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To be baffled at dislike for Victoria Beckham

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Albioncreed · 06/10/2023 11:20

whenever there is something online about this woman… the haters come out in force. today someone calling her “a Katie price that can keep a husband”

what is the problem? She seems like a fairly inoffensive woman who has made a success out of her life (and that was her own success: she had it before she met David)

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Poudretteite · 06/10/2023 12:56

Agree with you but she had quite a wanky image for a while. Making a thing of never smiling, the stick thin look with bolted on implants, weird fussy fashion. She's moved on from that but it wasn't the best public image.

BarbieKew · 06/10/2023 12:55

Mixed feelings here. I know someone who knows her and said she’s really funny when her guard is down, she has a very dry sense of humour.

But… have you seen the interview where she reckons she grew up working class, before David reminded her her dad drove her to school in a Rolls Royce? I think she’s the equivalent of everything looking peachy on FB when you know in real life there are major issues going on. We’ve all got that friend.

I like her though. And him. Brooklyn is a knob but the other kids seem alright so far.

panelbottle · 06/10/2023 12:55

People hate successful women. No they don't, Beyoncé & Taylor Swift are almost revered

storypushers · 06/10/2023 12:55

I don't get it at all. She barely steps a foot out of line, she's got a fairly stable marriage (certain things excluded) and on the whole seems like a very hands on mother. Her friends speak very highly of her. The criticisms are she doesn't smile much in public and is too thin. Lock away the key!

donkra · 06/10/2023 12:55

LakeTiticaca · 06/10/2023 12:51

Isn't she rumoured to be a bit of a diva?
Like nobody must look at her, demanding ladies toilets be cleared because she wishes to use them.without mingling with the plebs?
Maybe she's improved with age but I wish she would crack a smile once a decade or so 😉

Show me a woman famous in her own right who isn't subject to rumours that's she's a diva, bitchy, cold, up herself, etc. That's just what people say about women who have power.

Ylvamoon · 06/10/2023 12:54

I never liked her ... or the Spice Girls.
Same for him btw.

Having said that, I think she deserves respect for everything she has achieved.

And I also agree, that Brand Beckham is mainly her doing. Right people, right place and well timed. She's one strong & clever woman.

panelbottle · 06/10/2023 12:54

I don't know why people think David is thick? Clearly he knew how to capitalise on his looks/brand partnerships that was a pretty new thing for footballers back then. And obviously his decision the move clubs helped him become a global brand.

LakeTiticaca · 06/10/2023 12:51

Isn't she rumoured to be a bit of a diva?
Like nobody must look at her, demanding ladies toilets be cleared because she wishes to use them.without mingling with the plebs?
Maybe she's improved with age but I wish she would crack a smile once a decade or so 😉

MrsDanversChickenSandwich · 06/10/2023 12:49

ButterMyParsnip · 06/10/2023 12:41

She's basically the British version of Kris Jenner. She created the Beckham Brand. David wouldn't be half as wealthy as he is, if she hadn't been involved.

I definitely think she's brighter than DB but I think Simon Fuller is more the Kris Jenner figure in this context than VB. He was instrumental in Brand Beckham becoming so huge.

MaryShelley1818 · 06/10/2023 12:48

I love her, she's smart, funny, beautiful, successful! Seems to have a wonderful family life. Can't think of anything she's done wrong tbh.

TomatoSandwiches · 06/10/2023 12:47

If you think David Beckham isn't the key player behind Brand Beckham you are very misguided.
He is very much in control of all aspects in his life and marriage.

KevinDeBrioche · 06/10/2023 12:46

People hate successful women. On a much smaller scale I’ve had friends turn into frenemies when I started my own business and it did well. Some people hands such low self esteem they can’t bear to see others do well.

also absolutely agree about self discipline. a lost art these days!

VB is ace imo.

SamW98 · 06/10/2023 12:44

I’m way too old to be a SG fan and they pretty much passed me by but from what I’ve seen of VB in interviews etc she seems like she’s got a really good SOH and doesn’t take herself as seriously as maybe her face suggests.

I’ll be honest, I’ve never really got the big thing about DB. I’d kick him out of bed for having cold feet - he’s not someone I find attractive at all.

But despite their ups and downs they seem a tight unit who really care about each other.

Mamai90 · 06/10/2023 12:43

I think its because of the posh pose, ie the resting bitch face.

I've never had any issue with her, I was a secret Spice Girls fan anyway.

Some of the things the Beckhams have done have been questionable however, probably no more than other rich celebs though.

ButterMyParsnip · 06/10/2023 12:41

Willyoujustbequiet · 06/10/2023 11:28

Perhaps because some people resent success that they believe isn't warranted.

She's basically the British version of Kris Jenner. She created the Beckham Brand. David wouldn't be half as wealthy as he is, if she hadn't been involved.

obje · 06/10/2023 12:40

graziadaily.co.uk/life/tv-and-film/victoria-beckham-noughties-headlines-sexist/

I think this plays a big role

panelbottle · 06/10/2023 12:40

Poor woman, she got very publicly cheated on and somehow the public blamed her for it. So weird. Although I do remember some terrible photos of them skiing after the affair accusations came out and she was smiling maniacally, I don't think that they helped with public sympathy.

I don't think it's weird at all. Depressing but it's really common that the wife get blamed eg let herself go or in Victoria's case didn't go to Spain. Normal wives get blamed so the wife of a iconic sports star is going to get blame.

And then the whole pretend that there is nothing wrong, do a photoshoot showing "our love. It's like when Dominic Wests wife was on the doorstep with him echoing cheating politicians back in the day. It's sad that women still have to do this.

Sehenswürdigkeiten · 06/10/2023 12:39

panelbottle · 06/10/2023 12:21

I think that's the point though, they WERE successful, but there are a lot of more talented singers/musicians out there who are/were less successful

You can say this about so many famous people though. The most famous models are necessarily the best models, same for actors, pop stars etc.

Of course, it applies to lots of famous folk out there - this thread is about VB though.

Highandlows · 06/10/2023 12:38

With all the hate towards them in the past as seen in the documentary. I am not surprised she seems distant and uninterested. I believe people just want to bitch all the time no matter what. Some people hate that Kate Middleton is always smiling. Really bizarre!

TomatoSandwiches · 06/10/2023 12:38

She has made the absolute most of what she's got with self discipline and a bit of luck, married well ( depending on how you qualify that ) has a seemingly solid family and maintains a relatively decent private life.

Some people find that hard to swallow, that's their problem though.

Creepyrosemary · 06/10/2023 12:37

By the look of things she is a very hard worker, ambitious, aloving mother and has a good sense of humor. Don't know why she gets so much hate.

GasDrivenNun · 06/10/2023 12:36

Jealousy I would say.

donkra · 06/10/2023 12:35

Honestly, I think a lot of it comes from the whole not-smiling thing back in the Posh Spice days. Her persona was slightly aloof, and so basically bitchy small-minded people read her as insufficiently self-deprecating and apologetic for her success, and insufficiently performative of femininity.

Tbh I'm not convinced her inherent singing and performing talent was equal to her success in the Spice Girls; her success in fashion and cosmetics is certainly "earned" off the back of some genuinely impressive fashion and business savvy, although needless to say already being Posh Spice and Mrs David Beckham is a bit of a leg-up. But I've no resentment for her; she played the hand she was dealt and happened to do very well with it, then worked her arse off to build a second career. Good for her.

YokoOnosBigHat · 06/10/2023 12:34

Was talking to my friend about this the other day on the back of the Beckham documentary. Poor woman, she got very publicly cheated on and somehow the public blamed her for it. So weird. Although I do remember some terrible photos of them skiing after the affair accusations came out and she was smiling maniacally, I don't think that they helped with public sympathy.

EmmaPaella · 06/10/2023 12:33

I find it odd too. She’s done literally nothing wrong and lots of things right. Also I really like her eyeliner.