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Hannah Ingram-Moore -Victim or Villain?

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MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 15/08/2023 21:17

I'm inclined to think we've been scammed. Am I being unreasonable?

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Justleaveitblankthen · 16/08/2023 15:49

Isittimeformynapyet · 15/08/2023 22:55

So did I! Just looked him up - 75 years old apparently.

Me too.
I had 'remembered him having a sudden heart attack, but have just realised it was Les Dennis' former comedy partner, Dustin Gee.

I used to get that lot mixed up back in the 80's.
Barrymore was another.

Not my cup of tea ☕

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 16/08/2023 15:47

MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 16/08/2023 00:36

@OnceAgainWithFeeling I totally agree with you. But the problems here are not (unless you inform me otherwise) at the feet of the tax-payer. The problems are with the employer. We donated money to save lives - not buy mars bars. Well - that was my understanding anyway -but it looks like I'm in a minority.

If the campaign had have been entitled 'support your local nurses', I would have still have given the same amount - but I wouldn't feel like I've been mis-led.

With respect, you haven’t got a fucking clue.

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 14:56

HazelHair · 16/08/2023 14:32

I'd rather the money went towards Mars bars for NHS staff than some chancer's swimming pool!

That isnt the two choices available.

HazelHair · 16/08/2023 14:32

I'd rather the money went towards Mars bars for NHS staff than some chancer's swimming pool!

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 14:13

JenniferBooth · 16/08/2023 13:46

YES One min posters are calling pensions a benefit the next they are saying if you dont pay your NI you wont get it, Gaslighting

It’s not gaslighting. The state pension is legally defined as a contributory benefit, see my reply post above.

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 14:11

AbsolutelyCreamCrackered · 16/08/2023 13:35

Given the biggest benefits bill, we have is pensions. Yes.

Pensions aren't a benefit. They are contributory. You have to pay into it for 35 years or you don't get it. If people aren't happy with this, then I am quite happy to no longer pay this part of the NI I pay every month, for 35 years, and I'll pay it into a private pension.

It is not factually correct to think state pensions are a benefit. For example, I will not get my pension unless I carry on working for the next 8 years, paying NI, to reach 35 years. They are a pension that are paid to people who have contributed to them, many of whom contribute and don't make it to drawing it out, and their relatives receive nothing, unlike a private pension.

Pensions absolutely are a benefit, qualification for which is based on NI contributions - in exactly the same way as other contribution based benefits, such as JSA and various incapacity benefits are paid. If you don’t have enough contributions for those then you don’t qualify. And it is not correct to say that you need 35 years of contributions to claim state pension. New state pension is payable at a reduced rate with less than 35 years of contributions, once you have paid NI for ten years or more.

State pension is defined as a state benefit, and is administered by DWP - use of the word ‘benefit’ for state pension has always been classified in law from the time of the1946 National Insurance Act, which applied from the inception of the National Insurance scheme and the term ‘contributory benefit’ forms the legislative framework of the Social Security Contributions and Benefits Act 1992. Section 20 of that Act has the title ‘Descriptions of contributory benefits’. Contributory benefits under Part II of that Act are listed, including state pension. The introduction of the new State Pension from 6 April 2016 is also classified as a “benefit” under Section 1(1) of the Pensions Act 2014.

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 13:50

JenniferBooth · 16/08/2023 13:46

YES One min posters are calling pensions a benefit the next they are saying if you dont pay your NI you wont get it, Gaslighting

That certainly hasn’t been said by me.

Pensions are in the same pot as benefits, the never-ending stream of cash that apparently our national insurance covers so actually the problem is, the national insurance isn’t covering any of it, if truth be told.

It’s not covering the NHS, and it is covering the pensions. One could naturally conclude that the pot is not big enough.

Something is going to have to give.

JenniferBooth · 16/08/2023 13:46

YES One min posters are calling pensions a benefit the next they are saying if you dont pay your NI you wont get it, Gaslighting

AbsolutelyCreamCrackered · 16/08/2023 13:35

Given the biggest benefits bill, we have is pensions. Yes.

Pensions aren't a benefit. They are contributory. You have to pay into it for 35 years or you don't get it. If people aren't happy with this, then I am quite happy to no longer pay this part of the NI I pay every month, for 35 years, and I'll pay it into a private pension.

It is not factually correct to think state pensions are a benefit. For example, I will not get my pension unless I carry on working for the next 8 years, paying NI, to reach 35 years. They are a pension that are paid to people who have contributed to them, many of whom contribute and don't make it to drawing it out, and their relatives receive nothing, unlike a private pension.

Northernsouloldies · 16/08/2023 13:34

For the most part none of us knew this man and being old doesn't make you a Saint. The daughter went for it and created a capt. Moore industry and there is no way of knowing if dad was in on it.

Highdaysandholidays1 · 16/08/2023 13:32

Surely the issue with the Mars Bars is as follows:

  1. This should have been transparent- that NHS charities cannot fund equipment or nurses or most staff. I agree it's fine to spend the money on wellbeing services but be transparent about that so people don't then feel like trust is a bit broken.
  2. Mars bars have not in any way solved the nurse and dr retention crisis, because it's just a drop in the ocean compared with paying people properly and structuring their shifts so they can live normal lives. No-one wants to work in a broken down crappy service which exhausts them on every shift due to lack of equipment and even risk of Covid/death (many drs in London died).
  3. Wellbeing stuff is notoriously difficult to prove that it has any good effect, and if anything can be perceived as patronising, here have a mars bar whilst we can't provide you with PPE or cleaners don't get masks.
  4. Mars bars, cake and crappy processed food-ok in a crisis, but as per usual completely no joined up thinking about caring for the workforce properly, providing clean kitchen facilities, toilets, proper break facilities, high quality nutritious food. Heck, the NHS charges its staff to park if they can't find a free space!

There is so much wrong, and it's hard for the public to understand that what seems like a bit sum of money just got eaten up and probably had little tangible benefit. This point does in no way diminish what drs and nurses and cleaners and all NHS went through in the pandemic, I'm not surprised it broke so many and so many are still staggering on waiting to get out (or striking).

Blossomtoes · 16/08/2023 13:26

As I said earlier in the thread an NHS nurse I know and love ended up with PTSD after a year working in ITU. Some of the money paid for her to have counselling so thank you everyone who donated. Your money meant the world to her.

JenniferBooth · 16/08/2023 13:23

While he was traipsing up and down his garden many of us came on here and said "the NHS is not a charity" I knew it was for the staff so they could get some support from the public I had/have no objection to them getting pizzas massages tubs of Quality Street ............etc they went through hell............although obvs a pay rise would be better

Motorcycleemptyness · 16/08/2023 13:22

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 11:29

Isn’t it possible that rather than people handing over cash because ‘the Daily Mail tells them to’, they did so because they have enormous respect for what the NHS stands for, and how selfless the staff were during a time when resources were stretched to the limit and their own safety was hugely at risk as they looked after other peoples’ loved ones ? Isn’t it also possible that that same respect was extended to Captain Tom because in people recognised that had not been for him and the men of his generation, our reality would be a very different one ? Maybe people gave so generously because they were moved that a courageous old man who fought for his country and the freedoms we have today, at the age of 99, invoked that spirit again by actually getting off his arse and doing something to help.

Then why are those posters whinging that the NHS charity money was spent on mars bars and massages?

I cannot listen (or read an incredibly mean spirited thread) to people complain and begrudge a small treat for NHS staff during a massive world health crisis when that was what the money was for all along. It’s not my fault they can’t read. No one ever said the money was going else where. So yeah I do think they donated because people in the UK LOVE frothing at posh old people who wear war medals.

DriftingDora · 16/08/2023 13:15

Puffypuffin · 16/08/2023 09:14

I totally understand what you are saying. My sister is a long-standing, very experienced nurse and the whole Covid situation almost broke her and I know she's not alone in that.

Absolutely agree with you, Nottslady. How short memories are - as Puffy says, Covid nearly broke a lot of people, so how NHS workers coped I cannot imagine.

TwoItalianApples · 16/08/2023 12:00

If i knew it would go viral, I wouldn't subject my parents to it. But everyone is different. I think he managed to play up the hero stuff and play down the weird first marriage etc. Wasn't he also on a game-show? Unlike my parents who would hate attention, she probably knew he was up for it to be fair.

CostelloJones · 16/08/2023 11:57

Absolutely disgraceful IMO. Complete scam artist.

Her Father seemed like a sweet and kind man, but he was vulnerable and she profiteered from the whole thing

MrsMarzetti · 16/08/2023 11:56

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 11:24

Given the biggest benefits bill, we have is pensions. Yes.

How must your Grandparents feel/or felt knowing you begrudged them every penny of their pension. Did they know how much you resented them ?

GenieGenealogy · 16/08/2023 11:52

TwoItalianApples · 16/08/2023 10:46

rts.org.uk/article/rts-east-story-captain-tom-moore

Mmmm Who thinks to send a press release about their dads fundraising out ?

Either:

Someone who has a background in PR and who is well aware of the potential for a "feel good" story to go viral and generate £££ for charity.

Or:

Someone who realises that this is just the sort of public interest story which will raise their own profile considerably.

I think that both are probably true here.

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 11:46

zingally · 16/08/2023 11:34

Oh, complete villain. Or more precisely, she's fallen into a pit of her own greed.

Do you remember her during the height of lockdown 1? The absolute GLEE on her face during every interview, whilst her ancient, befuddled dad traipsed up and down the garden?
She absolutely could not believe her luck! She flogged that horse for absolutely every single penny it was worth.

Then in the next lockdown, she got offered a great holiday - providing dear old dad came along - which everyone said would kill him. And sure enough, it did.

I'm not even a tiny bit surprised it's all caught up with her. She's a prime example of why being a greedy, grabby bastard doesn't pay.

well to be fair, it appears to have paid off quite nicely.

zingally · 16/08/2023 11:34

Oh, complete villain. Or more precisely, she's fallen into a pit of her own greed.

Do you remember her during the height of lockdown 1? The absolute GLEE on her face during every interview, whilst her ancient, befuddled dad traipsed up and down the garden?
She absolutely could not believe her luck! She flogged that horse for absolutely every single penny it was worth.

Then in the next lockdown, she got offered a great holiday - providing dear old dad came along - which everyone said would kill him. And sure enough, it did.

I'm not even a tiny bit surprised it's all caught up with her. She's a prime example of why being a greedy, grabby bastard doesn't pay.

Blossomtoes · 16/08/2023 11:31

I know. Never misses even half a chance. 🙄

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 11:29

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 11:24

Given the biggest benefits bill, we have is pensions. Yes.

Not this again……………..

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 11:29

Motorcycleemptyness · 16/08/2023 09:41

Hannah Ingram-Moore is absolutely a grifting horrible woman who should be in jail. That is without question. She is despicable. The performance at Wimbledon just showed what an utter arsehole she is. She is scum.

I couldn’t bear the mawkishness surrounding Captain Tom, and by the end, couldn’t stand the sight of the bastard. The foundation set up in his name needs closing down because that is genuinely shady with no real charitable purpose.

HOWEVER all that said, the fact that hard of thinking posters don’t understand the function of NHS charities is a separate issue. It is utterly unsurprising that scum like Hannah Ingram-Moore are able to take advantage of these situations when people just froth with excitement at the thought of an old man pottering around his own garden with his war medals on and they mindlessly hand over cash because the daily mail tells them to. Get a fucking grip, and this sort of shit will have much less opportunity to happen.

Isn’t it possible that rather than people handing over cash because ‘the Daily Mail tells them to’, they did so because they have enormous respect for what the NHS stands for, and how selfless the staff were during a time when resources were stretched to the limit and their own safety was hugely at risk as they looked after other peoples’ loved ones ? Isn’t it also possible that that same respect was extended to Captain Tom because in people recognised that had not been for him and the men of his generation, our reality would be a very different one ? Maybe people gave so generously because they were moved that a courageous old man who fought for his country and the freedoms we have today, at the age of 99, invoked that spirit again by actually getting off his arse and doing something to help.

Fuckingfuming1 · 16/08/2023 11:24

Rosscameasdoody · 16/08/2023 11:10

NI payments don’t just fund the NHS, they also fund benefits. Do you suggest we privatise them too ?

Given the biggest benefits bill, we have is pensions. Yes.