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MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 12/10/2023 21:53

AIBU to take granddaughter to hospital this evening or will it wait?

She's been having headaches regularly this year. She describes pounding and pain in eye. GP said eye test - optician immediately said that she could see a large prescription. DG had glasses then three months later had another checkup and a stronger pair prescribed. She's due back in December. So I'm assuming that they're increasing the strength of the glasses in increments.

Her headaches have persisted. This current one she's had since last Friday. I picked her up from school on Monday and could tell that each footstep was making her wince with pain. She couldn't sleep Monday night because of pain and feeling sick. We've been alternating paracetamol and ibuprofen for pain relief. Saw GP on Tuesday who said it was nothing sinister but was referring her to paediatrician. This evening she was complaining of eye and nose pain and appeared to be light sensitive. She's woken in pain a couple of hours after she went to bed and her eyelid is drooping.

Is this worth a trip to A&E?

We're very worried.

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IAmHeartless · 14/10/2023 21:43

Seriously @MyOtherCarIsAPorsche she now has double vision and fell over and h prescription has changed again this month. The double vision is new today and new symptoms need reassessing, as does the falling. If you phone 111 they would send an ambulance or tell you to go straight to A&E.
Ak any family friend/trusted parent/school mum. Anyone would watch the other children for you for you/mum to take her in. Please go back.

Lizzypet · 14/10/2023 21:42

Please get her back to hospital asap. State that you are concerned that it could be a brain tumor, or something like a brain aneurysm that could worsen quicky and cause catastrophic consequences if not diagnosed & treated. Stress that you want it recorded in her notes that you have expressed these concerns.

BrainWontWorkAnymore · 14/10/2023 21:41

Sorry to say it @MyOtherCarIsAPorsche but I had the symptoms you describe. ER sent me home saying I was addicted to pain relief. 12 hrs later, I was taken back, scanned and then diagnosed with a brain tumor.

CatMattress · 14/10/2023 21:30

Do you think you're going to head back tomorrow?

Dita73 · 14/10/2023 21:27

@mumsnet why was my post removed?!

BerriesNutsConkers · 14/10/2023 21:26

You and your daughter need to come up with a plan to get the poor child to a major hospital ASAP.
She has very concerning neurological symptoms which may be time-critical if her intracranial pressure is rising.

GabriellaFaith · 14/10/2023 21:22

Clinician here - go hospital NOW. Hopefully nothing, but even cluster headaches at that age are very rare and there are several very serious things that would need seeing ASAP. Please go and update us.

Dita73 · 14/10/2023 21:17

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Username82y · 14/10/2023 21:15

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 14/10/2023 21:13

I'm worried sick this evening.

I'm chatting to my daughter online.

I'm a 3 hr drive away from home.

I've also just received another photograph. Since DGD woke up in pain her eyelid has drooped again.

I cannot go there tonight. There are two other little grandsons with her and no one to watch them. One of them is zonked on melatonin until he wakes - usually until 11pm - 1am.

We're stuck for this evening.

I couldn't believe they sent them home early hours Friday - and I was dubious that it was migraine. I've had migraines for 51 yrs and I've never had a nine day headache.

The system is wrong ....

Get down there for about 5/6am and take your DGD in and don't leave without a concrete treatment plan. Leaving her in pain this long is inhumane, at the very least they need to get that under control! It sounds very worrying for you.

Lougle · 14/10/2023 21:14

X-posted with you @MyOtherCarIsAPorsche .

Lougle · 14/10/2023 21:13

@MyOtherCarIsAPorsche I don't want to add any more stress to you, but I have to agree that your DGD needs a paediatric review. I used to be a neuro nurse and I can't imagine someone with that history being denied a scan. There's just too much going on to rule out conditions that need intervention.

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 14/10/2023 21:13

thaegumathteth · 14/10/2023 21:04

Tbh OP I've no idea why you're still posting here with more and more worrying info but not literally insisting she's taken seriously at A&E

I'm worried sick this evening.

I'm chatting to my daughter online.

I'm a 3 hr drive away from home.

I've also just received another photograph. Since DGD woke up in pain her eyelid has drooped again.

I cannot go there tonight. There are two other little grandsons with her and no one to watch them. One of them is zonked on melatonin until he wakes - usually until 11pm - 1am.

We're stuck for this evening.

I couldn't believe they sent them home early hours Friday - and I was dubious that it was migraine. I've had migraines for 51 yrs and I've never had a nine day headache.

The system is wrong ....

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nocoolnamesleft · 14/10/2023 21:10

Mydogmybestfriend · 14/10/2023 21:05

Get private health care for her. It's the only way to go she will get a scan straight away

Bollocks. A child with this description turning up at my hospital would either get a CT scan over the weekend, or an MRI on Monday, depending upon examination findings.

whateveryouwantmetosay · 14/10/2023 21:06

This doesn't sound like a simple migraine. I agree with others that it sounds like you are being fobbed off. At the very least, I would expect they treat the migraine rather than sending her home in pain. As others have said, you have to advocate for your kids. I find the louder I am, the further I get.

Mydogmybestfriend · 14/10/2023 21:05

Get private health care for her. It's the only way to go she will get a scan straight away

Grmumpy · 14/10/2023 21:05

What an amazing woman you are. I’m a granny looking after two young grandchildren with my husband’s help this evening and tomorrow and I’m ready for bed. I truly wish some comfort to you and your family.

Dita73 · 14/10/2023 21:04

You’re being far too complacent and need to get back to the hospital immediately

thaegumathteth · 14/10/2023 21:04

Tbh OP I've no idea why you're still posting here with more and more worrying info but not literally insisting she's taken seriously at A&E

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 14/10/2023 20:57

She fell over in Home Bargains today when she looked up at the top shelf.

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nocoolnamesleft · 14/10/2023 20:55

I am seriously uncomfortable. If I were hearing this story from one of my junior doctors I would be 1)seeing the patient myself, and 2)wanting a scan. Yes, it may well all be migraine, but I wouldn't be happy to stick that label on in these circumstances without imaging. In your shoes I'm afraid I would be going back to A&E, and requesting paeds review.

pphammer · 14/10/2023 20:53

Definitely A&E, out seems there's more there than just getting used to glasses
Most GPs nowadays are health secretaries. She needs to be seen by a team doctor.

StSwithinsDay · 14/10/2023 20:49

I would be petrified that she has a brain tumour if that was my child.

pashminadreamer · 14/10/2023 20:47

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 14/10/2023 20:44

My daughter is chatting to her now.

She's woken with headache and asked for painkillers - she usually avoids painkillers as she hates the taste.

She is seeing things side by side - so that sounds like double vision.

Another symptom of raised ICP. Please take her back to A&E tonight.

Username82y · 14/10/2023 20:44

Go back to the hospital. Either tonight or first thing tomorrow once you're all rested.

MyOtherCarIsAPorsche · 14/10/2023 20:44

My daughter is chatting to her now.

She's woken with headache and asked for painkillers - she usually avoids painkillers as she hates the taste.

She is seeing things side by side - so that sounds like double vision.

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