Friend expects me to order everything

I think this is a terrible idea. It just reinforces her belief that the internet isn't safe.

This - you just have to say no, and then not do it.

She’s a CF, but you are the problem here

The only reason to do it would be to get points and rewards on your own card. If not, why bother.

In an ideal world, you would just say no.

If it's too hard, just say "sorry, had to cancel my cards, I can't make any online order."

How can I say no?

You need to say no and then not do it, rather than saying no and doing it anyway.

I agree with whoever said upthread re telling your friend you have been scammed, so you are no longer ordering online for yourself or anyone else. Tell her you have cancelled Prime (if the ask is to order through Prime) as you're cutting costs.

Oh god not more ordering ..this is really annoying sorry love you but you sort it this time I am way too busy,

No. Just say no.

I have a friend a bit like this, but not about card details, it's more 'I'll just read it wrong and make a mistake and mess it all up', but she expects me to do sooooo much mental labour for her, like read bloody insurance policies or check links of various washing machines, read the full specs and TELL her which one I think she should choose.

I started with being firm and clear by saying 'I don't want to take on that responsibility for you as it's for you and not me' or 'I have no more experience with this than you so just take your time and read' and now I just completely ignore the requests, and she does it herself.

She has many great qualities and does things for me, she'll help me if I ask and offer without me even asking, and I also do the same for her, but I was doing too much and worked to restore the balance.

I think that is the best option. It help her to be more independent rather than depending on other people.

Just say "This isn't working for me, from now on you'll have to do your own online shopping" and don't let her guilt trip you which CFs always do...

I’ve been ordering online for years and never been scammed yet! I mainly use Amazon, it’s as safe as houses. She expects you to risk being scammed but won’t risk her own card? Say you haven’t minded helping her in the past but you’re wanting to keep track of what you’re spending so won’t be doing it from now on. As a functioning adult she can do it herself or shop on the high street!

I used to do this for my mum, and stopped for the same reason, being that I was fed up of feeling like a secretary. I have a toddler and a full time job, with lots of other things going on, so I just didn't need it. She is now getting friends to do it for her...

Just say no. You're enabling her reluctance to join the real world and trust me, it is a thankless task.

I'd text back: I'm afraid not.

Then not reply to any further follow up texts.

If the Grange Hill kids can say no, you can too! 👍🏻

No. Stop it now.

I would offer to sit with her and show her how to do it for herself a couple of times. You don’t say how old she is, but she may be really anxious about using the technology.
My mum is like this but I coached her through doing an online food order, and buying from Amazon, and now she’s confident enough to buy things herself (with occasional errors when she accidentally ticks boxes ordering things she doesn’t want).

I used to have a friend like this. In the end I realised she was quite a negative influence in my life. She made me feel very old with her constant moaning about technology. And as someone else pointed out, it was seemingly all right for my details to be at risk!

When I really needed help with something in turn I realised she was nowhere to be seen 😔

After cooling off with the friendship I've realised I feel a load has been lifted, I'm sorry to say.

As is said on here frequently, No is a complete sentence.
Don’t make excuses or waffle, just no. That’s end of conversation.

'No, you need to do it yourself, or find someone else to do it for you.' Job done. If this causes friction in your friendship, she's not the kind of friend you need anyway.

You said that if you don’t do it, you wouldn’t be friends. In reality, is that a friend worth having? You already resent doing it, and by continuing, you’re effectively buying her friendship.

Just say that coming up to Christmas, cost of living etc you can no longer afford it and it’s no longer convenient. If she kicks off, or no longer engages, then she’s not really a friend. Stick to your guns.

One firm text message saying no and you won’t be doing any in the future is all you need to do.

One message - "Just to let you know, it's quite time consuming dealing with your orders, so going forward, I'd prefer you place your own, or ask someone else"

And then, if she asks again "No, sorry, I already told you I don't want to place orders for you". Rinse and repeat

Be polite, friendly and assertive. And direct. Don't mess around making up excuses

Showing your age (and made me giggle)

Hi friend, I have had a think and I wont be making any more orders for you/other people.

Tempted to do this but that may put her off doing it herself even more.

So I'd just say if my card details are good enough to order for you without being stolen then so are yours. Can't do it anymore sorry.