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National service isn't the answer. AIBU?

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D3LAN3Y · 08/09/2023 18:14

The conversation keeps cropping up time and time again. Should national service make a come back?
I have some relatives (generally older) who seem to think the younger generation could really use something like National Service to "sort themselves out" because they seem to think too many are rude/work shy/lazy/disrespectful etc.
I think it's a load of shit. I have two kids. Most of the teenagers I know happen to be good kids. I don't think they are a lost generation and anyone who works in retail already have done a form of national service in my eyes.

The tories have tabled an idea of a voluntary idea of national service but surely if they are pushing the idea to sort out "troubled youth" it wouldn't hit the audience it intended?

YABU - National service would help
YANBU - ITS A JOKE.

www.lbc.co.uk/news/penny-mordaunt-national-service/

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Alexandero · 27/05/2024 09:40

Why did a Conservative defence minister himself think it was such a bad idea only a few days ago? See attached

National service isn't the answer. AIBU?
DdraigGoch · 30/09/2023 19:11

anyone who works in retail already have done a form of national service in my eyes.

Compulsory service in a customer-facing role would certainly do some people a lot of good.

FormerlyPathologicallyHappy · 30/09/2023 16:49

My dad did it, he loved it. I’ve had patients who did it and wanted to enlist but they had fiancées who wanted a non military life.

Justifiedcheese · 30/09/2023 16:49

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 08/09/2023 20:57

Absolutely not. The funny thing is that the boomers who peddle this shit never had to do it themselves. See also criticism of millenials, you fucking raised them!

But aren't millennials the perfect, aware, environmentally conscious, unbiased savours of the planet?
But I expect you believe that's nothing to do with how they were raised.
Lazy ageist shite.

OnAFrolicOfMyOwn · 30/09/2023 16:48

If anything, they should make all young people work a year in a customer-facing job.

And, yes, I have done this myself.

Justifiedcheese · 30/09/2023 16:45

IvorTheEngineDriver · 08/09/2023 19:24

The conversation keeps cropping up time and time again. Should national service make a come back?

No it doesn't. I haven't heard this conversation in years. Anyway National Service was ended because the Services didn't want it. "The Army has better things to do that try to teach unwilling young people in 18 months what society hasn't taught them in 18 years." Field Marshal Lord Slim.

I suspect you're a hack desperate for a story OP.

Quite. And of course it brings out the " all old people are shit" crowd and MN loves that.
Late father ( born 1918) was career military. Hated NS because the recruits were an unwilling waste of his time.

LuciaPillson · 09/09/2023 09:55

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 08/09/2023 20:57

Absolutely not. The funny thing is that the boomers who peddle this shit never had to do it themselves. See also criticism of millenials, you fucking raised them!

Oh I am with you 100%. It's a shit idea. Elderly folk may be beyond annoying but they retain a shrewd cunning, and are they really going to get groups of youths organized and hand them guns so that they can form packs like feral stealth weasels and hunt down the oldies as they shuffle about with their Zimmer frames preparing their Horlicks and Tunnock's Tea Cake of an evening? No, I say! As for millennials, it's hard to spell properly, that's all I've got.

Also, why in hell has Horlicks not got an apostrophe and Tunnock's has. Has the world gone mad?

PinkCherryBlossoms · 09/09/2023 09:54

Needmorelego · 09/09/2023 09:48

@PinkCherryBlossoms yes - they just need to actually advertise and promote the existing scheme and those who are interested can sign up.
Schools/social services etc could also identify pupils they think might benefit from it and encourage them to sign up (but it would be better for some to do this at a much earlier age like 12 or 13).
Ironically a lot of teens would prefer to spend their post 16 summer doing part time jobs. Many want to be working and earning from age 14/15. They want something to do, gain some responsibility and get some money.
This used to be the norm for many teens but it's so hard for under 18s to get jobs now. People just won't employ them due to so much extra red tape around safeguarding. Obviously working teens need to be kept safe and not exploited but it seems to have just made under 16s/18s non employable.
The government should instead fund more youth clubs/groups. Give teens somewhere to go and something to do. At lot are put off by the formality of things like Scouts (uniforms, rituals like the promise etc) but a more casual youth clubs with similar activities would be brilliant.

There are so many more things that could be done that might actually be of benefit to teenagers.

On the subject of safeguarding, another problem with the Tory proposal is that anything remotely close to universal would also inevitably be some slapdash shit, probably contracted out to Serco. There isn't a chance in hell I'd trust the state to safeguard my DC on quasi compulsory residentials.

ImperfectMamma · 09/09/2023 09:52

Needmorelego · 08/09/2023 18:56

@Insommmmnia yes but the news article in the OP is about the government extending this scheme. Not sending lads off to war.

Given the state of the world at the moment any changes like this unfortunately make me worry about a future where exactly that happens and I worry the govt are planning accordingly. I know this sounds a bit tin hat but I'm very anxious about the future when it comes to our children and war

Needmorelego · 09/09/2023 09:48

@PinkCherryBlossoms yes - they just need to actually advertise and promote the existing scheme and those who are interested can sign up.
Schools/social services etc could also identify pupils they think might benefit from it and encourage them to sign up (but it would be better for some to do this at a much earlier age like 12 or 13).
Ironically a lot of teens would prefer to spend their post 16 summer doing part time jobs. Many want to be working and earning from age 14/15. They want something to do, gain some responsibility and get some money.
This used to be the norm for many teens but it's so hard for under 18s to get jobs now. People just won't employ them due to so much extra red tape around safeguarding. Obviously working teens need to be kept safe and not exploited but it seems to have just made under 16s/18s non employable.
The government should instead fund more youth clubs/groups. Give teens somewhere to go and something to do. At lot are put off by the formality of things like Scouts (uniforms, rituals like the promise etc) but a more casual youth clubs with similar activities would be brilliant.

PinkCherryBlossoms · 09/09/2023 09:28

Needmorelego · 08/09/2023 18:33

The government isn't proposing Military Service but thinking of extending and making the (already existing) National Citizens Service for 16 year olds semi compulsory with "opt out" rather than "opt in".
It's a couple of weeks of PGL style camp plus some volunteering.
🙄

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Which is a stupid idea. Obviously the Tories don't have the time to implement this before the next GE anyway so it's a totally theoretical point, but they've failed to explain what exactly is going to happen when people who've not opted out also don't turn up. As if we have the resources to create any kind of workable system or sanction.

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 09/09/2023 09:15

Halfemptyhalfling · 09/09/2023 09:00

Apparently there is no money for teaching assistants, paying benefits at a level people can afford food, youth clubs, increasing student loans to match public sector rises even, doctors, repairing buildings, youth clubs, funding prisons adequately so can't see there would be money for national service unless it was funded by private equity.

Exactly - and aside from funding the scheme, where are we going to find the resources for enforcing the compulsory nature of it?

Halfemptyhalfling · 09/09/2023 09:00

Apparently there is no money for teaching assistants, paying benefits at a level people can afford food, youth clubs, increasing student loans to match public sector rises even, doctors, repairing buildings, youth clubs, funding prisons adequately so can't see there would be money for national service unless it was funded by private equity.

GrinAndVomit · 09/09/2023 08:52

Oliotya · 08/09/2023 21:20

You know there's a vast chasm of middle ground between Peru and terrorism grannies right?
People who are willfully ignorant about the damage these schemes do have absolutely no business trying to take the moral high ground. Educate yourself. You're not doing young people (or peruvians) any favors by letting them believe they're doing a good deed.
General rule, if you wouldn't or couldn't do it here, don't do it elsewhere.

The volunteering abroad thing makes me uncomfortable too.
If a young person wants to volunteer to help with children’s literacy, their local schools and special need schools would appreciate the help.
Poverty tourism gives me the ick.

Oliotya · 08/09/2023 21:20

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 08/09/2023 21:01

I'd rather people like him in my sphere than people who think like you (edited here for typo) tbf.

What do your children do for others?

(Of any country - I like to think the ones I'm teaching /bringing up aren't quite so closed minded as to think only Peruvians should volunteer in Peru)

And you know nothing about this child. What life he's had, or will have. Or why he's decided to do it. But for whatever reason he's doing it, he didn't have to. He could have hung around on his scooter down the side of Asda terrifying the elderly. Is that the contribution you like teenagers to make? Is that chip on your shoulder weighing you down that you go that low?

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You know there's a vast chasm of middle ground between Peru and terrorism grannies right?
People who are willfully ignorant about the damage these schemes do have absolutely no business trying to take the moral high ground. Educate yourself. You're not doing young people (or peruvians) any favors by letting them believe they're doing a good deed.
General rule, if you wouldn't or couldn't do it here, don't do it elsewhere.

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 08/09/2023 21:16

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Why would you think that?
You can search me if you like. English teacher, anti-ageist, bit if style and beauty, lots of telling SpaG police off for humiliating people. Etc.

Fillette · 08/09/2023 21:11

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Nat6999 · 08/09/2023 21:06

Fieldofbrokenpromises · 08/09/2023 18:37

My late father was one of the last to do National Service. He said it was shit. Some of the young kids hanged themselves because they couldn’t take the bullying and ridicule from the officers and fellow recruits. There wasn’t much to do so they wasted a lot of time and the regular service people hated the conscripts.

As to building communities etc - kids that want to smash stuff up won’t suddenly get community minded by being press ganged into litter picking - and fucking good luck getting them to do it.

My dad loved his National Service, he was all jabbed up to go to Korea but ended up not going. He had 2 years continuing to learn his trade, learned to drive & said he was glad he got chance to do it. Maybe it could be an option for young people who haven't found employment or training & ones who are in danger of ending up in prison, teach them a trade & give them education.

Kittykittycat · 08/09/2023 21:04

In my native country we had a compulsory National service until 1995.
When young boy reached 19 years age, he had to go to service for 2 years .
It’s true that it turn boys into men. I think it’s needed very much.
it taught youngsters to be more responsible, independent and reliable.

TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 08/09/2023 21:01

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I'd rather people like him in my sphere than people who think like you (edited here for typo) tbf.

What do your children do for others?

(Of any country - I like to think the ones I'm teaching /bringing up aren't quite so closed minded as to think only Peruvians should volunteer in Peru)

And you know nothing about this child. What life he's had, or will have. Or why he's decided to do it. But for whatever reason he's doing it, he didn't have to. He could have hung around on his scooter down the side of Asda terrifying the elderly. Is that the contribution you like teenagers to make? Is that chip on your shoulder weighing you down that you go that low?

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 08/09/2023 20:57

Absolutely not. The funny thing is that the boomers who peddle this shit never had to do it themselves. See also criticism of millenials, you fucking raised them!

Fillette · 08/09/2023 20:56

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TheLongGloriesOfTheWinterMoon · 08/09/2023 20:52

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He speaks English, Spanish and French. He isn't teaching anyone to speak English, I'm not sure where you got that from.
As far as I know, he's working in Spanish. He's volunteering on a literacy programme. The children he's working with I doubt have televisions.
But, hey! What do I know. I'm sure really that the reports he sends back are faked and he's really doing the Ed Sheeran thing and getting himself photographed holding poor brown babies.

Now behave yourself.

Fillette · 08/09/2023 20:47

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