My partner's uninvited guest has turned up 5 hours early...

Oh, sorry, I missed that your DH is out til 7.

Be breezy with bloke, let him drop his bag, then point him towards town / pub / whatever and say ‘sorry, DH not back til 7, I am not able to make the house available h til then because of work events… see you at 7’

It’s fine to do that.

Get partner to phone/message now and say that actually; you can't accommodate him early, and give him a couple of suggestions of pubs/cafes/places he could go. Let him know any time between 7 - 8pm is fine to arrive.

Then deal with your wider partner problem later.

Why are you pissed at him? It's your partners fault.

You even say you had to insist he not arrive till after 7pm. Because him arriving earlier was their original plan

What's the betting they never intended for him to arrive later at all. He wanted to arrive early. Your partner was fine with that.

He wants to make him lunch? Fine. He can come home and sort it out.

I'd tell your partner you're not opening the door to any strangers. If he wants to come and sort it out that's up to him.

I would not answer the door. I'd message my partner back telling them that this chap cannot come until they get home to host them themselves.

And unless I'd previously agreed to take on the hosting (which isn't necessarily unreasonable in a partnership and is something I'd do for my DH) I'd be going out for the evening and leaving them to it

Unbelievable

I’d honestly have gone out of you could with laptop and worked from somewhere else and have been unavailable on my phone to my partner. As for the breakfast stuff - I’d be in fuck it mood as cf can take it as he finds it after cadging a stay and turning up 5 hours early.

id read the riot act to my partner. This behaviour would make me feel uncomfortable in my own home with unknown men in my ‘safe’ environment. I certainly wouldn’t be having him in there hours before my partner was available for my safety. At my house there is no lock on thE upstairs bathroom door so I wouldn’t feel comfortable going to have a shower let alone getting changed in my room if I could hear him moving about in the guest room.

as for food - I’d tell him where the nearest cafe is. He can use google to find it.

good luck and squishes @Cynicaltheorist

Tell the guy to fuck off and dump your partner.

I missed the bit where the partner said it would ok.
Christ on a bike.

I can’t believe things like this happen in real life. I would never have said yes in the first place

Yep and this guy is seeing how far he can push the boundaries. As far as he wants, apparently! This is potentially very dangerous.

Don’t let “manners” put you at risk. Be “rude”. It’s ok to do that.

Surely your DH can make him a sandwich??

Just go about your business normally (maybe not skip from shower to bedroom naked ) , tell your DH to make the bloke a sandwich and then take him out if the house.

The guy called and asked, your partner told him he could come right over. Your issue is your partner. You’ll have to call him and tell him to sort it out with the guy if you’re not ready for company.

It's a no from me.
No way would I have a random in my house, especially alone

Your partner is a gullible fool to have a stranger stay in your home.

Are you letting this stranger into your house? Despite insisting he didn't arrive until 7?

How did this become acceptable to you?

More fool you.

Why on earth has your partner told an unknown man that it’s fine for him to go to your house while you are there alone? That’s the most immediate problem. You know nothing about the guy.

What sort of person turns up FIVE hours early when they know the person let alone when they don’t know them?! Why did your partner even say yes, I’d be so pissed off.

It seems like you can’t exactly back out of it now as your partner has already told him that it’s fine to come so early. I’d show him the living room/kitchen and where he’s sleeping and leave him to it. You’re working, you don’t need to be in host mode

I couldn't carry on working with an unknown man in my house, just really unsettling. That's aside from the house being a mess.

Direct him to a local cafe or pub until 7pm.

Your partner is the one who is hosting so he has to deal with it. I wouldn't be answering the door.

Tell your partner either he comes home and entertains this guy right now or else your partner rings him to say he cannot turn up before 7pm as arranged

If you were working in an office, he’d have to wait until you got home. Let him drop off his bag, tell him where he can find a food outlet and send him on his way, until office hours are over.

All of the above. Especially as you don’t even know him??!! This is so weird.

I bet you wish you didn’t get cornered about this.

I’d briefly greet him, tell him to drop his bags in the bedroom and say you have to get back to work. Tell him there’s X cafe around the corner. I’d be seething.

Definitely don't answer the door.

Message your partner and tell him what you've put here, it's not a matter for you and if your partner wants to deal with the guy, he needs to come home.

Show him in, and show him the kitchen. Explain that you are still working, and that your partner will be home at x o'clock.
Then carry on.