Friend expects me to order everything

YABU to have kept doing it for so long!

Tell her to open a PayPal account as it offers another level of protection.

She is a lazy, cheeky bint but you are enabling her bc you’re scared of her ending your friendship? Well, that’s no friend anyway.

This is a huge money laundering flag.

say no and also tell her why. That is been flagged to you it’s a money laundering thing.

Say no… simple!

I agree with pp
Send CFer friend a msg before she puts in her next order , that way she can't need it quickly / just one more time / but I promised it to DCs excuse.

Dear cf ,this is just to let you know that I will be no longer placing orders for you, if you value our friendship please do not ask again.

If she ask why the best answer would be, because I don't want to. But if your uncomfortable with that say , I don't have time , I will be placing lots of Christmas orders and don't want yo get them mixed up , it's affecting my credit rating, .
ALL still mean no I won't be your skivy anymore !

Say No. say you’re too busy now and you only did it as a short-term favour. If she continues to ask, just repeat that and say you’re too busy.

I put YABU because you just need to tell her no

start ordering everything wrong so she has to return and she’ll soon stop asking 😂

but tbh you could just say Sorry, no. I’m gonna stop doing this cause it’s getting a bit much.

"Hi Susan,
I've been happy to help you out with the online ordering in the past on the understanding that it was an occasional favour but these days there are so many requests it is really becoming a big inconvenience, and I won't be able to do it for you anymore.
Would be great to grab a coffee before the Christmas season starts, let me know when you're free.
Thanks,
Dublin wife x"

YABU because you literally just need to say no.

I had a friend years ago who wanted me to do this all the time
Say no you can't afford to spend on your card anymore and that's it
It's a bit of a pathetic excuse on her part if she's mentally well

Tell her you will show her how to do it but you can't do it anymore you are too busy.
She will never do it yourself if you always do it

I said YABU, not because I think you should keep doing it, but why on earth don't you just tell her you don't want to do this anymore?

I voted that you are being unreasonable because you just need to say no. No reason or explanation needed. Just say no!

I disagree, she needs to learn to stand up for herself by saying no, you need to order it yourself and cut it off. No pandering or pussyfooting

How can I say no?

No.

I said no.

i still said no.

Repeat after me. No.

This really isn't hard. To challenge Zammo, just say No.

Stop being a doormat.

'No, I won't be ordering anything for you. Would you like me to show you how to set up an account?' And if I was feeling bitchy 'since you evidently find it useful'. And if she asked again, that would be reduced to 'no, I won't be ordering anything for you' and if the requests came again, just 'no' and then radio silence. The trick is to make sure that each time they ask, they get less and less of a response from you, so that it's a clear shut down.

There's no magic answer here, OP. There's no magic way of saying no and doing it so that she's happy. It's perfectly reasonable to say no. How she responds is up to her. And I voted YABU because I think it is bloody unreasonable to cede to these requests and then whinge about it.

I would just say - I have done this for quite a bit & I don't like doing it. It would not be that hard for you to do it for yourself. but if you can't do it then maybe you have a relative or a friend who can take over. I won't be doing other orders but let me know when you fancy a coffee.

If you get a message asking you to order something after that - ignore it or just did you not get my email ?

If this is how she thinks you are a friend I am guessing you won't miss her , however longstanding.

If she doesn't like going in and ordering online, tell her that many retailers offer in-store ordering so that might be an option for her? Oh, and you're no longer going to be her personal secretary/ PA as it's not adding anything to your CV and you don't need another job at the moment as you're plenty busy with the one you already have 😆

I also wouldn't mention about how it seem ok for your details to be potentially scammed as you actually WANT her to start shopping online. She needs to know it's safe to do this.

@Sharontheodopolodous Well done for breaking the habit.
Being a people pleaser isn’t the same thing as being a lovely kind person. It means lacking the assertiveness to avoid being used and manipulated by others, resulting in you and often your family being disadvantaged while you put yourself out for demanding people.

Helping people is a good thing. Using your credit card because someone else is worried about their card being scammed (or so they say) is just foolish.

Either just say no, or ignore her request. If she keeps asking tell her you forgot, you are a bit busy, don’t have time at the moment… she’ll move on if this is not convenient to her anymore

This.
Block her number if it makes life easier.

I had one of these type of friends. Forever wanting me to order stuff on line.

I said 'yeah ok, give me your card details and I'll order for you'.

She's never asked me again.

Honestly, why do people allow themselves to be used like this?
It’s completely unreasonable of her to expect you to do this. Don’t make excuses, don’t lie. Just say you’re not going to do it any more and she’ll have to do it herself. Repeat until she gets it.
If she then doesn’t want to be her friend any more, she clearly wasn’t really a friend.