To think that not everyone has ADHD

I personally don't think anyone who doesn't have ADHD or have any experience in it should comment on the lives of people living with an invisible disability that's so debilitating, especially when it's to query the probability of them actually having it or not, it's not just insulting but it's ableist, would you query if all people in wheelchairs really do have a mobility issue or if everyone with a blind stick is actually visually impaired?

Symptoms have to have been present since childhood. Aged 12 or younger for ADHD.

Who cares about what actual doctors and professionals say, you've watched a soap bases in a hospital so clearly you're the real expert.

Absolutely, mumsnet and online forums can be a lifeline for some families. These bashing threads are incredibly unhelpful to those in genuine need.

I'm more referring to the comments on your post to be honest. They all come out when they see a chance to bash autistic and ADHD people.

Incredibly misinformed comment from 3rdtimemomma. Try years on waitlists, years of hospital visits, assessments by multiple agencies, panels and home visits before you get a diagnosis. Then and only then can you access money for all the additional expenses which come with looking after a disabled child. But you spread your Daily Mail nonsense.

I think my husband is on the spectrum, no he's just an abusive arsehole. I find it incredibly insulting that any type of unwanted/abusive behaviour is attributed or being autistic/Adhd

The world has changed.

Life used to be much simpler, fewer choices, reasonable working hours and workloads. People coped.

Now life is complicated. There is a multitude of choice. People have ridiculous working hours and workloads. A lot of people can't cope especially people who are neurodiverse.

That's why everyone seems to have ADHD or ASD. It wasn't obvious when I was in my teens, 20s and 30s.

I was diagnosed but I think I have it quite mildly (if I do have it, I still question this) It's a spectrum isn't it after all. Which, like the ASD spectrum, can feel so broad as to be meaningless.

I'm diagnosed with it and think that there are reasons a person with ADHD might find themselves musing over a problem on a forum... difficult seeing the big picture, lack of social confidence, falling into certain issues in the first place. There could be a bias at play as to who's on here in the first place. Similarly parents writing about kids with ASD on websites as they may have trickier and more unusual issues to navigate than NT kids

Ikr! It's so bad that once I posted about my disabled child and all the mums were talking about her autism and being ND and I was like..wait?! She doesn't even have Autism?!

Yes that and or ASD.
You only have to be a little bit quirky and suddenly you have ASD.
Once upon a time this was called a....personality!.

@BertieBotts

Because "sometimes" and "often" are clearly defined objective terms that everyone can be relied upon to use exactly the same way, right?

I do wonder why people mind so much if someone else has adhd. Unless they’re boring you to death about it it really isn’t anyone but theirs business.

My diagnosis is 'autism' but i also have adhd, gad, rsd and pda. 'Attention' is something I avoid.

Not adhd but I have a friend who always says she's a little bit ocd. I always shudder as if you have ocd it can be a debilitating condition, not a condition to throw round when your cleaning.

Don’t be put off - nobody normal IRL would think that.

My son at the age of 6 has been diagnosed with ADHD the combined type medium to severe and every day I really really wish he didn't have it, it's so hard and mentally draining but I know what you mean that it seems like everyone has it now, so maybe it's good in the sense of it being accepted more these days but also it's a bit of a kick in the teeth when someone jokes that they have ADHD but in reality it's hard and there's no I might have it, you would know if you did.

Pop round.

Fill in my son's DLA with me. 17hrs it took last time. Over 80 pages with all the supplementary documentation I need to submit. See what we actually spend on replacing things he's lost, damaged or entirely destroyed.

Then see if you make this beyond ridiculous statement again.

It’s the new depression and anxiety, which is hugely frustrating for those of us who actually have and have been diagnosed for 20 years. Nothing to do except let it have its time? It does make HR interesting!

What infuriates me (as wife to ADHD DH and mum to ADHD DS, both medically diagnosed) is the bandwagon dickheads who announce they have ADHD because they "are so bad at losing my car keys, what am I like, lol."

They (most likely) don't have it. They've never been to a doctor or investigated a diagnosis. Yet here they are, announcing their absolute self declared ADHD as an equivalent to DS, who has been through 7 schools, 3 types of medication, therapy, anxiety, anger issues, having no social skills or real friendship groups long term. It's beyond insulting.

If you haven't been diagnosed, stop telling people you've got it. If you suspect you have, go and find out. Properly. If your life is that unaffected that you don't seem it necessary to see a doctor, then you don't have it.

I think there are a lot of people who get relief from their distress by feeling misunderstood by a faceless many.