To think it’s never ok to smoke weed in the house when there are children

And there are plenty of idiots drinking too much as well. Far more problems cause by alcohol than weed. A stoner is less likely to start drama and is only really a threat to a multipack of crisps.

If we get involved because of neglect, it's very common to find there is substance misuse in the mix too. Very often cannabis and alcohol. The substance use will absolutely be addressed. However the reason for involvement is the neglect, not the substances in the first place.

I am also of the understanding social services don't interfere over cannabis.

This post is spot on. I work with parents who are under children's social care. Many smoke cannabis. For some it's a factor in poor parenting, but definitely not all. Alcohol causes way more harm for many parents we work with.

Nothing to do with lack of funds.
Social services have a remit to intervene in people's private family lives under specific circumstances and there has to be an indication that the children are actually being harmed by the care they are receiving. Not only that, to intervene above the 'voluntary/support' level that harm has to meet the threshold of 'significant' harm not just less than ideal.
there is no actual evidence that smoking cannabis in and of itself harms children in your care. Passive smoking is harmful but it's a decision that parents are allowed to make. Being stoned isn't great for parenting but it's not likely to lead to actual harm. Being drunk is much more dangerous. Some adults develop mental health issues as a result but most don't. Parents who are chronic heavy cannabis users are likely to be neglectful to an extent (probably demotivated to clean, May prioritise weed over food etc) but you have to have evidence of this rather than assuming it's the case, because much of the time it won't be. Heavy weed smokers often have a high tolerance and can smoke a lot before functioning is actually impaired.

People who call for social services to have even greater powers to intervene in people's family lives should really think about what kind of society they are advocating for.

Tragic, the lack of funds.

In answer to the general question, it would depend for me...

I will hold my hand up and say every now and then I will go out in my garden after my child is asleep and smoke a small joint. But that being said it's probably once every few months and I would never dream of doing it whilst my child was up and about, nor would I do it inside my house. And I certainly wouldn't get in my car afterwards, even without my child.

So yes given the specifics of your situation, its not so much smoking weed when you have children, that I think is the problem. Its the amount, the location, the time and definitely the fact they are driving around with their child in the car after doing so. That's atrocious.

Except having a glass of wine is legal.

Too many idiot smoking that stinking shit and not giving a toss about others.

@Xanders you need to report for the children's sake.

I just hope the dh finds a backbone and reports

Knowledge that someone regularly drives high does come with a responsibility

To report

I'm fairness she isn't responsible for the actions of others, they are.

I knew the op would slither off when we pulled her up about the fact she knows these people are driving whilst under the influence and smoking weed around their 3 children - yet has no intention of actively doing anything about it beyond navel gazing about what to do about her irritation at the smoke here children may be inhaling

Police? What do you think they will do??

Of course it is not okay. Report it to Housing Association, police and social services.

Aside from the 2nd hand smoke that I don't agree with, there's not much difference between smoking a joint and having a glass of wine.

You need to report them to the police if you suspect driving whilst high!!! Jeez

I believe you! It explains an awful lot.

Social services will not give a shit about cannabis. They don't care about recreation cannabis use, even if in the house around children. I have experience with this exact situation and social services will not intervene.

I don't think it's specifically weed that's the issue. I don't agree with smoking cigarettes around children either.

Social services won't act on a report of smoking weed around children

I'm surprised at that. I hope it changes!

FFS

why the hell haven’t you reported them for driving their car whilst high

Boo hoo

Smoking weed does result in second-hand smoke, and I don't think people should smoke anything around children, whether tobacco or weed - so if you'd have the same problem with them smoking tobacco then YANBU

If however your problem is specifically the fact that weed is a drug then I'd see the use of weed as no worse (in fact possibly less bad) than alcohol - and a large number of parents will have a glass of beer or a wine around their child.