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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 12/10/2023 21:53

AIBU to take granddaughter to hospital this evening or will it wait?

She's been having headaches regularly this year. She describes pounding and pain in eye. GP said eye test - optician immediately said that she could see a large prescription. DG had glasses then three months later had another checkup and a stronger pair prescribed. She's due back in December. So I'm assuming that they're increasing the strength of the glasses in increments.

Her headaches have persisted. This current one she's had since last Friday. I picked her up from school on Monday and could tell that each footstep was making her wince with pain. She couldn't sleep Monday night because of pain and feeling sick. We've been alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen for pain relief. Saw GP on Tuesday who said it was nothing sinister but was referring her to paediatrician. This evening she was complaining of eye and nose pain and appeared to be light sensitive. She's woken in pain a couple of hours after she went to bed and her eyelid is drooping.

Is this worth a trip to A&E?

We're very worried.

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Somuchgoo · 13/10/2023 00:35

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 13/10/2023 00:23

GP said it was nothing sinister on Tuesday. Which was reassuring. She referred to paediatrics who rang daughter today (which I though was very quick service which automatically made me more worried) and asked her which hospital she wanted to be seen in and then told her how long the waiting lists were for each one.

Local one was 8 months, nearest larger hospital was 12 months and a further hospital was 3 months.

Of course my daughter chose the one with the shortest waiting time. Which is a two hour journey away.

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Yeah, we got told that too but several GPs...

It wasn't true. The likelihood is all is fine but please push for a scan. Have a look at headsmart btw, it might help you push got her to be checked properly.

Lucyyyintheskyofdiamonds · 13/10/2023 00:33

Hope she’s ok OP,sending best wishes x

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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 13/10/2023 00:24

Wishitsnows · 13/10/2023 00:22

That sounds terrible and so painful for her and stressful for you. Hope you get an mri quickly. Have they considered trigeminal neuralgia at all?

Oh that rang a bell - think that's what my father had. They were going to snip that nerve - but he chose not to have that done.

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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 13/10/2023 00:23

Woahbodyforrrrm · 12/10/2023 23:28

Please push for an MRI. Hopefully it's nothing to worry about but they need to rule out anything sinister.
I don't want to add to your worry but I would definitely want a brain tumour ruled out.

Sending you lots of luck and hoping you get some answers and your granddaughter is on the road to recovery soon ❤️‍🩹

GP said it was nothing sinister on Tuesday. Which was reassuring. She referred to paediatrics who rang daughter today (which I though was very quick service which automatically made me more worried) and asked her which hospital she wanted to be seen in and then told her how long the waiting lists were for each one.

Local one was 8 months, nearest larger hospital was 12 months and a further hospital was 3 months.

Of course my daughter chose the one with the shortest waiting time. Which is a two hour journey away.

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Wishitsnows · 13/10/2023 00:22

That sounds terrible and so painful for her and stressful for you. Hope you get an mri quickly. Have they considered trigeminal neuralgia at all?

Somuchgoo · 13/10/2023 00:18

Are they scanning her?
They should be as a precaution.
Don't take risks with heads.

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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 13/10/2023 00:16

Okaaaay · 12/10/2023 23:36

Possibly too late but try and have ambulance take her to Leeds (not Harrogate or York) - bigger paeds department and likely to be more staff overnight and sub-speciality doctors around tomorrow.

She's gone to York.

All checks were ok - apart from blood pressure which was high. But she was possibly frightened.

She's not had a good sleep since this 'clump' of headaches began (last Friday). - she produced a piece of paper from her room, to show the paramedics, which had all the times that she's been awake through the night this past week. She'd been writing it down.

She was awake less than two hours after going to sleep this evening which is unusual - and she looked shocking.

My daughter decided that she's not going to work tomorrow so she's gone to the hospital. I'm left waiting here for her youngest son to wake up - he cries most of the night. He's just started melatonin so the beginning of the evening is now quiet as it 'knocks him out' quickly - which has made such a huge difference to her older two children who can get to sleep much earlier than usual as the house is now suddenly peaceful when the melatonin kicks in.

My father had cluster headaches - at one point he was going to have a procedure to cut a nerve in his face, which would have left him 'droopy' on one side. He then decided against it. When he got an agonising headache he would ask my mum when the next train was due and I didn't realise until I was a lot older that he was meaning that he felt like he wanted to throw himself under a train. They stopped when he was in his 50s.

Another long night ahead - it's usually my younger grandson who's going in the ambulance when he has longer seizures. They're getting more frequent and more severe as he gets older.

And I don't want to even mention my husband who has a heart condition which has taken a worrying turn.

I'm rambling because I'm literally sick with worry ....

I'll will try and count some blessings. My shoe thread on here hasn't resolved either but there was a slight plot twist.

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BaffledOnceAgain · 13/10/2023 00:15

Do let us know how you all get on. I'm glad an ambulance is coming.

Stressedafff · 13/10/2023 00:11

Hope she’s okay OP. Glad 111 sending ambulance for her xxx

Marcipex · 13/10/2023 00:06

I’m glad she’ll be checked out now. Sending hugs.

CagneyAndLazy · 13/10/2023 00:02

Hope she's ok, OP.

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 12/10/2023 23:58

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Dita73 · 12/10/2023 23:46

I really hope she’s ok. The eye thing sounds worrying. You’ve definitely done the right thing

lillylovely1993 · 12/10/2023 23:41

Have just seen your post and agree with the advice you have been given.X

StarlightLime · 12/10/2023 23:38

Hope she's ok, op.

Okaaaay · 12/10/2023 23:36

Possibly too late but try and have ambulance take her to Leeds (not Harrogate or York) - bigger paeds department and likely to be more staff overnight and sub-speciality doctors around tomorrow.

Loubelle70 · 12/10/2023 23:31

♥️ sent xx

Fuckitydoodah · 12/10/2023 23:31

You're definitely doing the right thing getting her checked. I hope all goes OK.

Freshstarts23 · 12/10/2023 23:28

Hope she’s ok

Woahbodyforrrrm · 12/10/2023 23:28

Please push for an MRI. Hopefully it's nothing to worry about but they need to rule out anything sinister.
I don't want to add to your worry but I would definitely want a brain tumour ruled out.

Sending you lots of luck and hoping you get some answers and your granddaughter is on the road to recovery soon ❤️‍🩹

iLovee · 12/10/2023 23:28

Oh god what a stress. Really hope everything is okay! Sending lots of love to you all 🩷

LittleMG · 12/10/2023 23:26

Hope ambulance comes quick op and you’re not left worrying and waiting x

thaegumathteth · 12/10/2023 23:25

Glad you're getting an ambulance - really hope it's 'just' migraines but the pupils and eyelid drooping are definite red flags.

Loubelle70 · 12/10/2023 23:22

Could be severe migraine but rare at her age. With those symptoms, id take her a+e

Caerulea · 12/10/2023 23:18

Good luck OP. You've absolutely done the right thing, 111 have probably reacted to the pupils being different. Everything can be something or nothing but you're bang on this. Fingers crossed for you all

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