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Hannah Ingram-Moore -Victim or Villain?

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MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 15/08/2023 21:17

I'm inclined to think we've been scammed. Am I being unreasonable?

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Staygoldponyboystaygold · 13/10/2023 21:03

I didn’t like her from the start. She was just too pleased with herself and absolutely loved being in the spotlight. Every time I switched on the telly, there she was grinning inanely! I did nt say anything at the time as I thought I might get sent to the tower.

Zanatdy · 13/10/2023 20:44

If anyone didn’t know the money wasn’t going direct to the NHS then I suggest you research a bit more before donating. It was made very clear the money was for NHS charities, not the NHS. And boy they covered the story a lot. So listen more if you’re that concerned

BlossomCloud · 13/10/2023 20:41

Crapsummer2023 · 13/10/2023 20:23

Only a certain type fell for it , e.g those weirdos who make a massive show of wearing a poppy, get over excited about William and Katherine’s kids like they are the second coming and record Lorraine to watch later.

Many of us called it for being a grift very early on but were slated on here for being un-British or wanting to destroy the NHS.

I believe Captain Tom was also in on it. Old people can be every bit as crafty as young people. A grifter doesn’t just become smiley, doddery and start wearing a cardigan with Wherthers Orginals in the pocket as soon as they collect their pension and bus pass. The way the media carried on was embarrassing.

And banged pans on doorsteps and judged people if they left the house more than once a day in lockdown but then rushed to "eat out to help out ' because Rishi told them to...

User2346 · 13/10/2023 20:40

Crapsummer2023 · 13/10/2023 20:23

Only a certain type fell for it , e.g those weirdos who make a massive show of wearing a poppy, get over excited about William and Katherine’s kids like they are the second coming and record Lorraine to watch later.

Many of us called it for being a grift very early on but were slated on here for being un-British or wanting to destroy the NHS.

I believe Captain Tom was also in on it. Old people can be every bit as crafty as young people. A grifter doesn’t just become smiley, doddery and start wearing a cardigan with Wherthers Orginals in the pocket as soon as they collect their pension and bus pass. The way the media carried on was embarrassing.

Agree 100%

Northernsouloldies · 13/10/2023 20:27

Agree with the above 100%.

Crapsummer2023 · 13/10/2023 20:23

Northernsouloldies · 13/10/2023 08:22

Scam artist and Britain fell for it.

Only a certain type fell for it , e.g those weirdos who make a massive show of wearing a poppy, get over excited about William and Katherine’s kids like they are the second coming and record Lorraine to watch later.

Many of us called it for being a grift very early on but were slated on here for being un-British or wanting to destroy the NHS.

I believe Captain Tom was also in on it. Old people can be every bit as crafty as young people. A grifter doesn’t just become smiley, doddery and start wearing a cardigan with Wherthers Orginals in the pocket as soon as they collect their pension and bus pass. The way the media carried on was embarrassing.

lizzy8230 · 13/10/2023 09:35

I'm a bit conflicted on this... I'd hate to think the whole thing was a set-up and the daughter got dear old dad to do his walking up and down specifically to go to the media about it and turn it into the huge thing it became... I want to think that it was genuinely his doing, and he wanted to do his little bit to help, but it then got sort of hijacked by the daughter.

Whichever scenario, I think she's a total grifter. She saw an opportunity, whether it was right from the get go or whether it was when the whole thing began to snowball. The spa and the crazy salary for a bit of part time 'work' are so classless and grabby.

Northernsouloldies · 13/10/2023 08:38

The whole thing was bollocks from start to finish. The media hype, his family using it as a launching pad to bring in money and wasn't the daughter the one who awarded herself a huge amount of money for a three day week.

lastseasonstop · 13/10/2023 08:32

Northernsouloldies · 13/10/2023 08:22

Scam artist and Britain fell for it.

Only those that donated to the charitable foundation set up after Tom died surely?

Northernsouloldies · 13/10/2023 08:22

Scam artist and Britain fell for it.

HiHoHiHoltsOffToWorkWeGo · 13/10/2023 07:10

lastseasonstop · 13/10/2023 07:05

I am on holiday. Was there a documentary about the family last night? Did anyone watch?

Apparently she was on TalkTV with Piers Morgan.

Attempting to justify her hanging on to £800k from book sales - it was what he wanted, apparently!

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-beds-bucks-herts-67086802

lastseasonstop · 13/10/2023 07:05

I am on holiday. Was there a documentary about the family last night? Did anyone watch?

Skodacool · 12/10/2023 21:48

MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 15/08/2023 23:43

Going back to the original campaign- when I was giving money I thought I was donating towards equipment to save people's lives -not mars bars and tea rooms for staff. Not that they don't deserve them - absolutely do, but we were told we were in an absolute crisis. Cadbury and coffee isn't a crisis.

We live and learn.

I think it was made clear that the money was to provide facilities to make NHS staff lives a bit more comfortable, not for direct NHS funding.

watermeloncougar · 23/08/2023 12:16

@MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather it was very clear that core NHS equipment is funded through the taxpayer. The money raised for NHS Charities Together was to support NHS staff and users in other ways. It's your responsibility to look at what you're donating money for.

babbscrabbs · 21/08/2023 22:37

MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 16/08/2023 00:17

I wouldn't blame anyone for taking anything offered - fair play. But tea rooms and massages? Any data on the impact yet? More lives saved with rested staff? Waste of money.

I just think that when we were raising money for the 'NHS', it was for the institution- not the individuals. Maybe I'm wrong.

It was very clear at the time it was NHS Charities Together and helping to support staff wellbeing, because I remember that being reported by a major news outlet (BBC).

ApiratesaysYarrr · 21/08/2023 22:24

MrsImFedUpOfTheWeather · 15/08/2023 22:22

Food and wellbeing for staff? That's questionable for a start. That isn't what people thought they were donating to. I'd like to see how that money was spent.

Never again will I give to a 'charity'. Charities are for fools.

My unit got 2 high quality ultrasound scanning machines (costing tens of thousands) for our clinic from the Tom Moore fund.

Highdaysandholidays1 · 21/08/2023 20:50

I also disagree about Deborah James. She rose to the challenge of her illness and beyond. She already had a platform and used it amazingly well. Of course someone no-one knew and wasn't pretty and glamorous wouldn't have got coverage, but that's most people in TV. I think she also banded together with others (her two radio co-hosts) and created solidarity as well as awareness. I don't think many people could be handed that, even with her existing privilege, and made it what she did.

I don't put her at all in the same category.

clarehhh · 21/08/2023 18:46

Yes I do

KatherineSwynford1403 · 21/08/2023 15:39

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-beds-bucks-herts-52757533

Does anyone remember this guy? I have never heard of him until today. I don't recall seeing him in the media at all.

I guess too that Speedo Mick won't get the same coverage.

https://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/scottish-news/charity-fundraiser-speedo-mick-scales-28976045

MaggieFS · 20/08/2023 07:22

Hmmm, I don't think it's reason to say that about Deborah James, but I'm not sure I agree. And I have very much agreed about Tom Moore, I loathe media do-good bandwagons, I prefer to think for myself and make my own choices about charity donations.

On the one hand I agree that if she had been less polished she wouldn't have got the profile. I'm not sure she should have been made a dame. I think it's a shame she couldn't show the grim side of cancer alongside the glamorous.

But in the other hand, I do think she raised important conversations and much as the media hype was over blown I don't think the background is really comparable.

User2346 · 19/08/2023 22:09

VivienneDelacroix · 19/08/2023 20:35

This will be unpopular, but I feel the same way about this whole thing as I diabolo Deborah James. Their privilege made them the palatable face of things we'd find unsavoury in people with less privilege- death, ageing, cancer... They were lauded by the media because they had the education, privilege, connections, and whiteness to enable them to make the most of their situations. Let's not pretend that a Tom Moore on a council estate or a less polished and pretty Deborah James would have had similar opportunities -more likely they would have been ignored at best or hauled over the very worst of the "Great" British press.

Agree but again it will be tantamount to treason to say this.

TrundleWheel · 19/08/2023 20:48

Absolute scammer out for what she can get.

Do you all remember her standing and waving to the crowds at Wimbledon? Made me want to vomit.

VivienneDelacroix · 19/08/2023 20:38

BIossomtoes · 17/08/2023 10:08

That’s taken a long time. The Trust I worked for did that in 2005 - it somehow managed to be in financial difficulties during the milk and honey years.

Oh yes, the "public sector white" paper that is actually yellowish-grey.

VivienneDelacroix · 19/08/2023 20:35

This will be unpopular, but I feel the same way about this whole thing as I diabolo Deborah James. Their privilege made them the palatable face of things we'd find unsavoury in people with less privilege- death, ageing, cancer... They were lauded by the media because they had the education, privilege, connections, and whiteness to enable them to make the most of their situations. Let's not pretend that a Tom Moore on a council estate or a less polished and pretty Deborah James would have had similar opportunities -more likely they would have been ignored at best or hauled over the very worst of the "Great" British press.

x2boys · 17/08/2023 21:36

BIossomtoes · 17/08/2023 09:43

Those too. And small sharp knives.

And mugs some colleagues were obsessed with having their own mug ..