved that dh doesn’t take any food likes and dislikes in to account when cooking for the family?

Yanbu. Way too much red/processed meat and pastry!

He should be mature enough to have an adult discussion about balanced diets and nutrients, rather than taking criticism of his meals personally.

Could you all be involved with the meal plan?

I think it's nice that you are asking here for opinions - you sound like a nice, balanced person.

I have to say that I do think that if you and your kids want different meals you should make them yourselves.

It doesn't have to be time consuming and expensive - couscous with some veg costs pence and takes minutes.

I'd possibly say differently if your husband didn't work. But he works full time. So it's nice of him also to be willing to be full time cook in my opinion (your other jobs seem shared out, from what I can tell - you do a bit more of this, him a bit more of that - but not a big imbalance).

I don't always love the food my husband cooks. He doesn't always love the food I make, probably. That's why we share it out. Both of us express polite gratitude for the meal that is cooked for us - because to do anything else would lead to hurt and upset I think!

Maybe the answer here is just for you and your husband to alternate cooking. And can your kids take a turn too? My daughter has cooked for us (with help when needed) about once a week from age 11 - she enjoys it and it's a good skill.

YANBU. He isn’t doing the job properly if he’s not meeting your nutritional needs with the lack of veg!

Yes, I don’t think the person responsible for food shopping/cooking gets to unilaterally decide how it’s done, especially if they keep serving up things without vegetables! Household tasks should be decided on to agreed standards: presumably though you do painting and decorating you don’t have carte blanche to decide on colours without his input, you wouldn’t book holidays he doesn’t like, or clean with products he hates the scent of. (I hope!) You wouldn’t declutter all his possessions and keep your own stuff out.

He’s meant to be cooking for the benefit of four people, not just cooking for himself but making enough to share.

If I left the meal planning to DH he would probably cook pork chops with potato and a vegetable every night. I’ve been through cancer treatment and too ill to do my share but I buy what I want online and it is delivered weekly so he just cooks it/heats it up. Think Charlie Bigham ready meal type food.
It’s getting more of a challenge as I am doing the Zoe project but I am recovering from chemotherapy now so can make healthy lentil soup and veggie chilli for myself at last.
YANBU but you might need to get the whole family involved in Meal planning and cooking. The DC will learn some useful life skills.

He's being very selfish and difficult. He's cooking for the family, not just for himself, and as far as you being "ungrateful", he can fuck right off with that. Does he think he deserves an award for doing a basic adult/parenting chore?

YABU.
Planning, shopping and cooking from scratch every damn evening is exhausting enough. It’s not a restaurant.

I eat fairly heartily but I don’t think I could have such a heavy lunch and dinner every day - so get where you’re coming from.

But can also see his point - he’s cooking.

if you can work together to do. Roast can you not do some batch cooking of lighter meals together at the weekend maybe?

Rotate the cooking and give him more other jobs. And get the girls involved. They can make a few meals that suit them.

Well, I do most of the cooking here, and I started a thread yesterday asking for ideas that might accommodate everyone! So I must be more with you on this one!

You’re not being unreasonable but maybe look at sharing jobs differently so you all do a bit of the midweek cooking?