Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To think having XL bullies around children is child neglect?

260 replies

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 10:31

To think that parents who have XL Bullies in the house with children should be investigated for child neglect. Its the same as leaving a child with a loaded gun to play with. What the hell is wrong with people that are willing to take this chance with their children’s lives?

OP posts:
Thread gallery
6
Allofthisisasimulation · 22/09/2023 13:03

I don't think any dog should be left alone with a small child.

VeterinaryCareAssistant · 22/09/2023 13:01

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:48

Bracing myself for the “chihuahuas bite too” comments.

Sorry I know it's not funny but your comment reminded me of this.

To think having XL bullies around children is child neglect?
Insomniaa · 22/09/2023 12:55

Someone I used to know from school has an XL bully that looks like its muscles have been generated by AI. The thing looks almost fictional its appearance is so intimidating. All over his facebook are photos of his 3 year old holding the dog on its lead whilst the dog stares at the camera broad chested and dead eyed. It’s so uncomfortable to look at I have unfollowed his posts.

Insomniaa · 22/09/2023 12:52

I wouldn’t leave my child alone with any dog. I have a pug and my daughter is clumsy and heavy handed. Despite how well trained any dog is, if they are accidentally hurt they could snap because they are animals with animalistic brains. It is totally negligent to leave any child alone with a dog.

TizerorFizz · 22/09/2023 12:45

@Eaglemom Here it’s the Kennel Club that recognises breeds. Not cross breeds. These dogs are cross breeds. You are being way too hopeful. Do you know how they are bred? Mostly under the radar.

Devilsmommy · 22/09/2023 12:44

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:40

@bonbon2023 there is a big difference between say a greyhound and an xl bully. Have you seen the statistics? They are the dogs killing more than any other. They are bred for aggression, once they attack they aim to kill, there is no retreat like with other breeds. The debate about owner or the temperament of the dog will rumble on… dog experts have explained why they are more likely than other breeds to kill and yes they often end up with unsuitable owners. It’s been proven owners can’t be trusted so why let them even be an option?
why have a dog even available that needs a huge amount of training to stop it wanting to kill other dogs or humans?

This is what I've been thinking/saying especially since seeing an XL bully kill someone in real life. No child should be put at that kind of risk, ever

needtonamechangeforthis1 · 22/09/2023 12:36

@Eaglemom I think that's too wide a generalisation to make

I know of a family where their toddler DD's life was probably saved by their XL bully. She had a seizure in bed one night and despite the door being shut and the dog being at the bottom of the stairs he knew. He barked and barked until my friends woke and discovered their DD blue and barely breathing.

They are not all killer monsters.

LakeTiticaca · 22/09/2023 12:27

There is little that can be done at the moment about these halfwit parents who post pics on SM with an enormous aggressive looking dog cuddling up with a small child.
Yes chihuahuas DO bite but there is a huge difference between a 12lb dog and a 12 stone dog.
We just have to sit and wait until the next person is ripped apart by one of these dogs. Which you can pretty much bet Will happen

storypushers · 22/09/2023 12:23

Theunamedcat · 22/09/2023 11:54

You could say the same about any breed of dog realistically even small dogs are a risk we had a small dog pts in the 70s as it wouldn't let anyone near the baby and bit the person who did

Bit them? What was the result of this bite? Broken skin? A cut? A bruise? Worst case they've been left with a small scar? When a XL bully bites you it kills you! I dont understand you people at all.

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 12:17

@TizerorFizz well they are working on making this type of dog an official breed aren’t they and then banning them from reproducing etc.
The fact they are going to have laws in place does mean that any reports to the police will be dealt with in a much stricter way than they do at the moment which is just having a word with the owner, them being told yes officer I will keep them under control and 2 days later they are killing somebody.
Also people will have more confidence about reporting in the first place.
Whatever measures are put in place like everything it won’t be easy, and some will fall through the cracks but we cannot just allow this to carry on, whatever laws or restrictions are brought it is surely better than nothing.

OP posts:
TizerorFizz · 22/09/2023 12:11

Who on earth is going to identify all these potentially dangerous dogs? It simply won’t happen. The best way is for neighbours to express concern to SS or the police. I think most of us are probably able to work out where these dogs might live. They are not owned by people who like a retriever!

Many small dogs can catch other animals and birds. My small dog caught a pheasant. It wandered in front of us in the middle of a wooded area. Mostly pheasants are shot of course. Would my dog have mauled a child? No. I don’t think he would have done. However judging what some dogs might do is very difficult.

Vets cannot agree what they should do with a “banned” dog either. They have already said it’s a minefield. So it’s better for muzzles to be mandatory but who polices that!? Obviously the police won’t. It is very very difficult to ensure knee jerk laws are adhered to and policed. Plus, there will be alternative cross breeding for these dreadful owners. Some people are appalling but what do we do about them?

My dog was attacked by an out of control Husky. We had just opened our gate to leave in the car to take dd2 to uni. DD1 was saying goodbye with our dog and the husky ran into the drive and attacked our dog. We were terrified. The husky owner said he could not control it but had it off the lead with no muzzle. Who actually cared? Not the owner.

Blinkinbloodyhayfever · 22/09/2023 12:06

I've probably got the numbers out, but a statistic I saw on the news said they represent 1% of dog breeds, but 70% of dog attack deaths in this county. I wish people would stop calling them XL bullies, they are Pitbull crosses, as are Pocket Bullies.

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 12:02

Theunamedcat · 22/09/2023 11:54

You could say the same about any breed of dog realistically even small dogs are a risk we had a small dog pts in the 70s as it wouldn't let anyone near the baby and bit the person who did

And there it is….. oh come on please stop this ridiculous comparison… you cannot be that stupid…my hamster also bit me once but that is no way comparable to a 9 stone dog with jaws that frigging strong.
For gods sake can you honestly not see the difference between being bitten by a small dog and a 9 stone XL bully? Really??????

OP posts:
Chasetherainblownfearsaway · 22/09/2023 12:01

@Theunamedcat But there are degrees of risk in everything, including parenting. Some risks are broadly accepted as being reasonable, others are not. Not cutting up your 6 year old's grapes is a risk, but we don't regard it as a reason for state intervention. A pet rabbit could bite a child. Ditto. But the risk from a large, powerful, in-bred dog, from a breed known for unpredictable aggression, which most adults cannot overpower, is at a level which a reasonable, competent, caring parent would regard as unacceptable.

Theunamedcat · 22/09/2023 11:54

You could say the same about any breed of dog realistically even small dogs are a risk we had a small dog pts in the 70s as it wouldn't let anyone near the baby and bit the person who did

TrailingLoellia · 22/09/2023 11:49

The law does need to change. One way that has been advocated for is that the definition of dangerous dog be expanded to include dogs that attack other animals. One of the key signs a dog will attack a human, usually a child, in the near future is when the dog has attacked a cat, or a smaller dog, or a horse. Right now, dogs that attack and injure other pets/livestock are simply returned back to their owners with “words” by the police. These dogs often go on and step up to attacking humans. If the law would recognise dog attacks on other pets/animals as evidence of a dangerous dog we could prevent many attacks on humans.

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:48

Bracing myself for the “chihuahuas bite too” comments.

OP posts:
Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:47

@SalmonBelongInTheWater you’re right. It’s like a brick wall.

OP posts:
Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:45

@Shayisgreat well the law needs to change. I’m glad the ban is coming in but there are still going to be kids in homes with these dogs until they are fazed out.
I’d much rather have something in place that protects that “seems oppressive” than have any more humans ripped to shreds by one of these

OP posts:
TrailingLoellia · 22/09/2023 11:43

YANBU but my pedantic self would class it as reckless child endangerment rather than neglect. I also would not limit it to just XL Bullys but all medium to large dogs no matter what breed should never be left alone with children.

SalmonBelongInTheWater · 22/09/2023 11:42

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:40

@bonbon2023 there is a big difference between say a greyhound and an xl bully. Have you seen the statistics? They are the dogs killing more than any other. They are bred for aggression, once they attack they aim to kill, there is no retreat like with other breeds. The debate about owner or the temperament of the dog will rumble on… dog experts have explained why they are more likely than other breeds to kill and yes they often end up with unsuitable owners. It’s been proven owners can’t be trusted so why let them even be an option?
why have a dog even available that needs a huge amount of training to stop it wanting to kill other dogs or humans?

Don't waste your breath debating with these posters, they're being utterly disingenuous. They know full well not all large breed dogs are the same, and if you gave them the choice between being in front of an XL Bully or a Golden Retriever or Great Dane they know full well what they'd choose.

SalmonBelongInTheWater · 22/09/2023 11:40

It also doesn't really matter whether you never leave them unattended together or not. Look at little Bella Birch who was snatched out of her mum's arms. A grown adult is no match for these dogs.

Eaglemom · 22/09/2023 11:40

@bonbon2023 there is a big difference between say a greyhound and an xl bully. Have you seen the statistics? They are the dogs killing more than any other. They are bred for aggression, once they attack they aim to kill, there is no retreat like with other breeds. The debate about owner or the temperament of the dog will rumble on… dog experts have explained why they are more likely than other breeds to kill and yes they often end up with unsuitable owners. It’s been proven owners can’t be trusted so why let them even be an option?
why have a dog even available that needs a huge amount of training to stop it wanting to kill other dogs or humans?

OP posts:
Shayisgreat · 22/09/2023 11:38

But if it's not against the law and the only concern is that the family own a certain breed of dog, what steps can ss take? Have a convo around ensuring the safety of the child is the only thing I can think of. Seems.....oppressive to take any other action.

SalmonBelongInTheWater · 22/09/2023 11:36

Of course YANBU. I work adjacent to social services and they do receive referrals from people who are worried about young children in homes with these animals. There's not a lot they can do right now other than keep the family on their radar (even with a closed case if it's reopened that info is there) but once the ban comes into play they'll have much more power to act if parents are keeping one of these dogs in the house with small children. It absolutely is child neglect.

Swipe left for the next trending thread