To let my kids be loud outside?

The words “reap” and “sow” come to mind tbh

Funnily enough basketball isn’t one of those noises that annoy me, though it seems to annoy many on here. It’s anything squeaky for me.

Our neighbour's son had a basket ball hoop that he (mercifully!) got fed up of very quickly - the thud from a basketball is seriously annoying (10x worse than a football).
You can stick to your guns, but in a year or two their child will be in the garden possibly causing merry hell, and you may well wish you'd engaged in mutual consideration!

”It’s funny that you’re coming round to complain about noise. When my kids were babies we had these neighbours who seemed to do their utmost to keep them awake. They just wouldn’t stop even after we spoke to them. I think it was before you guys moved in. Oh no, wait, it was you …” 😂

Having a newborn can be so very difficult especially if suffering from PND. Not saying your neighbour is but the husband has been round to ask (politely, I assume) if your kids can be a bit more considerate with the noise. Instead of trying to empathise and actually parent your children, you’re holding a grudge over some slamming doors years ago. Seems a little bit childish.

We had lovely neighbours at our old house but their (lovely) son bounced a basketball for hours and it drove us to distraction. It is an incessant, flat, noise and really, really annoying. It was one of the reasons we moved in the end- that and they then got a hot tub and put it up against the fence next to our patio outside our kitchen door- it made a constant humming noise and we could hear every single word, splash and they used it late at night. We hated it. Then they tired of it but it was left making the continual electrical humming noise constantly.

Basketball pounding is very inconsiderate.

Basketballs constantly thudding on concrete would drive me nuts. Can your DC go to a park to play. I'd take basketball and restrict to 2 hours at a weekend.

I’m petty like you. Every time they complain I would remind them that i didn’t get to sleep past 7am for years because they insisted on keeping their car engine running for ages and woke my kids up. Or about that time I asked them to calm down with the late night parties and they didn’t. Or the slamming doors that disrupted my babies. I would finish with “it’s amazing what you learn to live with when you have noisy neighbours!”

I was brought up in the 70s so always played outdoors. But, my mum always taught us to not scream and shout outside. Laughing and playing is one thing but making lots of annoying noise like a constant bouncing basketball is inconsiderate.

I’m so glad I was brought up in a time when kids were allowed to be kids and didn’t have to tip toe around out of fear of annoying a neighbour.

Let them play, let them laugh and make a bit of noise (within reason) rather than have them stuck indoors staring at a screen all day and night.

They made noise prior to having kids and didn’t know any better. You do know better and you’re only refusing to accommodate their request to get your revenge. How about you consider the actual baby and not your grudge?

This. Basketballs ,footballs, any bloody balls. So incredibly annoying.

Can you get an outdoor rug ? Might deaden the bouncing noise.

Two hours of a ball bouncing. I think I would be ready to burst after that if it happened once let alone daily.

But op did say they would change the hours

I would let your kids carry on playing. I would probably not have them out so early, but after school is fine. Baby will get used to the noise and as long as not late at night all should be fine.

This thread is hilarious, asking if she’s being unreasonable, then saying nothing is going to change 😂😂

Karma 🤷‍♀️

But that’s not what was said.

I think the neighbours ate being a little unreasonable. I have a small baby and sometimes she's woken by kids playing outside. That's life. I'm not going to stop them playing.

Depends how constant the basketball bouncing is really. Do they only play basketball out there?

YANBU Yes, kids playing with a ball in the garden is annoying. We’ve recently moved to a farm from an estate with 3 boys and a goalpost in the garden behind us and we definitely don’t miss it! But they’re kids and we were surrounded by noise. I let my daughter make noise in the garden because nobody else seemed to stop it.

As another poster said, their kid will be annoying you in a few years so let them at it 🤣 babies don’t tend to wake with that kind of noise anyway!

Good kids get to play outside once not doing that constant screaming non stop at the top of their lungs and parents just ignore it, seems to be a new thing and so annoying but more annoying is the constant bouncing of a ball as it goes through your head. A football not as annoying unless they are kicking it against your fence. I would limit the time they use basketball out of respect as that is what makes good neighbours. Surely to god they can play outside and do something else without the basketball all the time. Try to be the better person.

I'm always worried about making too much noise. But my neighbours don't give a fuck. I worry about it but then part of me feels sad that kids aren't allowed to play put like we used to. Along as it's not constant let them carry on. It will be their kid in few years doing it too....

Me too, 10.5 hours of bloody ball bouncing on a Saturday and a Sunday and the boinnng of it going through the hoop would make me feel murderous.
We had hours of trampolining for years from our neighbours, I resorted to wearing headphones or ear plugs when out in the garden.
I often think I was happier living far away from neighbours M

I'd explain that you do have house rules on when they can play basketball, and ask about the baby's sleep times. If the baby goes down at 7pm, then changing your 7.30 to 7 wouldn't be a big deal.
If they'd been perfect neighbours in the past, that's probably what you'd do, and there's a lot to be said for letting bygones be bygones. Later on I expect theirs will be making a racket when yours have exams the next day, and hopefully your compromise now will help then.