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To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

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WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:46

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

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Outliers · 24/10/2023 15:45

This is why it's important to wash your bum, and not simply reply on paper.

Everyone needs to improve their hygiene standards and catch-up with Asian and African practices.

MargotBamborough · 24/10/2023 15:41

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 24/10/2023 15:32

I think most men don't wipe at all

???

CeaselesslyIntoThePast · 24/10/2023 15:32

I think most men don't wipe at all

backtowinter · 24/10/2023 15:31

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 15:29

@TinChristmas thanks for reminding. Buying my first house, no space for bday but I remember looking at similar, I kinda showerhead type thing you fit beside a toilet designed for bum washing. I want to give it a go, hoping it reduces loo paper usage on messy occasions

A shatafe, I think it's called. I'm installing one when I get my bathroom updated

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 15:29

@TinChristmas thanks for reminding. Buying my first house, no space for bday but I remember looking at similar, I kinda showerhead type thing you fit beside a toilet designed for bum washing. I want to give it a go, hoping it reduces loo paper usage on messy occasions

Daphnis156 · 24/10/2023 15:21

A new towel, I think.
And lessons for him on how to wash.

Until then put three immodium in his dinner.

rasellagirl · 24/10/2023 15:18

He is disgusting.
And PPs saying that they share towels? That’s disgusting too.
Don’t believe a word re either situation.

TinChristmas · 24/10/2023 15:15

100% not normal.
There shouldn’t be any shit after wiping and showering!!
just no.
I don’t know why everyone does use a bday or washlets after a shit and just dry paper.

Yorkshirelass04 · 24/10/2023 15:06

VeridicalVagabond · 24/10/2023 11:12

Why are so many women ok with being married to, sharing a bed with, having sex with grown adult men who don't know how to wash their arse?

This isn't about the towel, I wouldn't care if my husband used my towel because my husband isn't a minging grot who cuts about all day with a shitty arse.

This is spot on and I'm giggling on the train....

Debini · 24/10/2023 15:04

Instead of posting about him here why don’t you just talk to him? Tell him your not happy he used it and that you want it replacing. Problem solved 🤷‍♀️

Sayitaintso33 · 24/10/2023 15:00

EvilElsa · 24/10/2023 14:45

What is it with these men who can't wipe their own arses properly when they use the toilet? It seems to be a frequently mentioned thing in posts on here. I'm genuinely surprised it's so common, I can hand on heart say that even my kids have NEVER left shit stains on towels. Absolutely foul behaviour. Imagine putting a shitty towel in the wash basket for someone else to deal with. I'd hit the roof.

It might not be true. It might be a fairly effective way of demonising men.

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 14:58

Maybe he needs a rear view mirror to help check?

There might be a training school somewhere, or just instructions on good technique online like you get for washing your hands and brushing your teeth.

I wish more public loos for us men had automatic flushing 🙏 This isn't the only issue, there's flushing and not getting pee on the floor. It can be a bit of an obstacle course sometimes

Fingeronthebutton · 24/10/2023 14:46

Obviously non of you have heard of fecal incontinence. You can wash and scrub till you’re blue in the face but you won’t feel your shit coming out.
if he is spotlessly clean it’s something to talk about.

EvilElsa · 24/10/2023 14:45

What is it with these men who can't wipe their own arses properly when they use the toilet? It seems to be a frequently mentioned thing in posts on here. I'm genuinely surprised it's so common, I can hand on heart say that even my kids have NEVER left shit stains on towels. Absolutely foul behaviour. Imagine putting a shitty towel in the wash basket for someone else to deal with. I'd hit the roof.

Tiredjoanna · 24/10/2023 14:45

thedevilsgift · 24/10/2023 12:41

There was a post once from a woman who had sex with a bloke for the first time and he left shit stains on her bedhead ( which he apparently was leaning on whilst she performed a sex act on him). And, get this, she did not dump him but just cleaned it off and carried on seeing him!!!!

How low can your standards get?!

😱😱😱😱

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 24/10/2023 14:40

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:50

@StoneColdAlibi literal shit.

What!? That’s disgrusting.

I wouldn’t mind my SO using my towel. We usually don’t but it has previously occurred on some occasions.

but that’s because I know that he actually showers. And wipes his own arse!!

that’s a double fail.
not wiping after she takes a shit.

and still being this dirty after a shower? Urgh🤢

and yes, I am aware that anal incontinence, leaking and other health conditions are health issues experienced by some people.
and I understand that it can be a massive source of shame.

but the issue with OP’s husband clearly is a complete lack of shame and respect for his wife’s belongings and comfort..

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Unfortunately it happens to many women, you just have to read the Relationship board to see how common it is. I believe it because it's happened to me and I accepted it as normal because your reality has been shifted, either by upbringing or an abusive partner.

Whattodo112222 · 24/10/2023 14:34

I have to say....
Your husband is up there in the top 3 disgusting bastards of mumsnet.
He has absolutely zero respect to do what he did.
Got the total ick just reading that.

Devilsmommy · 24/10/2023 14:32

KohlaParasaurus · 24/10/2023 10:57

This could fall anywhere between, "You could at least have bought him a nice fluffy towel when you bought yourself one," and, "He's asserting his authority by shitting on your special towel, this is probably the tip of an iceberg of abuse, LTB."

Love it 🤣😆🤣😆

mimiku · 24/10/2023 14:30

Oh man I was thinking wtf until I saw the literal shit comment. Any man that is incapable of wiping and washing their bum is an immediate ick that needs to go 🤢

LusaBatoosa · 24/10/2023 14:29

WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 14:26

@HaveANiceFuckingDay I really didn't think there would be so many responses. Believe me, I'd rather not be talking about shit. It did happen unfortunately, and I think your assumption that it is all made up just shows me how bad it is!

You exist in a vacuum and somehow didn’t realise that your husband leaving faeces on your towel wasn’t fine? What is going on, here, OP?

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WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 14:26

@HaveANiceFuckingDay I really didn't think there would be so many responses. Believe me, I'd rather not be talking about shit. It did happen unfortunately, and I think your assumption that it is all made up just shows me how bad it is!

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GreenVelvetCushions · 24/10/2023 14:21

Hope you leave him soon OP 🙏

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