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Dating a man who is obsessed with his child

166 replies

Honeybu · 18/09/2023 12:12

Everything revolves around his son who is 8 ok no problem I have kids and I’m the same, but when we go out or spending time together why constantly bring up topic related to your child? How are we going to know each? I’m getting fed up. Every conversation the child will come up and not just in passing it will take over our topic and continue

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Lottapianos · 18/09/2023 12:28

'But and a big but when we are on a date for few hours is it too much to ask to concentrate on us?'

Not too much to ask at all. I would be running for the hills

Somewhereovertherainbowweighapie · 18/09/2023 12:27

He just isn’t the one for you. Life is too short to date someone that you don’t find interesting.

caffelattetogo · 18/09/2023 12:27

Since we had our kids my DH and I have a shared obsession with our kids. If we broke up, I imagine we would both keep that focus. It's pretty natural and gets you past all the annoying stuff kids do.

lookandsee · 18/09/2023 12:26

ConsuelaHammock · 18/09/2023 12:20

You’ll never be enough! Walk away now

Enough compared to what?

FOJN · 18/09/2023 12:26

Is he trying to impress you with how involved he is as a parent?

If you're fed up then just stop seeing him. There is nothing wrong with deciding this issue makes you incompatible.

CluelessHamster · 18/09/2023 12:25

Is he interested in hearing about your children?

I'm guessing not!

I think I would throw this one back.

It is good that he adores his child but it sounds like he's not socially aware enough to understand that you might want a different topic of conversation sometimes!

EstieGreenwood · 18/09/2023 12:25

Sounds like it’s not a match!

Parlourgames · 18/09/2023 12:24

Don’t date him. His kid is really lucky to have such a dad though.

Original poster
Honeybu · 18/09/2023 12:24

I think you misunderstood, I totally agree he is his world. But and a big but when we are on a date for few hours is it too much to ask to concentrate on us? What is this?

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ILikeItWhatIsIt · 18/09/2023 12:23

Nothing more boring than constantly hearing about someone else's child.

arethereanyleftatall · 18/09/2023 12:23

You know you don't have to date him if you don't find him interesting don't you?
Contrary to popular belief on mumsnet, it isn't mandatory.

N4ish · 18/09/2023 12:22

He's not doing anything wrong but sounds like you're not a good match for each other.

ConsuelaHammock · 18/09/2023 12:20

You’ll never be enough! Walk away now

Strugglingtodomybest · 18/09/2023 12:20

Don't date him then?

cruffinsmuffin · 18/09/2023 12:19

Doesn't sound like you're on the same wavelength perhaps? His child is probably his world!

bootsvsshoes · 18/09/2023 12:19

Of course his child is going to be his whole world. It shows he cares, is involved & really loves him. Green flag. Don’t date a man with kids if that’s not what you want!