Friend expects me to order everything

Really.

Tell her to order her own stuff it's not really that difficult.

Why would you want to be friends with her if she is just using you as an order point.

Get new friends

I do this for my mum, who’s not totally confident of her ability not to get scammed. Anyone else would get fairly short shrift if they asked this of me…

"I keep doing a thing I don't want to do, wah my friend is so mean!"

FFS just don't do it! It's not that hard. You say "Friend, you don't want to order online as you don't want to use your card details, but you are happy for me to use mine. It's ridiculous and I'm not going to do it anymore"

Man up.

You don't need to say no. Just don't do it. She'll get the message when the stuff never arrives.

If the friendship is based on your willingness to do this for her, it's not worth much, anyway. I'd stop. Why does she think online shopping is so popular, if it's that much of a risk? If she uses reputable businesses, she'll be fine. I'd direct her to an article or video of how to shop online safely and be done with it.

As an aside, it's amusing that she's fine with you risking your personal data/credit/whatever for her sake! What a friend!

MIL does this sometimes. I refuse to get involved any more.

But for a friend, surely it's a simple, "Haha Mary, I'm not your PA. Sorry, can't do it." and leave it at that.

I’ve made various excuses but I always end up doing it

Why? Just tell her enough is enough and you're not willing to do it anymore.

My grandpa used to do this. He was so worried someone would steal his card details - not worried about mine though!!! Fortunately it was only for things that were also for me like a present for my birthday etc. so I didn’t mind too much.

But I think with this friend you need to just say no or next time she asks you maybe show her how to do it or set up a prepaid card for her. Or just say no but she may take it the wrong way but given you’re unsure about the friendship anyway that may be a good thing.

Or completely ignore the message?

Why is it ok for you to do it but not her?

Just say no, I’m not prepared to do this any more. And then see what she says. If she ignores and asks again, just ignore her. If she keeps on, wait awhile, and then say, I said no.

Say “I won’t be able to place online orders for you or anyone else anymore. It’s getting to be too much. I’m sure you understand”

Send her a message:

Hi friend, I wanted to let you know that I'm not able to order things for you any more. I wanted to tell you before Christmas comes so you can sort out how you'll do it. Let's get together for a coffee soon before the festive madness begins. Xx

And then just keep saying "I can't do it any more, sorry" if she pushes.

Do a Zammo. Just say no 🤔😁

Tell the cheeky wagon to feic off. That sounds like a complete pain.

No way would I keep doing that. Just ignore her texts when she asks you.

Tell her you can’t do it anymore. If she stops being your friend or harasses you, then she was never a friend anyway.

I BET you have lost money through this. Either postage money or times you’ve forgot to chase her for money.

Be clear. Say “No I don’t want to do that any more”. No excuses or apologies, you don’t want to do it (quite rightly).

If she doesn’t value your friendship you will soon find out and it is no loss. You are being used.

Just tell her no, it's getting to much. Its not difficult.

FFS this is on you not her. She's definitely an arse but you are allowing it. If you lose her as a 'friend' so be it. Say no and stick to it.

Either say no each time or just send her a message saying "Hope all well. Am sorry but I can longer keep ordering stuff for you. Take care" But stick to it you are an adult.

‘Hi, no thanks. Wanna get coffee next week?’
Learn how to say ‘no’ to people without offering up excuses or apologising for nothing, it’s a basic life skill, without it, you’re open to being made a mug of by users.

Why don’t you just say no sorry can’t do that? If she starts playing the victim stay firm and just say she will need to find an alternative secretary or do it herself like everyone else does

So YANBU to be fed up with it but YABU for not saying no before now

How is it so many Mners are such craven people-pleasers they would rather endlessly allow themselves to be trampled on by people they don't even like rather than say 'No, I'm tired of your laziness. Order your own clothes'?

Agree with everyone else - you simply say no. "I can't do that anymore. Ask X" Do not be tempted to add 'sorry' either.

Two choices. Either say no or carry on doing it. There’s literally no in between here…

How do you say ‘no’? You either type it, or you open your mouth and vocalize the word. The world won’t end if and when you do, either. It isn’t impolite or unreasonable to refuse a (repeated) request, and I’m not sure why so many people struggle with it tbh.