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To think its disgusting that dh used my towel

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WinkyTinky · 24/10/2023 10:46

Bought myself a new bath towel recently, a lovely pink fluffy thing, a treat just for me. Dh used it this morning, stuffed it into the wash basket, and went off on his way. So I took it out to get it straight in the washing machine only to find he'd really given himself a good scrub and left the evidence behind 😠Anger level 1-10?

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CanIPetThatDawg · 25/10/2023 21:56

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I bet you leave shit stains on towels

Rosscameasdoody · 25/10/2023 21:54

Imamumgetmeoutofhere · 24/10/2023 10:54

IMO you are BU. To put it bluntly you have sex with this man. Why would using your towel, which you can wash, be an issue?

Mainly because he leaves shit stains on it !!

MagicFarawayTea · 25/10/2023 21:45

That’s not normal. Actual shit? Christ on a bike.
Dirty fuck.

Martz · 25/10/2023 20:31

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Hang on a second, she’s not the one who’s unable to clean her own arse or smearing shit onto the towels AFTER washing. It’s fucking grotesque and I’d be utterly appalled if I was in her position too. Equally, I’d probably post about it online to vent too. I’d be too ashamed on behalf of DH to even discuss that with anyone close to me. Let the woman rant!

MargotBamborough · 25/10/2023 20:18

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Huh?

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IDriveMySupernova · 25/10/2023 19:38

DP accidentally shrunk my sock the other day while he was doing the laundry. He apologised and went online to find a replacement (I stopped him, it's just a sock) But he cares and respects me enough that if something is important to me, it's important to him. He's also capable of wiping his arse properly, thank god!

This is so sweet! He sounds like a keeper.

Sumthingsweet · 25/10/2023 19:30

Eww he sounds like a right tramp what did you see in him

Nowherenew · 25/10/2023 19:07

No one should be having shit on towels!

Id love to know why you are still with this vile man and how we can help with one of you moving out, as this is not ok.

munner · 25/10/2023 18:59

Dirty bastard

Lilibert456 · 25/10/2023 18:50

jlpth · 25/10/2023 01:04

If he’s regularly getting shit on towels, it seems he is incapable of wiping his arse properly when he shits.

Regardless, I think you can rescue the towel. I would put neat biological washing liquid on the affected area, let it soak for a couple of hours, scrub with a toothbrush and rinse in cold water. Once you have the stain out, then put it on the hottest wash it’ll take and tumble dry it. It’ll be hygienic and unstained.

Make sure it is his toothbrush.

MangoBiscuit · 25/10/2023 18:30

I saw the title and thought you were being overly precious. Then read the full post... fucking gross!

Like others have said, it's not about using your towel, it's about him being disgusting, and showing a total lack of respect for you and your belongings.

ExH used to trash my stuff, then act all hard done by when I was annoyed. It was definitely a symptom of bigger issues.

DP accidentally shrunk my sock the other day while he was doing the laundry. He apologised and went online to find a replacement (I stopped him, it's just a sock) But he cares and respects me enough that if something is important to me, it's important to him. He's also capable of wiping his arse properly, thank god!

LightSpeeds · 25/10/2023 18:25

10 🤮

Mariposista · 25/10/2023 18:19

That is absolutely revolting.

My ex boyfriend was from a family of 6 children, and they didn't have their own towels - there would just be 4/4 in the bathroom and you grabbed the first one to hand. SO disgusting and unhygienic. His argument was 'but you're clean when you use a towel', unaware that a damp towel is a breeding ground for bacteria.
OWN TOWELS, even among close family. I have just had conjunctivitis and have even insisted on separate hand towels/tea towels for the kitchen.

lamalamalamasquirrel · 25/10/2023 18:13

Sounds like he did it deliberately

Bumblebeestiltskin · 25/10/2023 17:54

Wait, so not only can he not wipe his arse, he also evidently can't wash himself? Grim.

MammaPenny · 25/10/2023 17:51

I wouldn’t mind, but mine washes his arse so I don’t suppose it’s the same.

daisychain01 · 25/10/2023 05:01

spookehtooth · 24/10/2023 15:29

@TinChristmas thanks for reminding. Buying my first house, no space for bday but I remember looking at similar, I kinda showerhead type thing you fit beside a toilet designed for bum washing. I want to give it a go, hoping it reduces loo paper usage on messy occasions

Bday - up there with Chester Draws.

pythonny · 25/10/2023 02:18

I mean..........The post title doesn't match the post. You should have said "used my towel as toilet paper"

AmateurDad · 25/10/2023 01:22

@rasellagirl What is?

porridgeisbae · 25/10/2023 01:16

Is there something wrong with his bowels?

scrub with a toothbrush

His toothbrush?

Bluela18 · 25/10/2023 01:15

Maybe he used it to clean his bum after a poo? Were you out of loo roll??

Outliers · 25/10/2023 01:15

Yorkshirelass04 · 24/10/2023 16:58

That's a nice idea for people who can have bidets in their bathrooms and never go to the toilet in the office or elsewhere!

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Water bottles to dampen tissue. But I try to avoid defecating in public toilets.

jlpth · 25/10/2023 01:04

If he’s regularly getting shit on towels, it seems he is incapable of wiping his arse properly when he shits.

Regardless, I think you can rescue the towel. I would put neat biological washing liquid on the affected area, let it soak for a couple of hours, scrub with a toothbrush and rinse in cold water. Once you have the stain out, then put it on the hottest wash it’ll take and tumble dry it. It’ll be hygienic and unstained.

AmateurDad · 25/10/2023 01:00

Well where are we supposed to put them? In the microwave..?

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