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Is it offensive to say inshallah?

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Loulou599 · 08/10/2023 12:35

I think it's a really beautiful sound and is more wistful than saying touch wood or god willing, but would it be offensive (if you're not muslim)?

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Photographsandmemories · 10/10/2023 07:32

Warum · 10/10/2023 07:04

No issue with foreign words here, but I do have an issue with using religious/faith words in a secular setting.

So you'd never say "Bless" or talk about "the writing on the wall" or describe a shareholder meeting by saying it was like walking into a lion's den, or talk about someone's fall from grace? Do you get upset when someone switching on the light says "Let there be light" or heartily agrees with an "Amen to that" or describes an ordeal as a "baptism of fire"? You never use the expressions Good Samaritan or talk about the kiss of death? Would you berate an elderly person for unthinkingly using the term "Christian name"?

It must be exhausting having to constantly censor your own speech for religious words, and strip it of the full colour and beauty of the language.

Warum · 10/10/2023 07:04

Photographsandmemories · 09/10/2023 17:29

I hope these people who object to using foreign words never grab some coffee in a bistro or put a pergola over their patio or feel angst when watching anime or...

No issue with foreign words here, but I do have an issue with using religious/faith words in a secular setting.

Zarah123 · 10/10/2023 06:36

I thought it was interesting Wolfen, as a Muslim.

It’s ironic that the word originates from Arabic when it’s so verboten for Muslims 🤣

It feels like any Spanish word beginning with Al is derived from Arabic.

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 22:52

So we're still not any clearer on my initial little language story around the word 'alcohol' except that it's not derived from al ghawl.
There are other theories as I was actually interested enough to look but there's nothing definitive that I could find. There's also always folklore and 'old wives tales' in cultures so who knows?

Mvslimah · 09/10/2023 22:23

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 22:17

@Mvslimah which is fine. I even said in my first post that I hadn't verified it just because I wanted to avoid this kind of arguing.
I didn't mean you were incorrect but only that explaining the word Khamr didn't sound like it had anything to do with the word 'alcohol' as in the actual root of the word.
And I never mind people enlightening me but it would nice if it wasn't done as if it was an attack.

It’s not arguing, it’s correcting and it’s not an attack, facts aren’t attacks.

khamr doesn’t have anything to do with the etymology of the English work alcohol but it’s the Arabic, and that al-khul thing isn’t correct and the link you posted misrepresents the Quran, so I corrected that. It’s not an attack against you as a person, im sure you’re lovely.

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 22:17

@Mvslimah which is fine. I even said in my first post that I hadn't verified it just because I wanted to avoid this kind of arguing.
I didn't mean you were incorrect but only that explaining the word Khamr didn't sound like it had anything to do with the word 'alcohol' as in the actual root of the word.
And I never mind people enlightening me but it would nice if it wasn't done as if it was an attack.

Mvslimah · 09/10/2023 21:50

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 21:43

@Mvslimah honestly, I don't even care. It was just an interesting story I heard once.
As for explaining your religion to you? What a ridiculous statement.
I was actually only interested in the Arabic language roots of the word 'alcohol', not a discussion about alcohol in Islam.

But the roots you cited are incorrect and then you told me I was incorrect and the source you cited was also wrong, so I’ve corrected you.

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 21:43

@Mvslimah honestly, I don't even care. It was just an interesting story I heard once.
As for explaining your religion to you? What a ridiculous statement.
I was actually only interested in the Arabic language roots of the word 'alcohol', not a discussion about alcohol in Islam.

Mvslimah · 09/10/2023 20:04

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 17:18

That’s not correct it’s from the word meaning cover, khamr is the same route word that gives khimar the headscarf that covers the head and upper body

That doesn't sound like it has anything to do with alcohol?

I had a short hunt around and found this -

One theory is that the word alcohol is derived from al-ghawl. This is the most straightforward way to link alcohol and spirits, as the word means spirit. It's referenced in The Qur'an--verse 37:47 mentions al-ghawl to refer to a demon or spirit that produces intoxication. The other theory links it to ancient eyeliner.

Anyway, the point was that we use lots of words from Arabic and other origins. I don't think there's any issue.
A Greek Cypriot orthodox Christian friend used to say Insha'Allah all the time, especially around Muslims.

and further more this is quran 37:47

’It will neither harm ˹them˺, nor will they be intoxicated by it’

definitely not ‘refer[ing] to a demon or spirit that produces intoxication’- that verse is talking about the wine that the believers will drink paradise that won’t cause intoxication. Aka the opposite of what you said

https://quran.com/en/as-saffat/37-47

the word al ghawl does not appear there at all. It’s also complete nonsense

https://africacheck.org/fact-checks/meta-programme-fact-checks/no-alcohol-doesnt-come-arabic-word-body-eating-spirit

Quran.com

Surah As-Saffat - 37-47 - Quran.com

(37) In fact, he came with the truth, confirming ˹earlier˺ messengers. (38) You will certainly taste the painful torment, (39) and will only be reward...

https://quran.com/en/as-saffat/37-47

Mvslimah · 09/10/2023 19:56

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 17:18

That’s not correct it’s from the word meaning cover, khamr is the same route word that gives khimar the headscarf that covers the head and upper body

That doesn't sound like it has anything to do with alcohol?

I had a short hunt around and found this -

One theory is that the word alcohol is derived from al-ghawl. This is the most straightforward way to link alcohol and spirits, as the word means spirit. It's referenced in The Qur'an--verse 37:47 mentions al-ghawl to refer to a demon or spirit that produces intoxication. The other theory links it to ancient eyeliner.

Anyway, the point was that we use lots of words from Arabic and other origins. I don't think there's any issue.
A Greek Cypriot orthodox Christian friend used to say Insha'Allah all the time, especially around Muslims.

You might be referring to the Arabic word for alcohol but not the quranic term which is khamr; and it is that way as it’s a substance that covers the senses

please don’t explain my religion to me, thank you!
https://www.getquranic.com/what-the-quran-says-about-alcohol/

What the Quran Says About Alcohol - Quranic Arabic For Busy People

Alcohol, a common scientific name correlated to its products, wine, has always been a confabulation in the Islamic community. The Quran discusses wine or alcoholic/intoxicating products using the word khamr (خمر). According to hadith, khamr is what cov...

https://www.getquranic.com/what-the-quran-says-about-alcohol/

TheGander · 09/10/2023 18:09

Photographsandmemories · 09/10/2023 17:29

I hope these people who object to using foreign words never grab some coffee in a bistro or put a pergola over their patio or feel angst when watching anime or...

Insh’allah!

Photographsandmemories · 09/10/2023 17:29

I hope these people who object to using foreign words never grab some coffee in a bistro or put a pergola over their patio or feel angst when watching anime or...

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 17:18

That’s not correct it’s from the word meaning cover, khamr is the same route word that gives khimar the headscarf that covers the head and upper body

That doesn't sound like it has anything to do with alcohol?

I had a short hunt around and found this -

One theory is that the word alcohol is derived from al-ghawl. This is the most straightforward way to link alcohol and spirits, as the word means spirit. It's referenced in The Qur'an--verse 37:47 mentions al-ghawl to refer to a demon or spirit that produces intoxication. The other theory links it to ancient eyeliner.

Anyway, the point was that we use lots of words from Arabic and other origins. I don't think there's any issue.
A Greek Cypriot orthodox Christian friend used to say Insha'Allah all the time, especially around Muslims.

Sensoria · 09/10/2023 16:35

Sensoria · 09/10/2023 16:31

I wouldn’t find it offensive at all, but I would find it odd.

TBH, I would assume you’re one of those people who have lots of Arab friends and so try to act all cool and “look at me” by throwing in Arabic words here and there. Which is not a good thing…

Not a good thing because it comes across as desperate, rather than worldly.

Think Lindsey Lohan using the word “yalla” in that video where she tried to take a boy from his family because she thought they had kidnapped him.

Sensoria · 09/10/2023 16:31

I wouldn’t find it offensive at all, but I would find it odd.

TBH, I would assume you’re one of those people who have lots of Arab friends and so try to act all cool and “look at me” by throwing in Arabic words here and there. Which is not a good thing…

Mvslimah · 09/10/2023 16:17

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 14:22

I heard an interesting thing once. I can't verify if it's true or not.

The word 'alcohol' means 'from the spirit' in Arabic. It was believed that the process for making alcohol was quite complicated and came to existence due to being dictated by an evil spirit.
This is also why spirits (as in alcoholic drinks) are called spirits.

That’s not correct it’s from the word meaning cover, khamr is the same route word that gives khimar the headscarf that covers the head and upper body

Warum · 09/10/2023 14:50

I don't like anyone bringing god or religious phrases into conversations etc. There's much better, inclusive (for want of a better word) ways to wish someone well.

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 09/10/2023 14:29

@Wolfen I don't know if it's true but I love this kind of weird interesting trivia thanks. It certainly seems to have come from Spain just after the Arabic colonial period. Certainly words and phrases do travel between languages from natural cultural exchange.

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 14:23

Er when I say verify I mean if the story behind the word is true, not the actual story about the evil spirit etc

Wolfen · 09/10/2023 14:22

I heard an interesting thing once. I can't verify if it's true or not.

The word 'alcohol' means 'from the spirit' in Arabic. It was believed that the process for making alcohol was quite complicated and came to existence due to being dictated by an evil spirit.
This is also why spirits (as in alcoholic drinks) are called spirits.

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 09/10/2023 14:21

if a Muslim said 'god willing' to me I would presume he or she was talking about their God (if you will) rather than they were 'pretending' to be Christian BUT that would only be true if we were talking English.

I think if you speak Arabic its fair enough but could be a bit weird if you're not Muslim, or speaking to a Muslim and don't speak any other Arabic.

Zarah123 · 09/10/2023 14:17

Bellaboo01 · 09/10/2023 13:59

Nope!

Plenty of people get what OP is saying though.

Bellaboo01 · 09/10/2023 13:59

Loulou599 · 08/10/2023 12:42

Yeah as well as being a beautiful sound IMO there is something in the idea of fate aligning there. Where fingers crossed or touch wood to me is almost like there's a negative idea of an "anti curse". Anyone know what I'm on about?!

Nope!

Highandlows · 09/10/2023 13:54

Who are the authorities to decide what is offensive or not? but it seem that if you use that word out of context is stupid more than anything else.

FatOaf · 09/10/2023 13:25

We have our own British words and sayings, we don't need to be speaking Arabic.

How's your... you know, what you do with generalising relationships between numbers by using symbols to represent them? Aargh! If only there were a "British" word for it. In Arabic, it's called algebra.