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Complaining about Village life?

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BumpkinChic · 08/10/2023 08:47

I just don’t really get this.

I live in a rural village and almost every week we have someone complaining on the village online group about one thing or another… mostly over things that pretty much come along with rural village life. The top culprits are usually along the lines of:

”they haven’t told us they are going to spread manure and now I can’t open my windows because of the smell”

“church bells ringing at all hours”

“the internet speed is always so poor”

Why are you living rurally if you didn’t factor these things in? What is complaining on a Facebook groups supposed to do about manure? IMO a lot of these things are minor annoyances. I know not everyone has the choice of where to live but I know this is not the case for some of the regular moaners. And I know village life can sometimes be dreary but I love it and have always lived in small villages so I know I’m biased.

please enlighten me, I’m genuinely baffled.

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Antst · 08/10/2023 22:00

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 21:49

ill admit i love the country side more than seeing new build developments

You'll have a place to live though. You have the luxury of whinging about housing for other people.

Antst · 08/10/2023 21:58

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 21:20

@Antst who said anything about using offices as housing? Clear the sites and build proper housing on it. Bullshit that they are all polluted - there are loads of office developments that never got used or the companies went out of business. If they were safe for people to work on, they are safe to build on. I'm also not opposed to compulsory purchase for properties bought as investments and never lived in, to be developed into housing for local people who need it. There are alternatives to trashing the countryside

@LadyBird1973, it doesn't work that way. You're casting around for excuses to get what you want. This is a common one. Privileged older generations make up nonsense and Tory politicians use it to keep shutting down house-building for everyone else.

It costs a fortune to clear buildings off sites or retrofit office buildings for use as apartments. In many cases, it's impossible. And there simply aren't "loads" of unoccupied office buildings available anyway.

There are NOT alternatives to building in the countryside. If there were, we'd have housing on them. One of the main problems is that you lot have actually created a situation where we have no choice but to build in the countryside because you've shut down building for so long that the crisis is overwhelming. What we're about to see is building whenever and wherever possible because people have nowhere to live.

As for your attitude that everyone but you should be living in an old office building, good grief! The arrogance and entitlement. I don't see the older generations who have houses they don't need volunteering to move into apartments. That's what would go a long way to solving the crisis.

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 21:49

ill admit i love the country side more than seeing new build developments

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 21:49

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 21:20

@Antst who said anything about using offices as housing? Clear the sites and build proper housing on it. Bullshit that they are all polluted - there are loads of office developments that never got used or the companies went out of business. If they were safe for people to work on, they are safe to build on. I'm also not opposed to compulsory purchase for properties bought as investments and never lived in, to be developed into housing for local people who need it. There are alternatives to trashing the countryside

the problem then is your building eg 2-4, houses or eg 8 houses, etc where as to maximise profits ect ive seen developments of 100, 200, some even around 400 split across two development sectors ect, at a guess its all profit driven

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 21:20

@Antst who said anything about using offices as housing? Clear the sites and build proper housing on it. Bullshit that they are all polluted - there are loads of office developments that never got used or the companies went out of business. If they were safe for people to work on, they are safe to build on. I'm also not opposed to compulsory purchase for properties bought as investments and never lived in, to be developed into housing for local people who need it. There are alternatives to trashing the countryside

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 21:09

nomoresnacks · 08/10/2023 20:36

Yearly entertainment in my local fb group

its fair points, plus they would be omg, if there is crop shortages in the supermarkets etc

nomoresnacks · 08/10/2023 20:36

Yearly entertainment in my local fb group

Complaining about Village life?
GuineaPigPosie · 08/10/2023 20:35

Also in Somerset!

Earlier in the week we had manure spreading, apparently one woman had to RUN to her car because she was "so sick" due to the smell trying to walk her dog. People in the comments very quick to remind her she lives in the countryside 🤣

ShutTheDoorBabe · 08/10/2023 20:34

A few years ago our town was in the daily fail because someone in the new houses, built many decades after the allotments were made, complained about the noises of the roosters in the allotments.

People complain about the church bells in the village where I live now. They also have trees in and near their gardens and moan about leaves and petals on the grass.

thegreenlight · 08/10/2023 20:29

Slightly different but it’s like that awful nimby couple who bought a house next to Alton Towers and have then challenged every planning permission they have ever put in and sued over the noise of screaming and rides. There are other places to live!

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 20:18

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 20:12

Im not convinced we need to build more housing in the countryside - there are plenty of non countryside sites and neglected town centres that could be used for new housing. Look at all the derelict industrial estates - they are close to main roads, have gas, electricity and water supplies already and they'd be perfect for housing estates. Just because done people have been screwed over re housing costs, that doesn't mean we can trash the nice bits of the country that are left, to make everyone equally screwed over.

possibly cheaper, dont need demolition of previous structures, and more land equals more houses, im guessing too theres other points

Antst · 08/10/2023 20:17

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 20:12

Im not convinced we need to build more housing in the countryside - there are plenty of non countryside sites and neglected town centres that could be used for new housing. Look at all the derelict industrial estates - they are close to main roads, have gas, electricity and water supplies already and they'd be perfect for housing estates. Just because done people have been screwed over re housing costs, that doesn't mean we can trash the nice bits of the country that are left, to make everyone equally screwed over.

That's rubbish. If they could be used, they would be. Many of the sites you're talking about are not appropriate for housing for one reason or another. Many are polluted. It isn't straightforward to convert office buildings into residential apartments. And again, sorry, but you don't get to be the only one to live in a house instead of a cramped, inappropriately designed city centre apartment. Good try!

SmileyClare · 08/10/2023 20:15

IMO online village groups or local Facebook groups are best avoided.

Most locals aren’t on them. They’re full of professionally outraged people puffed up about trivial issues and the very vocal complainers actually come across as mentally unwell.

Mine is full of daily moans about cyclists, dog poo and pointless posts like
“Beware I saw a white van I didn’t recognise driving down our lane on Tuesday morning“ Confused

I don’t think it’s a realistic representation of the residents living there at all. Most people are just getting on with their lives and minding their own business

LadyBird1973 · 08/10/2023 20:12

Im not convinced we need to build more housing in the countryside - there are plenty of non countryside sites and neglected town centres that could be used for new housing. Look at all the derelict industrial estates - they are close to main roads, have gas, electricity and water supplies already and they'd be perfect for housing estates. Just because done people have been screwed over re housing costs, that doesn't mean we can trash the nice bits of the country that are left, to make everyone equally screwed over.

Antst · 08/10/2023 19:44

JaneyGee · 08/10/2023 19:18

This sort of post really upsets me. I don't know whether you are left-wing, but people who write this sort of thing usually are. Why do you "love it" that older residents want a quiet life and dread seeing their village ruined by supermarkets and housing estates? The left accuse the right of being 'hate-filled', but I often find left-wing people every bit as hate-filled. Because their hatred is directed towards old NIMBYs, however, somehow that's ok.

I live in a village, and it has been totally ruined by new build estates. Developers have hacked down half the local woods to build new houses and flats, and at the other end of the village they are building a massive new estate that, frankly, is more like a new town. The traffic is now so bad that I hardly go out at the weekends. Instead of bird song, all you can hear on a summer evening is the screeching and exploding of boy racer cars. Still, I'm a middle-class NIMBY, so I guess I deserve to suffer.

@JaneyGee, your post provides a SHINING example of why people take pleasure in the displeasure of people like you.

I work seven days a week. I'm writing this while taking a break from work. My profession is one that required years of tough study. There are severe worker shortages. I held down part-time and full-time jobs while I studied. That's normal these days. I don't remember the last time I took a holiday.

My landlord just put up my rent by £150 per month. I'm living in a studio where the windows only open a crack and there's no outside of any sort, not even a balcony. I'm now middle aged and can't see how I'll ever own a house.

I and all of my friends are in this situation for one reason. People like you have voted for the party that bought your votes by starving my generation and younger people of housing. You took the council houses for yourselves. You find decades-long retirements on our backs. You expect to live in paradise while we have nowhere to live. You stop every effort to build much-needed housing. Even if people like you were put in your place today, it would be impossible to clear the back-log in the next few decades.

The selfishness is simply astounding. You lot have been so insulated from the pain you've caused everyone else. On top of it all, my taxes pay for you to keep your houses when you go into care!

Badbadbunny · 08/10/2023 19:36

QueenBitch666 · 08/10/2023 16:27

The hunt are trespassing on your land and the bloodthirsty scrotes get away with it because people don't complain. Know your rights and do something about it 😡

Unless there are bridleways/rights of way across the land, in which case, they have legal right.

JaneyGee · 08/10/2023 19:18

CherryCokeFanatic · 08/10/2023 08:49

The best ones are younger residents who’ve moved into new builds wishing that a supermarket or petrol station could be built nearby. Gets the older residents angry! Love it 😂

This sort of post really upsets me. I don't know whether you are left-wing, but people who write this sort of thing usually are. Why do you "love it" that older residents want a quiet life and dread seeing their village ruined by supermarkets and housing estates? The left accuse the right of being 'hate-filled', but I often find left-wing people every bit as hate-filled. Because their hatred is directed towards old NIMBYs, however, somehow that's ok.

I live in a village, and it has been totally ruined by new build estates. Developers have hacked down half the local woods to build new houses and flats, and at the other end of the village they are building a massive new estate that, frankly, is more like a new town. The traffic is now so bad that I hardly go out at the weekends. Instead of bird song, all you can hear on a summer evening is the screeching and exploding of boy racer cars. Still, I'm a middle-class NIMBY, so I guess I deserve to suffer.

Hawkins0009 · 08/10/2023 17:51

its certainly a puzzlement with some people at times

AbbeyGailsParty · 08/10/2023 17:23

Funniest one I ever saw was a series of posts, house searching in local rural area.
First it was rural house wanted , fair enough.
Then house must have rural views.
Then a rather angry sounding post that houses so far have been no good, they want views of fields but not big fields had to be small fields with hedges between them.
Those pesky farmers planting large fields to feed the population to make views unacceptable to townies.

Antst · 08/10/2023 17:14

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Malbecfan · 08/10/2023 17:05

This thread has cheered me up no end. I live in a rural hamlet, which until last year had terrible internet, still has no bus, no mains gas or mains drainage. We've been here 17 years. The year after we moved in, a chap knocked on our back door, introduced himself as the farmer who lives 2 properties along and farms the field behind the house. He saw my veg box from the local delivery scheme and asked if I had had cauliflower that week, and what I thought of it. Yes, he was the grower. He then offered to flail our hedges on 2 sides, one of which is 10m above the lane. I asked how much it would cost and he said nothing. Apparently the former owner of our house was always on the phone to him moaning about something, so he used to charge him £100 a year. We had never bothered him and were indirect customers, so he was only too happy to do it as a favour.

Even now, we wave and say hello when we see them, but the only times I contact him are either when his cows escape or when I witnessed one of his workers reverse into a BMW that was driving like a complete tool and the worker was reversing into a passing place. When we get snowed in, the farmer always knocks on or emails to see if we need any milk or veg. From the stories on here, he obviously thinks he's got off lightly.

FeelingHopelessness · 08/10/2023 16:56

Ah, like my ex-neighbours who lived in a block of flats behind a pub. Complained endlessly about pub noise. I mean WTF?
The bedrooms of the properties weren't even on the side the faced the pub, so it wasn't a sleeping disturbance problem, just general noise.
Some people are just born complainers I think.

MysteryBelle · 08/10/2023 16:51

LolaSmiles · 08/10/2023 16:32

We’ve had people calling the police for a man in a field with a gun. Yes, that would be a farmer
There was an excellent thread on here about a similar scenario. It was a long time ago, but if I remember correctly the non-rural person took umbrage at being told that calling the police on a local farmer for having a gun on his land is probably not going to help them fit into the village.

I remember that thread! Yes, that was the gist of it.

MysteryBelle · 08/10/2023 16:50

Admit it. Some people just like spreading manure for any reason 😂 I side with the complainers in this case.

Postapocalypticcowgirl · 08/10/2023 16:43

I teach rurally, one of my sixth formers was recently late to school because she got stuck behind a tractor in the morning. I did gently suggest she may need to factor that in to her commute.

I agree what a lot of people really want is to be on the edge of a town- that's where I live and it's wonderfully quiet, nice views, not close enough to smell muck spreading etc, rarely hear tractors.

Rural bus services have been hugely cut recently, so I do think moaning about that is legitimate.