Don't want to go on holidays with mil every year

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Thequeenofthetypis · 21/10/2023 08:24

I made the mistake of allowing the precedent to be set years ago, so now my mother in law comes on holidays with us every year.
I don't hate her, she's not awful. My kids love her and obviously oh loves her. BUT. I never really get to relax with her there, she's just a little passive aggressive and has some odd ways.
I'm trying to compromise with oh, whenever I've brought it up in the past he gets all teary eyed " sure she probably hasn't many years left...."
So my compromise is that the kids and I go for 1 week and he goes with mil for 2 ( because he wants to go for 2 weeks) I don't want to spend 2 weeks on holidays with my MIL, I just don't. I'm not mad or mean or unreasonable am I ????

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whatsappdoc · 21/10/2023 08:29

Why bring the kids home? Let them stay on for the other werk

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Thequeenofthetypis · 21/10/2023 08:29

Fifteenth · 21/10/2023 08:27

But don’t you want to spent time with DH and kids together?

Yes I do. I'd rather just us though. So my compromise is 1 week. We have never had a family holiday without her.

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TeaKitten · 21/10/2023 08:28

Why can’t you do a weeks holiday with MIL and then a weeks holiday without her? I don’t see why the kids need to loose out on a weeks holiday that they’d otherwise enjoy.

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Thequeenofthetypis · 21/10/2023 08:27

I work part time, term time hours. The 2 weeks is his only holiday time.

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Fifteenth · 21/10/2023 08:27

But don’t you want to spent time with DH and kids together?

happylittlesloth · 21/10/2023 08:25

Seems fair enough. Do you work? Could you only manage to get one week off work?

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