To say they can’t visit with their dog?

Yanbu, we had a similar situation with FIL who bought a puppy who's energy was poorly matched to his capability. He would bring it over and it would pee and defecate on the floor, try to kill our cats, jump on the furniture and damage everything all the while FIL did absolutely nothing to stop the behaviour. In the end we banned the dog from coming over and now FIL refuses to visit. Oh well.

They were real for you, of course.

I don't see why they can't put the dog in kennels for the weekend. We have a 12 year old dog and she has always gone to kennels if we go away.

In most of my examples, yes it absolutely is.

Oh ok, none of my recent real life encounters were real then.

Only on here, that it is so bad.

I wonder if it's a covid lockdown puppy thing?

Perhaps there are lots of threads about dogs because there’s currently an absolute epidemic of ridiculous dog owner behaviour? Like a pp I’d never encountered it until a few years ago but now people assuming I’m going to put myself out for their dog happens all the time. If cat and hamster owners start doing it too I’ll complain about them as well.

My in-laws did the same and that dog is never, ever coming in my house. It’s my home and I don’t want a dog in it, and it’s also my cat’s home and she definitely doesn’t want a dog in it. They now see DD less than they otherwise could, because they’re always tied to getting back for the dog, but they knew how it would be and they chose this.

That is true definitely noticed more friends wanting to check pubs are dog friendly

Wondered what today's dog thread would be.

Your house, shame about the dog not allowed because of the cat.

I agree . I think it’s because so many people now want/ expect to take their dogs everywhere. I have a friend who will now only meet if we go to a dog friendly place which is usually ok but a bit restricting .

I commented because meeting halfway seems the easiest solution. Two hours each. Cat is happy. Dog has shorter journey. Dog is not in the house. Kids get to meet the dog. No one has to stay overnight.

YNBU unless it's a Great Dane, which would mean you are!

Honestly OP just sort it out with your parents. There's usually a compromise if you try.

Your house your decision, but don’t complain to your mum when she’s not visiting you much

If it makes your cat unhappy, then just tell them no. Be prepared for them not to visit as they may not want to leave their dog. No one is being unreasonable and no drama required.

To be fair, that's probably because far more people have dogs since the pandemic, and also many dog owners seem to have the idea they can take their dogs anywhere. It's burgeoned in the last couple of years.
Agree with this as someone who had dogs before the pandemic. There has been a culture shift in dog ownership.

Ours were trained gradually from an young age to manage being alone in the house for appropriate lengths of time. It never crossed my mind to bring my dogs into shops, with me to everyone's homes, and every cafe or restaurant on earth. They're dogs. I chose to have them, which means I've chosen to accept certain things don't work for me, like weekends away or long, non-dog friendly days out at the weekend if there's nobody at home or calling in during the day. Country pubs typically had a dog friendly area and there were some cafes locally that were popular with dog walkers, but the default assumption was that places weren't for dogs.

A lot of the pandemic dogs have grown up glued to their owners and the owners didn't think about what life would look like with a dog after life got back to normal. Instead of training their dog and adapting their lifestyle, some of these new owners seem to think society needs to shift around their dog so their human life can continue as their pre-dog life.

Why though? It's not like all dog dilemmas should just be dumped together. They have dog clearly in the title.

You've yet to encounter a dog that stinks? Really? Gosh, I have met more dogs that stink than ones that don't. That doesn't mean I cannot appreciate their other good points, of course. Perhaps you are a little 'nose blind'?

You didn't have to comment, but yet you did.

Or up to her parents whether they prioritise their daughter and grandchild over their dog.

They certainly prioritised themselves over people's dogs before they owned one themselves, since OP's mum didn't allow them in her house.

If she didn't allow visiting dogs in her own house, then she's not really in a position to complain if you make the same decision.

Much as I love dogs, I very much appreciated guests leaving theirs at home. My last cat was absolutely freaked out by them, even if they were at the other end of the house and he was safe in my bedroom.

It was their choice to get a dog but it is also their choice whether or not to make an 8hr round trip and stay over in order to see family and it is possible they will choose not to if additional barriers are put in the way

It is a barrier they've put there themselves though.

I wouldn’t want a dog in my house regardless of my cats.

I currently don’t have a dog because I don’t want a dog so why would I want a dog acting like. A dog in my house/garden.

Op, start as you plan to go, today it is a puppy, but won’t stay a puppy forever and will be in their lives for many many years to come.

If they are visiting for the day, meet at a restaurant, park or do a park walk with pub at the end (or a picnic if you don’t want to spend the money in restaurants).

If they are staying over, they need to learn early enough that there are expenses that come with dog ownership: pet sitting and reduced range of holiday accommodation so stand your ground and tell them you don’t want the dog at home. This will obviously reduce how often you see them but also, how often you have to put up with a dog that for whatever reason you don’t want in YOUR house.