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AIBU to leave my wedding rings at home for holiday?

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pontipinemum · 11/08/2023 09:22

Am I being over cautious by not bringing my wedding rings on holiday? DH is taking his. We have had 2 sun + sea holidays since getting married and I brought a fake set on both trips. I bring my real rings on other breaks where I know I won't be swimming.

I'm mostly curious as to what others do. I just figure on our upcoming holiday I would just have to find somewhere to store them on holiday as we plan on being in the pool every day so easier not to take them. DH has a simple band which can be hit and won't come off his finger.

YABU - wear your wedding ring on holiday
YANBU - too big a risk of losing it in the sea or breaking a diamond off in the pool

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Itsnotrightbutitsok · 11/08/2023 10:47

I would personally leave mine at home if they’re so sentimental or expensive.

Why take the risk of losing it in the sea, you’ll still be married without the ring.

I wouldn’t bother with a fake one either.

GoingGoingUp · 11/08/2023 10:43

My engagement ring is very valuable so whether or not I take it depends on where we are going and what we will be doing. When I leave it behind, I usually wear the token ring DH used to propose with.

RobotsWillRule · 11/08/2023 10:42

If they fit properly you don't need to take them off for swimming.

MrsSkylerWhite · 11/08/2023 10:41

It’s never occurred to me.

DixonD · 11/08/2023 10:39

smartiesneberhadtheanswer · 11/08/2023 09:40

What's with the 'fakes'? Are you worried ppl won't know you're married without a ring and talk to you? 🤣🤣🤣

This. It all sounds a bit nuts to me. I’ve never even taken mine off.

whoruntheworldgirls · 11/08/2023 10:38

Always leave all jewellery at home for holidays. Rings because i snorkel a lot plus in the heat my fingers sometimes swell, don't want them getting stuck.

Slushynana · 11/08/2023 10:35

I leave mine at home after losing my wedding ring in Antigua, don’t know how I lost it, one minute it seemed to be on my finger, the next it wasn’t there, I know I could have lost it anywhere but always leave my new ring at home now. Having to get a new one didn’t seem the same😢

illiterato · 11/08/2023 10:34

Quite often don’t wear them at home (take them off for running/ gym/ gardening etc) and tend to leave them at home when on holiday as i tend not to wear them when at the beach/ pool/ when skiing and it’s easy to lose track of them.

swimminginthesun · 11/08/2023 10:30

Nothing unreasonable about it. They are your rings so it’s up to you. I think it’s a bit weird buying a “fake” set though. Either wear them or don’t. 🤷‍♀️ I’ve been married 10 years. I take my engagement ring off for work because I’m not allowed to wear it there. Otherwise I wear both rings all the time including shower, beach, pool swimming, outdoor swimming, hiking… never an issue. Although maybe I’ve been incredibly careless and just got lucky.

ActDottie · 11/08/2023 10:28

I never take mine off so they come on holiday too!

mum11970 · 11/08/2023 10:24

Wear mine all the time but they’re not expensive so it isn’t really an issue.

vitahelp · 11/08/2023 10:23

I'm confused by this but can see it is a common thing based on PP replies. What is it you are worried might happen to them on holiday? I wore mine on a beach type holiday recently, there was no chance of them coming off since they fit well anyway but my fingers swell a bit on holiday so they go quite tight.
I'd be more nervous leaving things like this at home in case we were robbed.

Q2C4 · 11/08/2023 10:22

One of my colleagues left hers at home when she went away & was burgled! Lost the lot.

GCWorkNightmare · 11/08/2023 10:20

DrLightman · 11/08/2023 09:50

After 25 years of marriage, it doesnt feel right not to have a ring on that finger

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Nearly 20 years and never worn one. Feeling relieved I’ve never had to ponder this issue! 😂

Cucucucu · 11/08/2023 10:17

What sort of jewellery do you have ? Stoves shouldn’t get loose even if you swim daily . Is it fir fear of getting them robbed ? ? I’m confused

Parsleymint · 11/08/2023 10:17

I've been married 30 years and seldom wore my ring for the first few years.
I deliberately didn't want to make it a superstitious thing. I remember my grandmother being upset when she had to have hers cut off due to arthritis.

I did take it and wear it occaisionally on holiday though.
Now I never wear it, not sure where it is.

yogasaurus · 11/08/2023 10:15

Blossomtoes · 11/08/2023 10:14

Same. My wedding ring’s never left my finger in 23 years.

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I don’t think I could get mine off if I wanted to
now!

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Prinnny · 11/08/2023 10:14

I didn’t know this was a thing! I never take mine off, it fits really well so I don’t worry about it coming off, but I also always wear expensive earrings, bracelet etc, what’s the point in having nice things to sit in a box?

Bluevelvetsofa · 11/08/2023 10:14

Would you be covered for insurance if you left expensive jewellery at home whilst you were away from the house for a period of time? Maybe, if it was in a safe, perhaps.

Blossomtoes · 11/08/2023 10:14

OwlBabiesAreCute · 11/08/2023 09:33

I just wear mine all the time!

Same. My wedding ring’s never left my finger in 23 years.

scrivette · 11/08/2023 10:11

It's never crossed my mind to take them off for anything and I wear them all the time.

DappledThings · 11/08/2023 10:07

Never crossed my mind. I wear mine all the time, swimming in the normal pool and ones on holiday. I didn't know this was a thing people did.

DistantSkye · 11/08/2023 10:06

I generally wear mine everywhere apart from the gym. I did have to take them off this summer because it was so hot my fingers swelled up. Mine doesn't cost as much as a house deposit though 😉

I am totally intrigued by the idea of specifically buying and wearing a fake wedding ring though! Is it that important for everyone to see you're married? A bit like when people get all het up and insist on using the title Mrs?

bellsbuss · 11/08/2023 10:04

Mine never come off