Adult children moving home

Wild idea but can everyone just ignore the derailing idiot and stop fuelling their little political fire and actually provide some constructive advice to the OP instead?

OP I think you need to treat him like the adult he is - and like a housemate - and sit down with him and be a bit brutal if previous talks have fallen on deaf ears. What @OhComeOnFFS said is good! He needs a bit of a wake up call.

ASD does change things - not that it means he’s allowed to treat your home badly but he does need more patience readjusting to being in a place where he’s expected to take responsibility for chores. His routine meant he could let the irrelevant (to him!) tasks slide. I don’t usually agree with ‘mothering’ grown men but it may be that you have to just be continually ‘on his case’ until he realises that adults either have to pull their weight or they don’t get to live with other people.

The eating food comment cracked me up!! How dare they 🤣

Antst · Today 11:37

Welp, how did you vote? They can't afford their own places because the older generations have voted again and again and again for the party that has put unearned property wealth in their pockets. You will have benefitted at their expense! Having to put up with them for a while seems like a small price to pay.

Welp, if you look at the stats, the biggest price rise was between 2002 and 2007. Prices dropped then until 2009 and have been rising ever since, with prices equal to those in 2007 being achieved in 2022…
So who was in charge between 2002 and 2007? Do remind me

Massive drip feed there , it's not an excuse it could very well be the reason though.

You can't tell am adult what time they need to get up!

If they are getting up at 14:30 then they can't blame the government yet. Also who ever got a house straight out of Uni? You've missed the point.

This - with bells on.

Once the evil boomers did marry they were often forced to live with one set of parents until they afford to move into their own place, where they usually started off with a house full of hand-me-down furniture for a few years. Despite the simpletons' view, it was never a bed of roses, 16% mortgage interest at one time. Rather than constantly bleating into their prosecco many need to accept that times change, as they indeed did for boomers compared to their families, 'twas ever so.

It's nothing to do with how you vote. What specific economic policies would Labour have done differently? There's no evidence to suggest that Labour would have built more houses (which is the real problem) or reduced net migration.

We've had several decades of very cheap money because we've been importing deflation from China. The Bank of England's Monetery Policy Committee sets interest rates independent from government. It was set up that way under Tony Blair's government - just 5 days after he came to power.

And if you look at similar economies, they've all performed in the same way regardless of the political hue of the governing party.

If you're allowing them to live like a slob in your home, that's on you.

Time to make home a little less comfortable.

If they wish to stay, they need to do their share so create a housework and cooking rota. Charge them 40% of their earnings or 75% of their dole to help cover their costs.

And don't tip toe around if they sleep in. Feel free to hoover outside their bedroom door at 9am. Why are they sleeping in anyway? Presumably their degree finished months ago, so they can't still be tired. They should be up and looking for a job.

This is your house, and they need to learn some manners if they don't already.

I think you have to sit him down and say, "This isn't working out for me. I'm used to living on my own and have a lovely home. Now you've come back and you are making me hate my own home. Of course you're welcome to stay but if you make me unhappy here then you'll have to leave. That means cleaning up after yourself - to my standards - contributing towards bills, not eating everything in the fridge that I have bought, and getting up first thing in the morning. If you can't do that you'll have to find your own place. Good luck with that."

I recognise you now, from the University thread. You have a huge chip in your shoulder about older generations and very little skill in discourse. I can take a guess at why you see things in a very black and white manner but it’s not particularly relevant to this thread, much like your opinions on the housing crisis…

Her other two children live independently - she said so. She came for help and to vent about a personal issue, not to be subjected to a political perspective.

No Brexit? You just miss Bingo!

Um, the OP raised these people. Affordable housing is why she has to deal with the consequences of her parenting.

Maybe get Keir to buy you glasses as well, the op is annoyed that her adult child is behaving like a lazy teen, not bemoaning him being at home at all. Affordable housing is not the issue here, take your canvassing elsewhere.

You’re not a nag, not wanting put up with slobby behaviour isn’t nagging. But it has to be nipped in the bud otherwise he’s going to make someone an awful husband one day, if he gets as far as married. Dump all his rubbish on his bed, don’t wash his clothes as that’s his problem, he needs to be told clear as day that he is an adult and adults look after themselves and the space they live in.

Politics? It just goes to show how how different the world is for people like you that you can dismiss this situation that way and the OP seems unaware of why she still has adult offspring at home.

These adults are living at home because they can't afford their own housing. This is not at all an unusual situation. It affects nearly everyone under 40. Yet here's a parent who seems confused.

Don't like it? Don't vote for it.

So how long have you worked for Keir? Did he promise you that you can afford your own house if you bother Mumsnet with politics at every irrelevant opportunity?

Even the mighty boomers didn't tend to buy a property straight from Uni, the few that actually went that is.
Most stayed at home until they got married.

This. Mine never behaved like that as teens never mind adults.