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AIBU to leave my wedding rings at home for holiday?

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pontipinemum · 11/08/2023 09:22

Am I being over cautious by not bringing my wedding rings on holiday? DH is taking his. We have had 2 sun + sea holidays since getting married and I brought a fake set on both trips. I bring my real rings on other breaks where I know I won't be swimming.

I'm mostly curious as to what others do. I just figure on our upcoming holiday I would just have to find somewhere to store them on holiday as we plan on being in the pool every day so easier not to take them. DH has a simple band which can be hit and won't come off his finger.

YABU - wear your wedding ring on holiday
YANBU - too big a risk of losing it in the sea or breaking a diamond off in the pool

OP posts:
sunflowerdaisyrose · 11/08/2023 10:02

I just wear mine on beach and active holidays. They don't fall off and they can be cleaned. I take them off for activities like climbing (as it's risking a nasty injury wearing them) or for things like making burgers at home.

CatsOnTheChair · 11/08/2023 10:01

Mine has been rafting, caving, to water parks, to theme parks. It never (very, very rarely) comes off.

CissOff · 11/08/2023 10:00

Genuinely didn’t realise this was a ‘thing’.

I just wear mine wherever I am going. I’m far more likely to lose them taking them on and off constantly.

Every day is a school day!

Peony654 · 11/08/2023 09:58

Hilarious that people have fakes. I wear mine on holidays but they’re fairly modest, and if I’m going on a boat trip or sea swimming I’d leave in the hotel safe.

ZeldaWillTellYourFortune · 11/08/2023 09:56

I never take valuable jewelry on holiday. Not worth the risk.

Greffabtra · 11/08/2023 09:56

I wear a cheap version just because after 27 years with a ring on my finger it feels very strange not to wear something. It is more to do with sentimental value that the actual cost of the rings. I leave my actual rings at home.

Moredarkchocolateplease · 11/08/2023 09:56

*bear

Moredarkchocolateplease · 11/08/2023 09:56

I had to take mine off last year for a day when I was having a general anaesthetic and I couldn't bare the feeling of my finger without the ring!

I leave my wedding band and engagement ring on for everything. Swimming, beach, cooking, rolling out dough, etc etc.

It had never occurred to me to take them off for anything.

My engagement ring is white gold and diamond. No idea how much it cost as DH chose it.

pontipinemum · 11/08/2023 09:56

CR7 · 11/08/2023 09:25

I take mine but always leave them in the hotel safe during the day. I wouldn't book a hotel that didn't have a safe. For me it's not just swimming in my jewellery, it's the thought of sun tan lotion and sand etc.

I also have my engagement ring checked once a year at the jeweller we bought it from to check that the claws etc are all perfect etc. I've never worried about losing a diamond or breaking it in the pool.

We've been married nearly 5 years. I must do that! I think the man that made them will even check them over for free.

@smartiesneberhadtheanswer no def not worried about being chatted up I just like wearing a wedding ring. I bought the fake one for our honeymoon we went back packing for a month with all the moving around I didn't want to bring the real ones. Although we finished up in a resort for a few nights loads of people there wore rubber wedding rings

OP posts:
YaWeeFurryBastard · 11/08/2023 09:55

cruffinsmuffin · 11/08/2023 09:48

Mine is also platinum and diamond - I know it's super hardy hence why it was picked, also fully insure. But I'm also going to water parks / doing water sports - if I was just planning on floating in a swimming pool it might be different, but it's too risky to wear something so precious to me in a situation like that imo, I don't want to have to make use of the insurance because I took a risk wearing it white water rafting!

I'd rather leave it in the safe at home than the safe in the hotel as well, I trust my home safe and house sitting family member way more than the hotel one (although I'm sure they wouldn't risk it!).

We also do plenty of active/water sports and travelling about, it’s never come off so far so I’m not worried!

DatumTarum · 11/08/2023 09:55

Why are people taking them off?

Surely more chance of loosing them that way?

(I thought this thread was going to be more salacious than it is)

Shinyandnew1 · 11/08/2023 09:53

DH has a simple band which can be hit

Hit?

I just wear mine all of the time-I never take them off so wouldn’t do this. It’s fine if you don’t want to though. I wouldn’t bother with a fake ring though!

Fireyflies · 11/08/2023 09:52

People talk to me whether I have a ring on or not. But yes I do find men sometimes try and chat me to if I'm not wearing it. I prefer to have things clear from the start.

AnguaResurgam · 11/08/2023 09:52

Wedding ring is a plain gold band which I wear everywhere.

Engagement ring is often taken off for activities, and so is usually left hidden at home for holidays.

ManateeFair · 11/08/2023 09:52

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 11/08/2023 09:40

What's with the 'fakes'? Are you worried ppl won't know you're married without a ring and talk to you? 🤣🤣🤣

Yes, I'm wondering about this too! I can understand why someone might not want to take valuable jewellery away with them but I'm not really seeing why you'd need to wear fakes instead.

ManateeFair · 11/08/2023 09:50

I'm not married but it would never occur to me to take my jewellery off for a holiday or swap it for fakes. I just wear mine all the time.

Fireyflies · 11/08/2023 09:50

Mine never slips off so I don't worry about swimming etc. When going to a country with higher crime rate I have swapped it for a version I bought for £1.99 on eBay. Looks like a wedding ring but I don't need to worry about anyone trying to steel it.

DrLightman · 11/08/2023 09:50

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 11/08/2023 09:40

What's with the 'fakes'? Are you worried ppl won't know you're married without a ring and talk to you? 🤣🤣🤣

After 25 years of marriage, it doesnt feel right not to have a ring on that finger

toomuchlaundry · 11/08/2023 09:49

I wear my wedding ring all the time as just a plain band, but don’t tend to take my engagement ring in holiday. When I first got it a friend who used to work in a jewellery shop told me to never wear the ring in bed or when showering as those are the times you are most likely to catch the claws on the ring. I have followed that advice and so not wanting to leave my ring in a hotel room I don’t tend to take it with me

cruffinsmuffin · 11/08/2023 09:48

YaWeeFurryBastard · 11/08/2023 09:44

But I also don't want to be walking around with £££ on my finger at the beach / pool / holiday in general. My next holiday will be mid 30s with lots of water involved, I'm not splashing around with a house deposit on my finger 😂

Why? My engagement ring is worth 5 figures and I wear it all the time on holiday, including in the pool. It’s platinum and diamond so very hardy and is also fully insured. The only time I really take it off is if we’re somewhere particularly dangerous like outside a resort in Jamaica or Africa.

Mine is also platinum and diamond - I know it's super hardy hence why it was picked, also fully insure. But I'm also going to water parks / doing water sports - if I was just planning on floating in a swimming pool it might be different, but it's too risky to wear something so precious to me in a situation like that imo, I don't want to have to make use of the insurance because I took a risk wearing it white water rafting!

I'd rather leave it in the safe at home than the safe in the hotel as well, I trust my home safe and house sitting family member way more than the hotel one (although I'm sure they wouldn't risk it!).

Girasoli · 11/08/2023 09:47

I only take mine off if I'm making pastry.
Mine's not so big that I'd worry about anyone stealing it.

FloopyZebra · 11/08/2023 09:47

I have a plain wedding band and I never take it off!

YaWeeFurryBastard · 11/08/2023 09:44

But I also don't want to be walking around with £££ on my finger at the beach / pool / holiday in general. My next holiday will be mid 30s with lots of water involved, I'm not splashing around with a house deposit on my finger 😂

Why? My engagement ring is worth 5 figures and I wear it all the time on holiday, including in the pool. It’s platinum and diamond so very hardy and is also fully insured. The only time I really take it off is if we’re somewhere particularly dangerous like outside a resort in Jamaica or Africa.

yogasaurus · 11/08/2023 09:44

I don’t ever take mine off

cruffinsmuffin · 11/08/2023 09:42

I take fake rings on holiday because I feel naked without my wedding / engagement rings, I like having something there now and it feels weird not too.

But I also don't want to be walking around with £££ on my finger at the beach / pool / holiday in general. My next holiday will be mid 30s with lots of water involved, I'm not splashing around with a house deposit on my finger 😂