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Adult children moving home

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TheSlowRush · 27/10/2023 11:27

Anyone struggling with readjusting to adult children moving home after Uni?

Getting up at 14:30, ditching dishes in the sink, leaving washing in the machine for days, hair all over the bathroom, eating large amounts of food.

I am done with “parenting” someone and was enjoying living alone 🙈🙈🙈🙈

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TheSlowRush · 27/10/2023 11:51

This is NOT how he was raised. My other two are not like this at all, I don’t think 3 years at uni living like a slob have helped.

I have laid down ground rules etc, I am just so tired of it. I brought three up alone and was finally enjoying my freedom, only to have to become a tiresome nag 🙈🙈🙈

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Antst · 27/10/2023 11:49

ilovesooty · 27/10/2023 11:46

Exactly. However that poster continues to push her tiresome agenda at every opportunity. You can welcome your children home but everyone should respect the house in which they live.

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Sorry it's so tiresome to point out that they probably wish they could afford their own housing.

Antst · 27/10/2023 11:48

00100001 · 27/10/2023 11:42

There's keeping a roof over your kids head, but they don't have to be inconsiderate slobs.

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So true. If only those who raised them could have kept that in mind.

ilovesooty · 27/10/2023 11:48

Antst · 27/10/2023 11:37

Welp, how did you vote? They can't afford their own places because the older generations have voted again and again and again for the party that has put unearned property wealth in their pockets. You will have benefitted at their expense! Having to put up with them for a while seems like a small price to pay.

Give it a rest.

This is nothing to do with basic disrespect in the household.

ilovesooty · 27/10/2023 11:46

00100001 · 27/10/2023 11:42

There's keeping a roof over your kids head, but they don't have to be inconsiderate slobs.

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Exactly. However that poster continues to push her tiresome agenda at every opportunity. You can welcome your children home but everyone should respect the house in which they live.

Bonbon21 · 27/10/2023 11:45

Treat them like a flatmate... division of bills, chores, shopping etc..

And if you dont like it/ they dont keep to the rules... they move on/out.

YOUR HOUSE = YOUR RULES!!

AfterWeights · 27/10/2023 11:44

Not all adult offspring who move back in with parents behave like this.

Just set some rules and boundaries, if they dont like it they can move out.

TeeBee · 27/10/2023 11:44

Is the problem with them living with you or that they're still behaving like teenagers?

You need to tell them what your expectations are of them now they are adults.

00100001 · 27/10/2023 11:42

Antst · 27/10/2023 11:37

Welp, how did you vote? They can't afford their own places because the older generations have voted again and again and again for the party that has put unearned property wealth in their pockets. You will have benefitted at their expense! Having to put up with them for a while seems like a small price to pay.

There's keeping a roof over your kids head, but they don't have to be inconsiderate slobs.

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TheSlowRush · 27/10/2023 11:40

My other two live independently.

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Antst · 27/10/2023 11:37

Welp, how did you vote? They can't afford their own places because the older generations have voted again and again and again for the party that has put unearned property wealth in their pockets. You will have benefitted at their expense! Having to put up with them for a while seems like a small price to pay.