Although ex is good in a sense that he regularly sees the children and takes them overnight every weekend, I feel he is taking the piss!
He used to pick them up at 11am Saturday morning but this has gradually gone to 12, 1pm, 2pm, 3pm, 4pm over the past year or so. I spend my Saturday waiting for him. He plays football and says every week he will text me what time he is finishing the night before. He never does. Sometimes his GF will tell me she will collect them at a certain time and then rocks up 3 hours later after they've been ready and waiting for hours.
A few weeks ago he rang at 5 and said he was leaving the pub, he had went for drinks after football and would pick them up on the way home. I told him in no uncertain terms was he driving with my children in the car after drinking and I dropped them off myself.
Today once again I've waited in all day for a text off him or gf. At 5 I put the kids tea in the oven and his gf texts to say she is passing in a min and do I want her to get them. I said thanks but I've just put their tea in the oven. She said no worries she will txt ex to collect on his way back from football. He texts me ten mins later to say he is leaving the pub and have the kids finished eating? I say no. Forget it and get them tomorrow.
Once again, football and drinking have come before his children and I'm fed up bending over backwards to accommodate him. We have nothing planned this evening but the kids don't like going anyway as he watches TV while they are left to their own devices bored in the house all day but I am trying to keep a relationship going between them!
His gf has txt me a few more times on his behalf and I have replied saying not to worry about it as I don't want to get at her, its his fault. AIBU to tell him a flat out no if he rocks up?