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To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

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WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:46

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

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Venturini · 24/10/2023 12:30

Men who don’t wash their own arseholes. It’s a dealbreaker. My god.

TheSugarcubes · 24/10/2023 12:29

What sort of a disgusting thread is this?

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 24/10/2023 12:29

Fuck me that’s minging. Obviously showing you disrespect and doing so purposefully

backtowinter · 24/10/2023 12:28

Disgusting

I'd have to buy a new one

IDriveMySupernova · 24/10/2023 12:26

I found a towel my ex had used with this ‘evidence’. I had to bin the towel as the stain wouldn’t come out. It also occurred on the sheets a couple of times. It’s safe to say any desire I had for him died. And he wondered why I didn’t want to have sex with him anymore Confused

Haffiana · 24/10/2023 12:26

bathrobeandpie · 24/10/2023 12:08

did you mean to be so rude, or are you struggling to understand my posts?

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I also struggled to understand the relevance of your post.

cocksstrideintheevening · 24/10/2023 12:25

What is it with men on MN who can't wipe their own arses?

Ellie56 · 24/10/2023 12:22

@Isheabastard I hope the poor girlfriend in the bath made a very quick exit and equally quickly made herself an ex girlfriend. Gross!

Isheabastard · 24/10/2023 12:16

When you are happy in a marriage and having sex, the general intimacy you have means it’s easier to share things and can be more forgiving.

When you reach the stage when the sound of them eating gives you the ick, then it means the marriage is on its way out.

So for WinkyTinky this is worse than if a stranger has used her brand new towel and shitted it up.

I don’t know if it’s a general problem for men, but a friend’s husband managed to ‘spot weld’ on their bedding. For those not in the know it means leaving a little brown round mark from a dirty bumhole. Another man I heard of was sharing a bath with his girlfriend thought it would be ‘fun’ to fart under water, but instead followed through ie did a poo. In the bath.

These stories were relayed to me by my ex husband as humorous! Some men have a strange sense of humour.

thedevilsgift · 24/10/2023 12:16

Have you created posts about him before? There is a poster whose husband has some form of incontinence and expects her to wash his shitty pants instead of doing it himself. Is this you, OP?

Regardless, YANBU.

Putting shit stained clothes or towels in the wash basket for you to deal with is just disgusting and utterly disrespectful.

BoomBoom70 · 24/10/2023 12:14

Imagining him at the hotel buffet in his PJs (previous thread) 🤢

bathrobeandpie · 24/10/2023 12:08

SeatonCarew · 24/10/2023 11:56

@bathrobeandpie you need to read the whole thread.

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did you mean to be so rude, or are you struggling to understand my posts?

Sunshineandflipflops · 24/10/2023 12:08

Grim.

We have our own towels in this house as they don't get washed after every use but if my dp used mine my mistake, it's fine. If he got actual shit on it I would be horrified and he would be washing the towel. But he wouldn't because he is a grown adult.

Lovemusic82 · 24/10/2023 12:06

LTB and buy a full set of pink fluffy towels to enjoy and you will never have this problem again. He’s obviously a bit grim if he can fail to clean his own ass but managed to wipe it on your towel 🤢.

MrsDaniFilth · 24/10/2023 12:06

i was so expecting this to be something trivial - no its not!

toothbrush in the toilet i believe for that offence! ;)

glad to hear you are on the way out - speed it up!

Flissz · 24/10/2023 12:05

He made a towel dirty then put it in the wash basket. What's the issue?

Shit shouldn't ever get on a bath towel unless you have a medical problem of some kind.

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 24/10/2023 12:04

Is it that old 'towel sawing' thing that some men seem to like doing? Hold one end of the rolled-up towel in one hand above your back, hold the other end in the other hand between your knees - and then it's like lumberjacks at dawn in sanding down your crevice?

😂You are on fire today!

KickingEAP · 24/10/2023 12:04

arethereanyleftatall · 24/10/2023 12:01

That he had shit on him that he wiped off with a fluffy bath towel....

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Presumably he didn't deliberately get shit on it. Like, use it like bog roll. Followed through and not realised? It isn't something that's happened to me, but I've known it happen to my patients before now. With some constipated people you could wipe for ever more and they'd never be clean.

Wishimaywishimight · 24/10/2023 12:04

I would vomit; a) seeing shit on a towel and b) being married to a "man" who cannot be bothered to wipe his own arse and leaves shit in the laundry basket.

Mamai90 · 24/10/2023 12:03

Did he actually have a shower? Or does he just wipe his shitty arse with towels instead of toilet paper?

Either way he sounds revolting and it sounds like you'd be right to pack your bags if this is just the tip of the iceberg!

Flissz · 24/10/2023 12:03

Personally, I don't share towels with my DH. He ei have a towel and a spare, I will have a towel and a spare, DC will have a towel and a spare. Different colours or patterns. We don't use the same flannels either, different ones for each person (I keep mine in a bag in the bedroom).

I looked at a wash cloth once that my ex had washed his face with and it was like he'd blown his nose in it or something, it was vile, I don't know how the fuck some men do it.

I've really gone off men lately as many of them seem to be really disgusting things.

YANBU, especially if he can't clean himself properly.

SplendidUtterly · 24/10/2023 12:02

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 24/10/2023 12:00

Is it that old 'towel sawing' thing that some men seem to like doing? Hold one end of the rolled-up towel in one hand above your back, hold the other end in the other hand between your knees - and then it's like lumberjacks at dawn in sanding down your crevice?

😂

SeatonCarew · 24/10/2023 12:01

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 11:58

It's a damning indictment of my marriage when some responders think this thread is a wind up 😣
Nope, it really is that bad. And this is only one example.

I hear you WinkyTinky. 😔💐

arethereanyleftatall · 24/10/2023 12:01

KickingEAP · 24/10/2023 12:00

He made a towel dirty then put it in the wash basket. What's the issue?

That he had shit on him that he wiped off with a fluffy bath towel....

FatherJackHackettsUnderpantsHamper · 24/10/2023 12:00

Is it that old 'towel sawing' thing that some men seem to like doing? Hold one end of the rolled-up towel in one hand above your back, hold the other end in the other hand between your knees - and then it's like lumberjacks at dawn in sanding down your crevice?