To let my kids be loud outside?

Oh and you can stop them, you take the ball !

You have posted in AIBU and are basically arguing with everyone that is saying you are!
You say you won't limit their time doing it, that you can't be arsed to stop your kids.

That's probably because the vote is supporting her - 73% saying she isn't being unreasonable when I voted. For what it's worth, I voted YABU because I think there's only so much ball bouncing noise anyone can take. It's great when your kids are not only out of your hair, but also doing something healthy. But the neighbours should be taken into account. When my DC were babies, our neighbours' kids were ball bouncing age and it drove me insane. All fecking day sometimes. But I still brought my kids in when their noise became too loud or went on too long, even though I was sorely tempted to.get 'revenge'! My neighbour on the other side is a lovely woman and, although she used to say she loved hearing the DC out playing, I was careful not to push it.

8.30 is too early!! 9.30 earliest .
And 3.30-7.30 ???? That’s a long time. It would drive me bonkers. Ball bouncing, especially a hard basket ball is very repetitive and annoying.

Oh I have really noisy neighbours re kids outside all the time which actually doesn’t bother me at all because they always sound happy!
maybe I have a high tolerance for bouncing balls lol. They also play rave music on at weird times (not all night but first thing in morning?!) and the dad fixing cars in the night but eh we just notice it but it doesn’t wake us up. Only once I asked them to change the song they were playing - they were playing loud music in the garden which is fine because it was daytime and summer and all happy noises - but one song had really really awful language and my LO is starting to copy words etc so I asked could they just skip the song or so and they were happy to do so!

YANBU. I do think the neighbours noise is relevant. Their noise, as you described it, was normal life. Your kids noise is also normal life. You had to learn to cope with life noise and so do they.

Everybody acting like bouncing a basketball even for "hours" is some sort of exceptional noise needs to get a grip. Let your kids be.

I originally thought YANBU but have changed my mind, I don’t think it’s reasonable that they are outside lots but only play basketball, especially after neighbours have said it’s an issue.

There are plenty of activities they can do outside at that age - my DC are the same ages. Not caring because the neighbours used to make noise (which is not comparable from what you’ve said - loud music once a month and car noise) is not reasonable, plus I’m sure the noise will be affecting other neighbours too.

Yeah I take back my karma comment and am also changing my vote - yabu OP

Your OP came across that the music was more frequent than that

Except it turns out that they had a party once a month and her kids are bouncing a ball for 12 hours of a weekend. Not really comparable.

Karma

Anyway - personally I'd limit the ball to 1 hour a day

Edited to add- oh just saw your update

Oooh I take back my reply @Imtheterribleneighbour you made it seem much worse in your OP!

music until 11pm on a sat once a month is totally acceptable

running their car at 7am I suspect to warm it up totally fine

you made it sound like it was all night every night throughout the night.

tell your kids to stop bouncing the ball constantly. YABU.

What goes around, comes around!

OP - there's a lot of people on here talking about karma etc.

I'm interested - if it wasn't for the problems in the past, would you be telling your kids to be quieter? Or would you still not bother?

I wouldn't stop my kids playing outside

Karma ain’t it! Maybe they’ll be more respectful in life.

When I was that age bouncing a basket ball, I would do it for a while, and eventually my mum would come out and say 'ok that's enough now, time to do something else because it's noisy and we need to give the neighbours a break'.

It was fine.

Your kids don't need to be able to do exactly what they want 100% of the time. It's good to teach them compromise and respect.

This. YANBU.
Karma is a bitch

It's this approach to parenting that makes teaching kids in secondary school such a bloody battle. By the time they get to us they are used to doing whatever they like, whenever they feel like it. You are the parent. Do everyone a favour and do some parenting.

Well kids do make noise and need to be able to play outside. But I think you could compromise a bit with your neighbours. Ask them what time their baby is usually sleeping and tell your kids to be quieter at that time of day.

There's a middle ground here, it doesn't have to be a massive dispute.

What they did in the past is not relevant, don't hold a grudge. They've got a baby and are just trying to get some sleep/ rest.

They're kids playing together in their own garden in reasonable hours. That's how life should be
I'd possibly say not before 9 if it was me but the rest is to be expected.

You have posted in AIBU and are basically arguing with everyone that is saying you are!
You say you won't limit their time doing it, that you can't be arsed to stop your kids.

You should be teaching your children manners, how to be respectful of others. Not that their amusement is more important than others peace and quiet.

When these neighbours banged doors and played music years ago, did you knock in and ask them to stop?
They have sent you a note and they have also knocked in, the noise is annoying them!

They're going to be great teenagers if you CBA parenting them now...

Erm, you’re the parent? Can you not control anything they do?

YABU. Car doors slamming are not comparable to hours of basketball bouncing. It would drive me up the wall.

Not entirely sure why you say you're not able to control your kids but I'd limit the basketball to an hour a day. There's other games your kids can play outside beyond that.