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Friend expects me to order everything

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Dublinwife · 24/10/2023 10:18

A long standing friend keeps asking me to order things for her online . She refuses to even try to do it because she doesn’t want to put her card details. She won’t even sign up for an e wallet or prepaid card. It’s ok once or twice but now it’s everything. Birthdays, Christmas, anything. She gives me the money but I feel like a Secretary. Sometimes if we haven’t spoken for a couple of weeks, I’ll get a message , no hello how areyou , just can you order me this today in a large? I’ve told her she needs to do it and she just mouths the words I know, but doesn’t. I just feel like if I didn’t do it would we even be friends? How can I say no? I’ve made various excuses but I always end up doing it. Really fed up. She has family that could do it.

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ScarlettSunset · 24/10/2023 10:24

As you keep giving in and doing it anyway, you're not being clear. Simply say no. And mean it.
Just don't do it. If she stops being your friend for that, she wasn't your friend to begin with.

Forgotmycoat · 24/10/2023 10:24

she's not a friend if she's only messaging to order you to order things for her. what's stopping you saying no (and blocking her)? not like you'll be losing a friend. Think of it as empowering her to do things for herself. it's doing her a favour right?

PamFritters · 24/10/2023 10:24

Omg my SIL used to do this to me all the time. She didn’t want to put her card details in because she would get scammed. But it was ok for me to do it?

I went for the nuclear option and stopped speaking to her over a load of other things. Maybe try that 🤣

Iknowthis1 · 24/10/2023 10:23

Tell her you're budgeting and you're not using your card at the moment. She'll have to try someone else.

purplecorkheart · 24/10/2023 10:23

Just say no. Tell her you are going for a loan and need to produce bank statements and you need your limit your transactions so it does not look like you are overspending if you cannot say a straight no.

WhereDoYouGo1 · 24/10/2023 10:23

Just say you are finding it a pain sorry so won’t be doing it any more (that’s the truth.)

ItsmeImtheproblem200 · 24/10/2023 10:22

What?

say no, you do it.

Funkyslippers · 24/10/2023 10:21

Don't make excuses. Just say no, you don't want to do it any more. You'll soon see if she's still a 'friend'

Flickersy · 24/10/2023 10:21

Just say no.

WandaWonder · 24/10/2023 10:20

Say no, do you need it in multiple languages?

loseweightpleasegod · 24/10/2023 10:20

Just say you have been scammed so you are not doing online stuff yourself.