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Is your 9 year old really annoying?

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 18:25

I’m just wondering if this is an age thing or a me thing. I love my 9 year old but I find her so bloody irritating. I feel like I have the ick. I’m hoping it passes quickly but at the minute I’m struggling to be around her!

aibu to hope this is just a common thing with this age group?

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:07

I’m going to pull a sickie next week I think so I can have a day at home alone to recharge. I don’t get any time away from the kids unless I’m at work so I just some time to unwind. I love her very much and don’t want to feel like this.

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Bittercup · 07/10/2023 19:07

OMG yes! Such hard work. Will get an idea in her head and go on and on and on about it.

She's the reason I drink and the reason I get out of bed every day.

So swings and roundabouts really.

I hope you feel better soon OP.

thecatinthetwat · 07/10/2023 19:06

Some phases can be very difficult. Can you ask someone for a bit of help, babysitting etc. so you can get a break.

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suzukili22 · 07/10/2023 19:02

The sudden inability to use her own brain, the noise she makes when she eats, the stupid questions, the CONSTANT talking, the laziness…. I need a break. I think I’m probably autistic because I suffer really badly with sensory overload and she just ignores all the wrong nerves for me. I know she can’t help it but I hate how I feel around her.

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Desecratedcoconut · 07/10/2023 19:01

No. He's really lovely. So are my teens. They were all fucking nightmare babies though, you can't wint them all.

Paramummy3 · 07/10/2023 19:00

Quite annoying. Daft noises, inane conversation, pointless questions (standing by the Thames ‘mum, mum mum mum mummummum……….can I jump in’

Notintheparentingbooks · 07/10/2023 18:59

My 9 year old could never give me the ick ? Not sure what yours is doing that you struggle to be around her.
9 year old can be annoying at times but couldn’t imagine the behaviour required that I would struggle to be around her !

Here4thechocs · 07/10/2023 18:59

Mine 9 year old, (10 in Jan 🙏) is quite pleasant. At school, home, everywhere , ti be honest.

TomatoSandwiches · 07/10/2023 18:57

When my DD was 9 she had a habit of constantly talking that got a bit irritating but she has never given me the ick, neither have my sons.
What exactly is it that makes you feel like that?

Gymmum82 · 07/10/2023 18:55

Mine can be quite annoying. More so than when she was younger. Hoping it’s a phase

Lorelaigilmore88 · 07/10/2023 18:52

No sorry I don't think thats normal. My 7yo is a total chatterbox and drives me crackers sometimes but saying you've got the ick? Struggle to be around them?
What exactly are they doing thats bugging you?

Pollyputhekettleon · 07/10/2023 18:51

What exactly is she doing that you find so irritating?

Toloveandtowork · 07/10/2023 18:49

My two were extremely irritating at that age. Very hard times that I'm glad are now past. The worst of it at least. Still plenty of irritation which seems unavoidable as a parent unless you are a saint.