To think that my boyfriend is being really muggy?

Block, delete, ignore

Do not engage

Move onwards and upwards

All the best

She did - see below:

and he rang me twice trying to justify himself… told him to stick it where the sun doesn’t shine and I’m not changing my mind and I’m moving on

Gosh no not at all blaming OP...just that the man views it as needy...she shouldn't have to pretend not to have anxiety etc just to please him.
Was trying to paint it from his point of view .
Op did well dumping him. If he can't support her now he wouldn't have supported her in the future .

So he dumped you to give you a good scare, will probably have a sob story and hey presto try to put you back in your place of accepting his shit.

OP, stay strong. I suspect he had another woman lined up, hence the random blocking, so you couldn't see or spoil it for him. You were probably also portrayed as the psycho ex. Now it hasn't panned out for him and he expects you to forgive him because you're scared to be alone.

Alone is better.

Speak to him, you have no idea why this has come about. If his dad has just been diagnosed with an illness and wants to speak to him this could be a very good reason. If there is no reason then re-evaluate but don’t just assume.

Interesting choice of user name, given your post.
What on earth is 'grown up' about sticking with a person who frequently let's you down and has money troubles?
The OP has done the grown up thing.

Remember, it's about you not him.
Dumping him was the right thing imo, sooner rather than later.

He's mugging you off.

I just read the updates and well done OP I think you have been an inspiration in trusting your self to make the best decision for your mental well being. I wish you all the stability security and peace of mind that listening to your inner guide will bring you. With regards keep creating your tool box of tricks to deal with your nervous system. For me magnesium really helped and passionflower supplement and lots of other elements learn’t along the way . Anxiety is mentally exhausting so well done for not caving in and keep that promise to your self 💪🏻

God how do sone of these ball-breaker, man-hating women on here ever become mums?

Maybe by choosing decent men as partners?

🤷🏻‍♀️

Well u might be having a little walk in the ex’s shoes right now and no surprise it’s sacked off. Then the perfect alibi for limiting his life prospects making her the perfect scapegoat . Pulling the rug from under you is the surprise part of the weekend ? This guy gets to be in your head also living rent as well as his parents free from any commitments even to a weekend away. You know u let the bar slip too low but its going back up and no excuses slip through.

BrawnWild · 22/09/2023 10:44

Wouldnt be surprised if he has spaffed his cash and cant afford it and dad is bailing him out on the condition he gets something from it.

This !!! Only This makes sense frankly

So she’s suppose to give him the benefit of the doubt after he blocked her.

God how do sone of these ball-breaker, man-hating women on here ever become mums? This used to be a support network for a bit of fun and support for each other.
when did it turn into a website where sowing the seeds if doubt in women’s minds happen?
Come on girls where’s the support and female camaraderie?
Some of you should be ashamed of yourselves…grow up ffs

Well done to you just read you dumped him and stay strong and you will feel better in yourself as he is just playing mind games and you are worth so much more.

dump him now as he has let you down big time and you had arranged childcare and for your pets also. This is a massive red flag and I would not be with him as he has shown who he really is. He is not reliable at all and does not put you first and it would have been time for you to spend together which you said do not get much of. He sounds like an inconsiderate immature idiot. You deserve better.

@kerryelaine100 read the thread for pity's sake 🙄

SOME thing going on there babe … but it might just be he fancies some time alone ❤️

Even if what you suggest were true, it doesn't justify him standing the OP up nor lying to her.

And I don't think that what you suggest is true in any case. It's far more likely that he's taken advantage of the OP's low self-esteem to piss her about and get away with it, both in the early days and now. He was taking advantage of what you call "needy" behaviour, not being repelled by it.

Way to go to blame OP for her ex's shitty behaviour.

@MarrymeJM

You tryna get her back on a downer or what 👀

Do you think he has gone back to his ex? Perhaps his father pushed him back with her . Or he found your anxiety issues to much work for him. Sorry that sounds harsh but some men don't find needy women that attractive long term. He probably wanted to support your for some time but felt it was going to be too much effort you going away with him for a weekend. He didn't want to be your therapist. But on the bright side he did do a good job getting you back on your feet !

For those who cannot wait to jump on with “RTFT” just because OP has said she’s dumped does not mean it’s over for good, sometimes people act on impulse then later forgive. It’s good for OP to see multiple posts saying “LTB” and expressing their opinion on the original post in order to for her to stay strong in her decision!

Well done OP for standing your ground, you'll find someone who's genuine and dependable I'm sure.

I'd feel the same.

This is a very twattish thing to do - especially when he knows that you have had to go to a lot of trouble to arrange child and pet care.

I'd tell him to bugger off, myself.

Just read that you have dumped him

I think that you are very wise.

This ^ proceed with caution ⚠️