To think that my boyfriend is being really muggy?

No idea what muggy means but he sounds like an arsehole OP. I'd ditch him.

Yeah hard no! Boy bye 👋🏻

if you stand for that level of disrespect and total disregard for your feelings and your excitement for the trip it'll only continue to happen. He needs a massive bump down to reality, you can't treat people that way and expect to get away with it.

also as other people have said blaming his financial issues on his ex is a huge red flag. He probably caused himself financial issues and is embarrased so blames his ex. Just makes you wonder what you'll get the blame for when it goes tits up..

id sack him off, you and your child deserve better

He is showing you who he is. Believe him.

He would get dumped for that if that was me sorry...

Some weird takes...

If I was to book a trip away for a woman I was seeing, full well knowing arrangements had to be made for her children and pets in order to come, there's no way I would expect her to be okay with ditching her last minute. Even if there were no children or pets, that wouldn't go down well.

He's a cock and may give you some insight to the previous relationship.

Yes exactly!

I was thinking the same thing, having a break away with your partner when you’re really stressed would be absolutely perfect.

The posters defending him must have extremely low standards to excuse making plans like this and then cancelling them (but still going himself).

He was never going alone.

He probably booked it for him and his Dad to go. Dad couldn't go, so he invited you. Dad changed his plans so he could go, but boyfriend realised he couldn't tell you that, so told you a bullshit story about going alone.

You're the least important person in his life. Is that really what you want?

I think, in the long term, his behaviour will make your anxiety worse. He clearly doesn't prioritise you, and when he lets you down you accept any crumbs from his table, and he knows it.

You are his fall back option. You need to end this because he will continue in this vein. I'm sorry this is happening to you

No. Go by his actions so far. Unsalvageable. Protect yourself and dump.

Where are you standards ? Don't allow anyone to treat you like this. Get rid and get a grown up.

Get your adult head on and instead if sulking and suspicioning, ask him.

Calmly set out what happened, what you did to accommodate the trip, how you felt when he replaced you.

Ask him what was the thinking behind his actions.

Find out. There may be something happening.

It seems you are both acting in quite a teenage way.

This. He's not wanting a serious relationship here.

If it were me, I wouldn't require any contraception.

He wouldn't get a second chance to diss me again.

He lives with his bloody father - why does he need to go away with him?

He's up to no good. Dump him.

I am quite stunned at the excuses people are coming up with on this thread to be honest. This is an adult man, if he is struggling with someone specific then he needed to have been honest. Usually when people are stressed then a break with their loved ones is normally a good thing.

Me too!

Are you sure he even sees you as his gf and not just a FWB?

This is absolutely not normal.

I can’t believe there are actually posters defending him!

He arranged it with you.
You spent time sorting childcare etc which is often very difficult for a single parent and were looking forward to it.
He then cancelled and said he wanted to go by himself - dick move.
Now he’s taking his dad who he lives with - even bigger dick move.

He doesn’t care about your feelings at all.

If his dad is terminally ill and this event only happens on that day or something, he could just say that he’s really sorry but can you rearrange as he wants to take his dad instead.

You’re like a back up option which I wouldn’t allow.

It doesn’t matter what someone’s going through, they don’t get to treat you like shit.

TBH him cancelling a surprise he'd booked for me as he was stressed so wanted to go alone would have been enough for me to ditch him. The rest makes it even worse.

Why are you tolerating a partner who is so selfish and thoughtless? You cay he used to cancel on you a lot - seriously, grow some self respect.

HE invited you, you made plans, organised childcare and he just goes and cancels on you for no apparent reason, seemingly with no apology or anything, and you seem to take it in your stride! Mind boggling.

Sorry you are incompatible
You are a responsible adult and he's an immature teen, behaviour wise.
You should be his priority but he doesn't understand or care about your feelings
He has a history of cancelling so this is not a one off
He's not worth it, get rid and find someone who shows you they care

Just dead beat dads and flaky fuck wits

He lives with his dad. Why do they have to go away on a pre-planned weekend with the OP to talk?

No OP, I would not be happy especially as I'd made arrangements to go. I would dump him for this

Tbf, it's not always totally the man's fault. Sometimes I despair at the women desperately putting up with these total knobheads.

Are you sure he booked it for you? Sounds like he booked it for his dad all along and said it was for you to sound good but as the time come closer had to come up with an excuse or cause an argument. If his stressed why is he still going? Why not with you? His still taking someone so how does that resolve the stress? Sounds like his just a liar.

Aye, I thought similar.

His dad's shelled out imo. Or he's one of these who likes to promise shit for the good feelz in the moment but doesn't follow through

OP Someone like this will always add to your anxieties. He is not dependable and what he has done to you now is really rather unkind. If I were you I would not be making the first move when he returns from his lovely break away with his dad.
And while he is away have some nice time to yourself and pamper yourself a bit/a lot.
If this were me I would be ending the relationship as he is not very nice.