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To think the gender and sex Ed wars are created by tories

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 21:15

The tories have totally messed up the country recently I think that people who did or didn't vote for them can see they are doing an awful job and they have no reasonable expectation of winning next general election..... EXCEPT now the Tory press has created this total obsession about

  1. Sex education and
  2. Gender and trans issues.

They are painting them selves as the only party that will save us from the wokes who want to identify as a dog or teach 12 year olds how to have anal sex... this is what the Tory tabloids are claiming is happening in schools.

What does everyone think?

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cisisaslur · 29/08/2023 22:31

ScottishIceCream · 29/08/2023 21:45

I disagree.

By far the biggest exploitation is by the trans lobby.

They are using the fact that many right wing groups are against what is happening, in order to push the narrative that it's ONLY right wing people and organisations who disagree with "trans rights".

This is in order to try and make ordinary people believe that they must support this nonsense and if they don't they're right wing bigots.

This

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:30

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/08/2023 22:12

hermaphrodite? Intersex? Please don’t use those terms. People with DSD (differences or disorders of sexual development) have repeatedly asked not to be dragged into this. A medical condition that affects sexual development is nothing whatsoever like being transgender

also people with DSD are still either male or female. There is no mysterious third sex

Thank you for educating about the language here - apologies for offense caused with outdated terms

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BoohooWoohoo · 29/08/2023 22:30

They didn't create it but it's an easy win when the other parties won't say that women are adult human females. It's absolutely gobsmacking that this is even up for debate.

It's also shocking that people aren't bothered by an issue unless it affects them directly. I would have thought that most intelligent adults can be concerned about issues that they don't experience in real life.

Trans people are the people being manipulated here. There were trans people going about their lives peacefully until activists declared war on women and turned trans issues into a money making mission that also discriminates against gay people.

There are good reasons why certain spaces are segregated by sex. We should not bulldoze over those spaces just because we might not need them right now in our lives and stand up for people who need support. It could be you in prison or needing a shelter. By then it's too late to demand that the service is single sex.

FOJN · 29/08/2023 22:26

The issues you describe - I think they're evey important but to me not more important than climate change or education or health funding - but no one is taking about those (which the tories are failing at) as the gender stuff is so constantly in the headlines scaring parents into thinking that only the tories can save their child from identifying as a cat

Well they may have been late to the party but the Conservatives did undertake the Cass review which resulted in the Tavistock Clinic being closed because it was failing young people. Sadly it was too late for those who have already undergone irreversible treatment that has no scientific basis to support it. Young people who have been sterilised and will suffer lifelong health problems as a result of experimental treatment but yes we're all just concerned about children identifying as cats.

As someone else said if you are not worried about this then you haven't been paying attention and you clearly have not been paying attention as demonstrated by the multiple examples of your ignorance on this thread.

EwwSprouts · 29/08/2023 22:24

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/08/2023 21:33

thing is @napody tories wouldn’t be able to exploit if every other political party weren’t being such mealy mouth fuckwits insisting that it’s just sooooo hard to say what a woman is. They know, they all know but they think women’s rights are less important than keeping shouty men happy

This ^^

If the leaders of the Greens. Lib Dems, SNP and Labour were all clear that only adult human females are ever women and rights can only ever be based on facts not feelings the matter would long since have gone away.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:18

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/08/2023 21:53

@Unexpectedlysinglemum transmen are biological women. We need to know how many women there are however they identify. Therefore their medical records need to state their sex as well as their gender

of course once invited for screening their preferred name etc should be used

tbh I’ve not met a trans men who isn’t fully aware they’re female & need cervical screening. The problem is the likes of stonewall telling the NHS they should record gender rather than sex meaning that transmen don’t get called

I agree that nhs should record biology and then also social identity to help give personalized care

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Lantyslee · 29/08/2023 22:18

The gender stuff is so constantly in the headlines scaring parents into thinking that only the tories can save their child from identifying as a cat @Unexpectedlysinglemum you show an astonishing lack of compassion for the parents and vulnerable young people who are actually affected by this.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:17

@Winnading interesting - my opinion (as you asked) is that you should have been able to ask for a different nurse of same sex. I personally don't mind the sex of a doctor so hasn't thought about that one.

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TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 29/08/2023 22:16

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I don’t think you understand intersex conditions. There aren’t people going round with two sets of sexual organs (the ‘hermaphrodite’ myth).

You are welcome to avoid talking about the reality of biology if you prefer, but Starmer didn’t just say he avoids it, he said it shouldn’t be said, which is a pretty shocking statement- for a potential prime minister to opine on our right to state the truth is a serious thing in a country which hitherto has rated free speech highly.

WallaceinAnderland · 29/08/2023 22:16

lightinthebox · 29/08/2023 21:40

Yes, because all trans people are rapists and child abusers apparently.

Stereotyping like this is dangerously similar to how gay men were accused.

It's not trans people we want to keep out of female only spaces. It's all men.

We don't want gay men in our female only sports. We don't want disabled men in our female only prisons. We don't want black men in our female only changing areas. We don't want Muslim men in our female only hospital wards. These men are male. No matter what their protected characteristics have, we don't want any men in our female only spaces. No matter how lovely these males are, women and children are entitled to dignity, respect as well as the safety afforded us by safeguarding measures.

It's not transphobic or homophobic or racist or discriminatory to insist that women be allowed to keep their single sex, female only spaces which they are entitled to in law.

Transwomen are biologically male. This is what it boils down to and it's not transphobic to say that. They need to campaign for their own spaces just like women campaigned for theirs and people with disabilities campaigned for accessible services. It's not ok to just try and take away from another group with a protected characteristic and call anyone who objects a bigot.

This needs saying out loud so that people understand how important it.

The Torys are running with it because they know it makes sense. Any party trying to defend the erosion of womens rights and the dismantling of safeguarding is not going to come out of a campaign looking good.

It's hard to defend male rapists in womens prisons or a person convicted of child sex abuse being allowed to change their name and self identify into places where women and children are vulnerable. It's not ok. Everyone knows it's not ok. It's indefensible.

Scrumptiousspongecake · 29/08/2023 22:15

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Lantyslee · 29/08/2023 22:15

@Unexpectedlysinglemum it's not a random issue to vote over if you're affected by it. I am in two ways, firstly because I have child drawn into this bullshit and secondly because I am a woman who is losing my rights.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:15

Boomboom22 · 29/08/2023 21:49

Yabvvvvu. Do you think it's OK that children are accessing binders and hormones for no real medical reason? That men who rape are placed with female prisoners? That rapists are called she in court otherwise contempt? It is not the tory media it is actually happening and has been for about 20 years, just the tory media was on side too before.

The Tory media says things like

'You can't say vagina any more you have to say bonus hole that's what the woke left want!!!' Similar to 'baa baa black sheep is banned because it's racist!'

And you see here on mums net that's lapped up and believed and it totally erases any discussion of real racism or transphobia.

The issues you describe - I think they're evey important but to me not more important than climate change or education or health funding - but no one is taking about those (which the tories are failing at) as the gender stuff is so constantly in the headlines scaring parents into thinking that only the tories can save their child from identifying as a cat

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BlackForestCake · 29/08/2023 22:12

It's the other way around. The issue has been hyped by liberals to distract from the fact that they are going to do nothing to improve ordinary people's lives. They need the culture war more than the Tories do.

RedToothBrush · 29/08/2023 22:12

Muddyfeetgood · 29/08/2023 22:03

I think all parties need to come out and state that trans people have a right to live their lives in peace but have no right whatsoever to enter women’s private spaces, or demand that their identified gender be recognised over their biological sex.

this will put all of the trans Hysteria to bed and we can concentrate on real issues.

But that's Transphobic.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/08/2023 22:12

hermaphrodite? Intersex? Please don’t use those terms. People with DSD (differences or disorders of sexual development) have repeatedly asked not to be dragged into this. A medical condition that affects sexual development is nothing whatsoever like being transgender

also people with DSD are still either male or female. There is no mysterious third sex

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:12

@Gerrataere I totally agree re the risks to autistic children especially.

I guess to mean this still seems like quite a random issue to vote over, to me personally it's not more important that the climate or education or health funding- i would do a campaign or a petition about a niche issue but not use my one vote on it at the expense of the other issues

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Boomboom22 · 29/08/2023 22:11

Also both of those terms are offensive. Disorders of sexual development only affect either males or females. It's a bit shocking you are on this board trying to influence people using outdated language like that.

Boomboom22 · 29/08/2023 22:10

Please read up on intersex or dsds.
That is categorically not true.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:09

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Theeyeballsinthesky · 29/08/2023 22:09

Exactly that @Muddyfeetgood so simple and yet none of the political parties can do it

Lantyslee · 29/08/2023 22:08

The Tories wouldn't be able to gain votes on this issue if the rest of the UK's political parties weren't such a total shitshow on the topic.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:06

Feckedupbundle · 29/08/2023 21:44

No. I think it's incredibly important. You can't protect what you can't name. I never thought that I'd see women's rights and child safeguarding go backwards in my lifetime,but here we are.

Do you think safeguarding is going back because of current sex education? Or because of the risks of men posing as trans women being violent in women's spaces?

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Unexpectedlysinglemum · 29/08/2023 22:05

ScottishIceCream · 29/08/2023 21:45

I disagree.

By far the biggest exploitation is by the trans lobby.

They are using the fact that many right wing groups are against what is happening, in order to push the narrative that it's ONLY right wing people and organisations who disagree with "trans rights".

This is in order to try and make ordinary people believe that they must support this nonsense and if they don't they're right wing bigots.

Interesting

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RedToothBrush · 29/08/2023 22:05

The interesting thing is opposition to Stonewall Law came from Left Wing and Liberal Women BEFORE it ever reached the Tory Party HQ to set a strategy.

These women tried to get EVERY political party to see the issues that Stonewall Law was trying to sweep under the carpet or totally silence quite deliberately through intimidation.

The only party that realised that they had a point has been the Tory Party. Which is a special kind of irony.

Labour were given the opportunity to ask questions. They didn't want to know.